jak34232002 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Ok, girl and I dated for about 5 months last summer. I had to move because of work. We kept in touch consistently but agreed to be friends and date again if I ever moved back. She is miserable in town she is and wants to move back home. We saw each other over Thanksgiving and had a great evening together...nothing heavy, just fun. Expressed to her then that I didn't want her to leave (as I would come back to her). She wants to move back home but is still hesitating because she doesn't know if that will truly bring her happiness. She asks me why I want her to stay, and I say because I don't want to lose her. We haven't talked really since after Thanksgiving. She sent me a light, friendly email just before she left to go home for holidays....this is what I wrote back to her: Sounds cool. Your sports team is looking good and seems like a great year for Arizona sports...enjoy it. That is so awesome about your class being done. Nice work. I bet you are glad to have all of that finished. I'm sure you will give an amazing presentation. One of my best friends was here all week visiting, just left this weekend so just taking the time now to catch up on emails and work stuff. We had a great time and tore up the town! We hit all the sights, camped, hiked, and did some partying. Great time all around. Anyway, I was hoping to speak with you after Thanksgiving in order to follow up on our conversation at dinner, but it's cool. I know we are both not big phone people and plus, I know you like your space. I had fun with you, and I wanted to see you mainly because I wanted to be sure that I still felt something for you, and I needed to be with you in person in order to determine that. I have missed you Bridget, very much in fact, and I knew the moment that I saw you at your place that what I felt for you was real and true. I care about you, and with that care I know that, at least for me, it has the potential to grow into more. I love San Antonio and always have since my first visit, but I would cut my time short here in order to pursue something with you and I. I fully realize we are just friends right now. I would be willing to take a chance and commit to us because I do feel that there is the potential for something awesome to happen. I do miss my hometown, but, for me, that can wait. My home will always be there for me and my family is not going anywhere and they will always support me. If that meant leaving San Antonio in March to be closer to you in Dallas, then I would do that. I'm not stating that we would have to spaz out and live together right away or anything drastic, but simply just be close enough to each other so we could focus on building the relationship between you and I, one step at a time. I realize that you really dislike Dallas, and I'm not that crazy about it either, but perhaps if we were close to each other we could make the best of it and then go from there. If we were living there, and if things did work out between us and we continued moving forward with our relationship, then of course I would be open to the conversation of leaving and moving somewhere else. I realize we both have needs and goals in life, and if we were at a serious level in our relationship, then you have to know Bridget that I would always be sensitive towards what is important to you in your life (and I would hope you would do the same for me), and if that meant making a big move together then I would at least consider everything and remain open-minded. If that meant we sat down and had a serious conversation about moving somewhere else in Texas, Arizona, San Antonio or New Mexico, then yes, I would stay very open minded about that and consider everything. I would never be so selfish as to not stay open to what was truly important to you, and I would hope that you would reciprocate that feeling. I refuse to bring annoying drama into our lives and I want to keep things cool. You know I am pretty laid back about things, but it's important for me to express these thoughts and feelings to you. It's like I can't keep them inside and ultimately they have to rest with you. And I want you to know that it is cool Bridget. I don't expect you to drop everything and say, hey, let's do this, because in the end, for me, one of the biggest pieces in all of this is your happiness. I know that you feel that you will be happier in Arizona, and honestly I won't stand in that way of that. We created something good together when me met in March, and I want to keep it good. I feel that all relationships, including friendships are very delicate, and it is important to be upfront and honest and it is important to establish a strong foundation of trust. You are a very special lady in my life, and I will be there for you, Bridget, if you ever need me. We both came to Texas 8 years ago, and now here we are, both on the cusp of returning back to our homes. It's been an amazing adventure for me, and there is so much that I am grateful for. I learned so much about myself, made so many new friends and had so many incredible experiences. And as you take the time to reflect on your adventures in Texas when you return home, I want you to know that you met someone who you can always trust and rely on...forever. I will be there for you if you need me, and I will never let you fall. I know life can be confusing and difficult at times, and if that moment ever takes hold of you when you feel like you can't be strong, then please Bridget, let me be strong for you. That is something I will give you forever, and you have to know that wherever you go in this world there is a guy out there who you can trust and that will never turn you away. I will never judge you or force you into anything, and always know that if you need my support I will give that you, every time. Remember that time after the big horse races when you were