How to overcome feelings for an EX??

[Confusedlove]

I know everyone has had an ex that they still had feelings for down the road. I want to move on away from these feelings and be happy with the person I am with and be with that person forever. I need guidance/help/advice/suggestions of how to move on and away from these feelings once and for all. I was with this person 4 yrs ago and we had been married for about 1.5 yrs. We tried to reconcile 5 different times and it never worked. I am very happy with my current relationship and I need help to overcome these feelings and squash them for good. I already told the ex, no more contact. She wants me back and I think that doesn't help me overcome the feelings. Any ideas????

[BlondGuy]

I know everyone has had an ex that they still had feelings for down the road. I want to move on away from these feelings and be happy with the person I am with and be with that person forever. I need guidance/help/advice/suggestions of how to move on and away from these feelings once and for all. I was with this person 4 yrs ago and we had been married for about 1.5 yrs. We tried to reconcile 5 different times and it never worked. I am very happy with my current relationship and I need help to overcome these feelings and squash them for good. I already told the ex, no more contact. She wants me back and I think that doesn't help me overcome the feelings. Any ideas????

 

 

 

Did you meet your current girlfriend soon after your breakup/divorce with your ex wife? If so, I hate to say you may never have the closure that you really need. You may always feel like you have unresolved issues to deal with. Other than that it will take time. Eventually you will get over her.

[Confusedlove]

It was about 1 year after the divorce (actually a little more than that) before I started pursuing my girlfriend. I don't want to make a stupid mistake and leave her to test my feelings with my ex. A lot of people tell me that the past is the past for a reason. I try to remind myself of the bad times and the fact we tried so many times. Then something tells me, well I am a little older now and more wiser. But at the same time, that doesn't mean it would work. I guess I just need help overcoming because I love my girlfriend and want to be with her. Is it true that it is best to have NO CONTACT with the ex when there is still feelings on both ends? Should my girlfriend & I seek counseling to help overcome this?

[Gratsy]

In this situation, I'd break it off with both of them and separate myself for a while until I could cooly come up with a good conclusive decision.