Can I trust them???

[Fruitfull1]

Here's the scenario...

 

I have 2 homegirls of mine that have been in a HUGE fight with eachother because one of them...I'll call her (Sandy) got involved with an EX B/F of our other friend...lets call her (Patricia). Now Sandy was approached by Patricia's ex bf of 4 yrs ago asking her to hook him back up with Patricia. Well while Sandy was supposed to be hooking Patricia and her EX back up with eachother, some where along the lines Sandy and Patricia's Ex started to get feelings for eachother. All the while Sandy was telling Patricia how her ex has changed and how much he wants to be with her, Sandy and the EX began sleeping with eachother. Sandy ended up pregnant by Patricia's ex. What adds insult to injury is that Patricia was in love with her EX while they were in the relationship 4 years ago and the break up was hard on her but she got over it. While Sandy KNEW all the background info on Patricia's relationship with her now EX BF, she felt guilty and decided to tell Patricia what had developed between her (Sandy) and the EX BF.

 

Here's the 2nd part...Sandy feels like Patricia can't be mad at her for getting involved with the EX BF because she (Patricia) herself has done far worse things to *other* female friends in our circle. Like sleepin with one of our homegirl's current BF a few months ago.

 

Here's my concern:

 

My BF is VERY attractive (Athletic basketball player type, light skin, green eyes) and he has cheated on me in the past. I forgave him and we moved on and I now trust him for the most part. He is not who I am concerned about. Because I know this info about my 2 homegirls, my question is.........

 

Can I trust them around my man?

 

Would I be WRONG to stop inviting them over my house and on group dates even though the problem is between Sandy, Patricia and her EX?

 

Somewhere in the back of my mind I feel like somethin may have happened between my friend Sandy and my BF but I'm not sure so I don't really think about it too much. HELP ME!!! PLEASE!

[3boys]

I wouldn't, but it sounds like you don't really trust your man to be around them, either. I've found when people say "I trust you, I don't trust them" they really don't trust anyone involved.

[havefaith]

I think the question you should be asking yourself is, what reason have they given me TO trust them?

 

You have about 100 reasons to NOT trust them. I have a feeling you would be hard pressed to come up with one thing that makes them worthy of your trust. You don't need enemies when you have "Friends" like this...

 

To me the answer is pretty simple!

[flower99]

because she (Patricia) herself has done far worse things to *other* female friends in our circle. Like sleepin with one of our homegirl's current BF a few months ago.

 

 

Sandy I wouldn't think as much of because that was an ex bf. still not cool of her to do...BUT Patricia is sleeping with friends current bf. To me that is a screaming warning sign of what she is capable of doing. What makes you think she wouldn't sleep with yours if the oppurtunity arose?

 

To me, neither of these girls appear to make good friends & have shown that they can't be trusted. And personally I wouldn't be friends with someone I couldn't trust.

[LifesontheUp]

I think the question I would be asking is why am I hanging around with such untrustworthy people. I choose my friends....ones I can trust and they in turn trust me.

 

Sorry but these to me are not friends they have shown themselves to be untrustworthy people. I think you know the answer to your question, after all they've already shown what they are capable of.

[Fruitfull1]

WOW...KARMA is a MUTHA...lol! Serious business...but Sandy just called me to inform me that the EX is now cheating on HER with ANOTHER homegirl of hers...I don't know her, so lets call her Maria.....DAMN! This is a SAGA forreal! I think I get the point u all are trying to make. I really shouldn't associate myself with any of these girls....they may try to sleep with my man....thats not a good thought to carry around in my head. It hurts just to think about it happening. The possibility alone is scary.

[ebizdiva]

Wow the first thing that came to my mind was with friends like these who needs enemies?

 

It sounds to me that both of them are selfish. They want what they want and they don't care who they hurt in the process. As for if you should continue to be friends with them I would especially if we had been friends for a long time BUT I would not allow them allow with my man and if my man and I broke up I d**n sure wouldn't ask either one of them to help me get him back!

 

I would also probably not be as close friends with them as I might have been in the past. I agree with the previous posters. They simply don't seem that trustworthy to me and remember birds of a feather flock together and we are judged by the company we keep.

 

Just my $0.02.

 

Sharifah