AngryHeart Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 OK OK, I'm dwelling on this whole thing too much I realise. But it's hard when you still love someone! I thought I would make a list of things to do instead of contacting your ex. For all the hurting NCers out there. I hope it may help a little, give you ideas, and bring some laughter! 1 Post on ENA!! (DUH) 2 Post on another forum 3 Visit a happy site such as link removed ...some fun stuff on there to do! 4 Read some jokes...or make up your own 5 Vist link removed (maybe nota ctually use the ideas..but hey you can read them and have a good chuckle imagening it. I sure did.) 6 Build your own forum or website 7 Read a good long book 8 Write a story - maybe a fantasy story about getting revenge! 9 Write a poem 10 Write in a journal 11 Write a letter/email to your ex, getting EVERYTHING off your chest. Just DONNOT send it!!! It will make you feel better to get it off of your chest. 12 Have an imagenary convo with your ex.......to yourself..... 13 Punch a pillow to let out your frustration and anger 14 Talk to your pets about how you feel...hey, they won't judge you and tell you to "shut up and move on already"! 15 Cuddle and talk to a stuffed animal...same reasoning applies 16 Pretend your a kid again and play with some action figures! 17 Put on some HAPPY music that will lift your spirits 18 Or put on some angry music you can yell along to 19 Make up a stupid dance routine, pratice it in the mirror, until you fall to the ground in laughter 20 Strip down to your underwear, put on some cool shades, grab a broom and use it as your guitar. Pretend you are on stage and you are your favourite rockstar. 21 Look in the mirror and make silly faces at yourself 22 Look in the mirror and practive your best Elvis impression...hey, why not? 23 Play a board/computer/video game 24 Watch a ridicolous TV show (such as Jerry Springer, and chant "Steve Steve Steve" 25 Watch a movie (preferbly a comedy) 26 Imagine you are a millionaire - fantasise about what you would do with the money 27 Daydream about your favourite celeb - marrying them, kissing them, making love to them - whatever!! 28 Look at old photos (But NOOOOTTT of your ex!!!!) 29 Babysit 30 Walk a dog 31 Wash your car (or offer to wash sombody else's) 32 Tidy your house top to bottom! (very lame, but it will take up a lot of time and won't cause heartache!) 33 Go for a drive 34 Go for a cycle 35 Get together with your family and friends for a pic nic or a BBQ 36 Bake me some cookies! 37 Cook yourself your favourite mean. Or a friend/family member their fave 38 Jump up and down ont he spot (why ever not?) 39 Time how long it takes you to go through the alphabet 40 GET YOUR BODY MOVING AND EXERCISE! It's a natural anti-depressant 41 Take a long bath/shower and RELAX 42 Meditate 43 Mas..............ate 44 Call or text a friend (if it is a mutual friend avoid talk of your ex if you can) 45 Invite a friend round to eat a tub of Ben & Jerry's while you complain about the opposite sex (a favourite amongst many femals especially!) 46 Remind yourself WHY you are doing NC and write it down.When you get the urge to break it - read it over and over until you have convinced yourself 47 Write down a list of why your ex is lame! 48 Write down a list of why you are awesome! 49 Go out shopping and treat yourself to some new clothes/shoes/haircut 50 Get all dressed up and feel great about yourself 51 Put on make-up ... or help somebody else with theirs 52 Get a friend round, buy some face-paint and have a load of fun! 53 Draw a comedy picture of your ex...make it as funny and insulting as you can 54 Tickle yourself until you laugh 55 Dress up ad a woman/man (it may prove amusing!) 56 Repeat "she sells seashells on the sea shore" as quickly as you can 57 Walk down the street with your head held high, smile at people and say "hi!" no matter how bad you feel. It will soon make you feel better, and it may well brighten up somebody else's day also 58 Give to charity/a homless person 59 Remind yourself that there are people in this world who are going through a MUCH harder time than you, and at least your situation WILL pass. 60 Make a list of 10 (realistic) things you want to do before you die, and DO THEM. Or at least start to 61 Go out and get wasted! (but not so wasted that you call your ex...tut.) 62 Dream up your perfect man/woman. No that's not your ex...your perfect partner wouldn't leave you!! 63 Give somebody a compliment, it will make you feel good, and them also of course 64 Plant some flowers 65 Raid your fridge and pig out! 66 Go to a public place, watch the people around you, and wonder what thier life is like and what they are thinking 67 Take a nap 68 Burn something (but be safe of course) 69 If you have children...take them somewhere magical that they, or you will never forget 70 Play, or learn to play, a musical instrument 71 Take up a new sport 72 Dye your hair or get highlights! 