My girlfriend has HPV and won't let me finger her

[BoddenProBowler06]

Basically she wants to give me a blowjob but won't let me do anything in return because she has HPV. I want to because I love her and I want her to get off too. She doesn't want to risk me getting the virus in any way. I respect this decision and tell her I will do what she wants, but I also tell her that I'm willing to do it if she wants me to. She tells me she does, but doesn't want to hurt me.

 

She's self-conscious about it too because nobody has done anything with her since her ex gave her the virus two years ago. He didn't tell her and she found out about 2 months later. Plus she thinks I won't want to because of discharge that she gets sometimes. I tell her it's fine, but she doesn't feel it's right.

 

Is it okay for me to try to talk her into doing it, or is it wise just to wait until the risks aren't as bad (if that ever happens)?

[deleted_x]

well, in fingering her, you could just do it on her clit, not in her vagina. and when you do it, have some sort of protection on your fingers - condom, or whatever. that eliminates the risk and allows you to get her off. if all u want is to get her off, then it shouldnt be a problem this way. the clit area is the most sensative area. inside the vagina itself isnt very sensative so it would be unlikely for you to get her off that way anyways.

[tiredofvampires]

It seems like you need some educating on HPV.

 

First of all, there are many different strains of the virus. Some are harmless, some cause cervical cancer. Some are visible, some are not (generally, the kind that causes cervical cancer is invisible to the naked eye). All are forms of the wart virus.

 

Warts do not cause dischange. Just like the warts you have seen on people's hands, they are growths where the virus is. As you know, those do not cause discharge. Neither do genital warts.

 

A discharge suggests a possible bacterial or yeast infection, and is treatable and unrelated to warts.

 

It is also impossible to know from whom you've gotten the virus, unless she was a virgin before the guy who supposedly gave it to her. It is a very easily transmitted virus, so she could have gotten it from any of her partners at any point along the line. There is no hard-and-fast way to prove a particular man gave it to her.

 

How was she diagnosed? Was she biopsied?

 

Does she have visible areas that are affected?

 

Warts can be treated and removed. That doesn't mean they can't come back, but if her doctor has found an area, beit her cervix or her genitals that are affected, she should be getting the area(s) treated.

 

Women don't usually know they have HPV unless something becomes visible, so I am assuming hers is visible.

 

HPV that affects the cervix can go for YEARS lying dormant. HPV that affects the cervix cannot be detected unless a doctor suspects it and orders a special test for viral presense from a pap test (where they scrape some cells off the cervix.) In most cases, unless the virus has caused changes to the cervical cells on a normal, routine pap test, a woman will not even know if she has it.

 

Are you sure you have a definitive diagnosis from a doctor that ran tests, and if so, why hasn't that doctor recommended treatment?

[tiredofvampires]

STD clinics suggest you use dental dams (like saran wrap) over a woman's genitals to go down on her if you are afraid of infectious diseases.

[Atticus90]

If the virus she does have is infact harmful, then i'd avoid any sexual contact with this girl. Dateing her is fine though. unless you think you can't go the rest of your life not haveing sex with her

[ghost69]

If the virus she does have is infact harmful, then i'd avoid any sexual contact with this girl. Dateing her is fine though. unless you think you can't go the rest of your life not haveing sex with her

 

yeah, that would suck. most of the time it's during breakouts that you can't do anything with her. have her explain to you her problem.