Just need some advice

[DocHoliday]

I haven't logged on to this site in a while, but now I need a little help from an outside perspective since I have already gotton my friends views on it.

 

Lately I have been feeling really down and depressed. My life is so jam packed that I have no time to breathe at all. I wake up in the morning at 5:30 to be at school by 6:30. I'm at school from 6:30am to 12:45pm. After that I drive home and get home at about 1:15-1:30. Then I throw a shirt on, pack a lunch and am out the door by 2:00. My job is about an hour away in a different town. I clock in at 3:00 and I am there till about 11:00pm. I work on heavy equipment as an AC mechanic. Then I drive home another hour and don't get into bed till about midnight. Then I fall asleep about 15 mins later because I am thinking about everything. Then I get up and do it all over again. I'm only 19 years old and I have never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, yada, yada. You guys hear this every day. I just don't know what to do because I don't have time at all to possibly go out on dates, or get a girlfriend. When the weekends come, I head over to my best friends apartment and me him and his wife all hang out all weekend. Me and him are close, and so are me and his wife. They are like my sanctuary. I can't stand sitting at my house. I have no time really for a hobby. I have so much stuff I want to do, but no time to do it. I feel like I am missing out on the most important stuff in life. Like relationships, girls, etc. My carrer is underway and I'm only 19. I got a good job making good money. But I don't care about money. Its just a materialistic thing. I spent almost all my money on christmas gifts for everyone I know, because I don't have anytime to get things I want. And I'm not really worried about it either because its just money. I want the emotional things in life. I am really lost...

 

I know you guys are just gonna tell me to stick it out, and get another job. But thats just it, I don't know if its gonna change when I do get out of school, which is by the way in January. I have no self confidence. I hate the way I look. I have no self esteem. I am shy around girls I don't know, ETC. But I am not a dirty old mechanic. If you saw me on the street, you would think I was a normal college kid.

 

Well I gotta get to work, so maybe you guys will have some advice when I get home tonight. Thanks

 

Doc

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi Doc, and welcome back,

 

Well, you are doing important things, one day you won't be so busy, (maybe you will be depressed because you are bored) and you will have more time to invest in romance.

 

For now, I might spend a bit less time at my friends, (just a bit less) and make it a point to go out or ask a girl out, oh, once every two weeks or whatever you can squeeze in...

 

At least you will be doing something, being proactive in that part of your life.

 

Jeff

[Lionel Hutz]

If you save money constantly ans consistently you will slowly be able to get out of this cycle. I know exactly how you feel. last year I was full time school full time work. You will learn that when you have free time you may not know what to do with yourself. Be glad that your are 19 and not 49. Oh yeah and plan a vacation!