sad, and I insisted that you not drive home and come to my place? I remember when you walked in, and you looked so pretty with your flower dress on, and all I wanted to do was take care of you and protect you. I remember I gave you a big hug, and when I hugged you I felt something inside of myself move deeper with you, and yes my connection to you grew stronger in that very moment. That was one of the purest moments I ever felt with you. I think that sometimes moments like those aren't all so tangible and sayable as people would usually have us believe; I believe most strong experiences in life are unsayable, as they happen in that moment that no word has ever entered. And I share this memory with you because I want you to remember that if a moment like that ever takes hold of you again, you have to know that you can find me, and I will always open my door and my heart to you and be strong for you in every way. So, it is Christmas, my favorite time of the year, and with that my gift to you is simple. I can't go to the mall and buy it, and I can't wrap it up and put a ribbon on it, but I think if you're are still and just quiet enough you can feel it in your heart, and with that feeling know that I will always stand up for you no matter where you are in this world, and you found someone who's support is always there if you ever need it. I ask for nothing in return from you Bridget, as it is enough for me to know that what I feel for you rests and stays with you. That is where it belongs, and I realize that just as gently as those feelings came into my heart for you, it is just as gently that I have to let them go. I understand this, and no matter what happens between us, I will always be able to make my peace with what I have felt for you. It is cool with you and I Bridget. I would be ready to move forward with you, open up more to you, and keep building with you, but remaining friends is just fine. I understand. I will never chase you or force you into anything. I won't hammer you with phone calls and don't worry, I promise I won't show up at your door with a fake mustache on and make you eat Cheeto soup! (inside joke) I know you think I have a weird sense of humor, but I really just like to have fun, it's just who I am and I will never deny that nor deny what I feel; there's a time to joke around and there's a time to be serious, and I realize this, and I have always had fun with you. I think you are so amazing….from your laugh that captured me when I first met you in Houston, to your pretty hands to the way that you express yourself, I have enjoyed it all so much. After knowing you now for almost 9 months, I can honestly say that you are beautiful to me in so many ways. You looked so pretty when I saw you last month, and it was enough for me to just take you out and spend that evening with you. I had a chance to laugh with you and share that night with you, and to kiss your hand at the end of the evening was more than enough for me. I respect you very much and I will always treat you like the lady that you are. I might not come over and pick you up on an Italian motorcycle, but I can guarantee that I'll take you out, buy you a drink and we'll laugh, eat some macaroni and cheese, and kick some ass together. And I won't and cannot stand in the way of what you believe will bring you happiness. If your heart lies in Arizona and you need to be there, then I understand, and I want you to go and never look back. I want you to be smiling and if we ever lost touch, you have to know that I will always wish that you are happy, and I will always hope that someday you can dance in the twilight of this life. You do deserve the best, and in the end, I just know you will find it. Well, I can't wait to get home for Christmas! My friends from high school and college are having a big party for me on the 26th and it should be a blast. We are spending Christmas at my sister's in the city and I can't wait to see my nieces. It should be another magical white Christmas in the city, and I'm really looking forward to spending the time with my parents and sisters. I hope that you have so much fun in Arizona, and I'm sure you will enjoy the time with your family and friends. Your hometown sounds amazing from what you described to me, and I can only imagine how the city and landscape look at Christmas time. I've always been so curious about Arizona, and maybe one day we'll be able to connect again and you can show me where you're from, but I think the coolest thing ever would be you showing me what a Diamondbacks (she's a huge d-backs fan) is all about. Now that would be fun. Take care Bridget, and always remember that you're never alone in this world, I would never let you fall, and if you ever need someone to reach out to, I'll be there. I promise. Time to run. Merry Christmas. Be safe. What do you guys think? Appropiate? Tried to remain as calm and confident as I could. Tried not to go overboard, just told the truth. Let me know.
dantes Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Wow. very well written. I think it sounds perfect and to the point. Lets her know how you feel without going over the top.
Jeen Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 What do you guys think? Appropiate? Tried to remain as calm and confident as I could. Tried not to go overboard, just told the truth. Let me know. You get a 100 % for this letter, it is really good and I do think she will love it, I would love to hear her reply on your email. I hope it is positive.
jak34232002 Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 Thanks for the feedback Jeen. I really appreciate it. I will let you know if anything happens.
Jeen Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Thanks for the feedback Jeen. I really appreciate it. I will let you know if anything happens. You better for I really loved your letter.
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