would you feel resentment if you were in my situation

[sparkly]

i liked this guy i worked with for ages.and he flirted with me constantly and said stuff about me and him having sex and how i was special and someone would be lucky to have me someday. and how he was only worried about my happiness. then he decides to leave and says we'll see eachother again through mutual friends.i am feeling resentment. like he led me on.i feel this was his way of saying goodbye and lessening the blow. what do you think?

[rootcause43]

did you all ever become intimate or was this just only talk?

 

If it was just talk then I wouldn't be resentful.

[beauty21]

Well when he was saying someone would be lucky, since he didn't say it about his self then it's fair to say that he didn't feel the same about you as you did about him. You liked him for a ages and he flirted with you. Maybe the attention flattered him.

[wiser]

Some guys just like to flirt and enjoy the attention they get from the women they are flirting with. They may have no intentions of taking it further, but they enjoy the interaction. The problem happens when the woman thinks its something more than it is.

 

I'm the exact same way as the guy in your post. Although most of my "flirting" is online, with women I talk to on the forums, and through "cybering" on IM. To me, it's a game (although 3x it started to get much more serious). To most of these women, it's an opportunity to something more.

[ghost69]

he recognizes you as a great person. doesn't mean he wants you. why not find out through mutual friends. maybe form up a group to hang out.

[someguy88]

Is it possible that you didn't give him clear enough signals that you were interested in him?

 

I'm a really flirtatious guy and I can be very explicit when I flirt. The thing is, if I'm going to be x-rated then I have to say things in such a way that she can't tell if I'm joking or serious...that's the fun of flirting. However, sometimes I can't tell if they're joking or if they're serious when they flirt with me so sometimes things don't go beyond flirting and we end up stuck in a stalemate where neither person knows what the other really feels.

 

Maybe you and this guy got stuck in a stalemate?

[Gratsy]

He might think that you have a lot of great qualities but he doesn't want something romantic for some reason-- maybe he's not ready, etc. I had this happen. I could be resentful but I was more hurt than anything. Sometimes people play games with your heart and there isn't much you can do about it except choose to move on and heal as fast as is possible for you.

[Dating Coach]

i liked this guy i worked with for ages.and he flirted with me constantly and said stuff about me and him having sex and how i was special and someone would be lucky to have me someday. and how he was only worried about my happiness. then he decides to leave and says we'll see eachother again through mutual friends.i am feeling resentment. like he led me on.i feel this was his way of saying goodbye and lessening the blow. what do you think?

 

Not much infor here but my guess based upon what you posted is that he probably did like you but was unsure to make an overt move on you. Just a guess until I read more info.

 

As someguy88 said.

[cpc28655]

It sounds like harmless flirtation. However, it also sounds like he doesn't know when to quit. Try not to be resentful. In the end, it will only hurt you.