I don't know what to do. Confused signs

[sk8tergrl]

Hey I haven't been on here in a while but i thought i'd ask for advice.

 

Well heres the situtation. Theres this girl at school and shes one grade below me (I'm a senior). I never really noticed her until my friend mentioned that she tried to hook up with her. Then I ran into her at a football game, we talked mostly about football. But she asked for my number and with in 5 mins of leaving the game she txted me say hey. Now we txt all the time. She is always asking for me to make a nickname up for her. She wants to give me hugging lessons even tho i don't suck at hugging. When we hang out she wants to drink i don't know why. I rarely drink myself. And if I'm wearing not matching clothes she say i look 'snazzy'. When we hangout she txts me even if i'm sitting right next to her.

I told her I like her. She said that sweet don't worry changes nothing between us. Which is good i guess.

But she has a boyfriend now. They don't seem like they will last very long.

I'm worried about this friday because she wants me to stay the night at her house. I don't what to do or expect.

Any advice?

Thanks sorry about the long story

[lukeb]

Its not a long story, there really isn't much of a reason to believe your friend is gay, a bit odd maybe. If you want to go to her house then go, but I wouldn't expect much more than just a regular sleep-over. If there is more and it is what you want too, then go for it I guess?

[definitely_maybe]

If there is more and it is what you want too, then go for it I guess?

 

If the girl is going out with a guy at this time, i would not suggest making her a cheater.

[sk8tergrl]

Yeah thats what i was thinking but they are about to break up tho or seems like it

[tomo]

I would be asking your friend about her ask if she come onto her?Ithink this girl could be bi,hugging lessons come on, thats her way of getting up close an personal with you,nickname,comments on clothing sleep over, all personal things,I RECKON SHE IS INTO YOU are you attracted to women? I think you need to talk to her. an be friends first.

[sk8tergrl]

Well She did come on to my friend.

I do like her.

I'm her friend and she bought me a christmas gift. which was sweet.

I've noticed that I catch her staring at me alot.

Well I went to the sleep over and she made sure I slept next to her. haha

Funny thing is we read our horoscopes and i'm a libra and shes aquaries( sorry I spelt that wrong) my horoscope said i was most compatable with aquaries. haha she got really excited about that.

I think shes into me but maybe shes afraid to tell me.

Any help on how to let her know she can tell me?

[tomo]

She brought you a christmas gift ahh thats cute,next time you notice her stareing at you,stare back an check her out.If you want to get close to her ask her to give you the hugging lessons an talk to her about how she feels about[gays bi lesbains] durning your hugging lessons,just a thought or just ask her straight out or ask her out just the two of you spend time together an go from there you will know when the time is right. good luck.

[Jinx]

It is hard to pin down exactly what the mixed behavior is about. From desiring close contact to sounding like a rather nonchalant response to your statement of liking her and just making a comment to it being sweet and changes nothing.

 

She could very well be bisexual or bi-curious, that would be my assumption if it is indeed the truth that she was interested in your friend.

 

As for the boyfriend, I can't say too much, I wouldn't condone cheating and if she does make any further advances I'd put my foot down on that matter.

 

But back to the boyfriend matter on another level, that really as you know, isn't a real sure indicator of her orientation. Most of the lesbians I know, myself included, had our periods of dating men before realizing that lying and living a different life wasn't cutting it.

 

I believe, like others have suggested as well, it may be best to just gradually open a neutral conversation of a GLBT nature. You can talk about a movie with a gay theme, Pride celebrations, school organizations, etc... Just about anything in that regard can be used as a casual opener when put into common conversation.

 

I don't know as though bringing up relationships would work in this case, not knowing the woman, I can't give a good estimate as to whether she'd be the kind to be entirely open if she has indeed been in relationships with women, or it would as sometimes happens, backfire and she goes into a shell about everything.

 

She may be interested in you, is working on friendship first, or only, is afraid of your response and testing boundaries, or is just a touchy straight woman.

 

If you're concerned about her response, I wouldn't do anything too bold (but that is just me then again) and just ease in by letting her know you're an open minded person, and perhaps, more about yourself. Making open communication comfortable would be first priority to get an honest outlook on matters.

[sk8tergrl]

thanks

Yeah I've been gone for a whole week so i barely got back to day from rocky point. She seemed very excited i was back. I'll have to talk to her