Conflicting Emotions

[Yates33]

Do you guys get anxious/impatient when seeing someone new? Like wondering if your doing things right or going to slow or too fast etc? I am a total mess right now with conflicting thoughts like "you should give more attention" ... "no, you're giving too much" or "if you dont she'll go away" or "no, but you'll scare her away"

 

how do you guys deal with this?

[Angel_baby]

Yeah nervousness is natural when you are with someone new that you like. You are wanting to impress them after all!

But being to self conscious can be a turn off. Best to be yourself with her. Ask questions about her to get to now her a bit better. Everyone likes talking about themselves and their life

 

Think of it this way, she is probably just as nervous as you

[Sn0man]

My best advice to you is to let things go with the flow. never rush into anything - im speaking from experience here

[SuperConfused]

I'm with my SO, and still get that feeling everytime we're supposed to be together. It's a 'nice' nervousness and anxiety.

 

Try to enjoy your emotions and not overanalyze things unless your partner or potential partner gives you definite signs that he's not or no longer interested in you.

[lana111]

of course. im big on the too much/too little attention. i want to give them most of my time and affection, but on the other end i dont want to smother anyone and freak them out. then youll never know if they want more or less attention. its crazy. sometimes when my bf would invite me out or with his friends id tell him to just go out with his friends. he'd get insulted and id tell him i was just trying to give him space and i didnt want to be up his butt. he told me that if i was ever "up his butt" he'd let me know ahaha.

[Yates33]

Its like, for example...I called her yesterday and set up a date for next Friday (a week away) and now its like...okay, so now I have to depend on texting and small phone convos for the rest of the week? I mean...I cant just not talk to her for a whole week....things could die down by then.

[Thornbirds18]

Its like, for example...I called her yesterday and set up a date for next Friday (a week away) and now its like...okay, so now I have to depend on texting and small phone convos for the rest of the week? I mean...I cant just not talk to her for a whole week....things could die down by then.

 

I think that texting and small phone convos (e.g. every other day) will work well. Don't worry about things dying down. You can't see the future and worrying itself just adds headaches to you. Be yourself.

[Thornbirds18]

I'm nervous all the time before I went for the first several dates. I tend to talk too much when I'm nervous...maybe some guys were scared away by me.

[ghost69]

you have to come to terms with yourself. you know who you are, you know how you act. worry all the time? no way. be yourself. that's who they want to like you for.