The Last Step (Hopefully)

[bella321]

After being broken up for a year and two months (plus moving to another city), I saw my ex last night. I thought we could have a friendly text flirtation, but that backfired on me when he reluctantly informed me that he was in a serious relationship, even though "I wasn't making it easy". Yes, some tears were shed on the way home, but I had considered myself over him about 4 or 5 months ago. Selfishly, I hate that he's moved on before me, especially when I was the one who was courageous enough to leave a happy, loving relationship because he never wanted to get married or have children. His stance on kids and marriage is the same, so it's not like he's giving "Kristin" something that I wanted, but it still hurts. I don't want him back but I also kind of wanted him to live in regret over what he gave up. (Selfish and immature and bitter, I know) I am hopeful that this is the last step and I have really attained the closure that I needed and can now be open to meeting a new amazing man and really getting everything that I want in a new relationship. Can you share any positive outcomes you've experience after learning that an ex has moved on?

[LE DHUY NHUT]

When you can truly be happy for an ex with no bad feelings toward them and zero expectations from them then you will know you have moved on.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

i think it always stings a little when we discover an ex has moved on, especially our most recent ex...

 

but you should remind yourself that you are looking for marriage and a family, and he is not. it usually best NOT to have a lot of contact in these cases, because you will dwell on what you have given up, not what you have to gain.

 

so you have to REALLY shut the door on that relationship and recognize that it is over, and what he does now is his concern, not yours. the best way to move on is to move forward, and don't keep looking back. so put your efforts into trying to meet new people, and stop contacting him.