73 Pretned you are your own best friend and give yourself a prep talk 74 Make up a puppet show and show somebody! (esp. good if you have kids in the family ) 78 Skip with a rope - great exersise 79 Flip a coin - heads you don't contact your ex - tails you don't contact your ex 80 Make up a comedy nursery rhyme/christmas carol...make it naughty!! 81 Paint a room 82 Rearrange your furnature (esp. good if you and your ex lived together...you are making a fresh start) 83 Write out a script to a play, and act it out...with yourself and the mirror!! 84 Play air guitar while jumping up-and-down on your bed and headbanging 85 Go on a date! But only if you're sure you are ready. Hey, it's just a bit of fun you don't have to marry the person! 86 Get out and FLIRT!! 87Get a colouring book and...well...colour 88 Learn a new language...or at least some words/phrases 89 Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are going to be okay. over and over again until you mean it! Repeat as often as possible. 90 Get a tattoo/peircing. But please not your ex's name! Ha. 91 Sew 92 Knit 93 Make funny noises with your mouth 94 See how many different words you can burp out! (I love doing that lmao) 95 Cry and scream! There's nothing wrong with it. Just make sure you don't do it for too long. Get it over with then do something more productive! 96 Educate yourself on your flaws...look it up and see how you can work on it. eg. jealousy. 97 Lay on your bed and bounce a bouncy ball off your wall. That is so fun. 98 Make a list of things to do instead of contacting your ex 99 Go to a deserted island! 100 Saw off your arms and legs! That should do it. Have fun. Link to comment
Desiderata Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Some of those are so wonderful! I was wondering what #100 was going to be though I hope I never have to go that far! I did think about saying something to him yesterday but I'm really happy I didn't! It was just a bad day and I'm feeling better, but reading this list made me laugh. Link to comment
AngryHeart Posted December 17, 2007 Author Share Posted December 17, 2007 I'm glad it made you laugh. I am struggling today with NC,that is why I made this list and to make others laugh. I'm going to be trying some of the list out for sure! Link to comment
yellow_sweater Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Adorable. Thanks for typing it out. Here are my personal favorites that I do all the time... some of them are the same as yours: 1. Call your mother. Really, she'll love to hear from you. 2. Call your sister. Really, she'll love it that her big sister is paying attention to her. 3. Call your elderly relative. REALLY, they'll be thrilled that someone from the younger generation values them. 4. Better still, visit an elderly relative. They have an invaluable perspective on what's really important in life. 5. Knit or crochet 6. Search the internet for bands that you've never heard of but might like; listen to samples of their music 7. Bake treats for your co-workers and neighbors 8. Lift weights 9. Go hiking 10. Go kayaking 11. Go rock climbing 12. Rent a movie 13. Have some friends over your house to play a board game 14. Get dressed up and go out to dinner with your girlfriends 15. Visit a museum 16. Write in your journal 17. Handwrite a letter to an old friend 18. Find a blog on a subject that interests you; subscribe to it 19. Wander around the local library 20. Write out a list of all of the reasons why you're better off without your ex 21. Write out a list of the characteristics you'll look for in your next partner (build on what you've learned from your past relationships) 22. Garden 23. Search for new recipes that you'd like to try 24. Post an ad on craigslist in the platonic section for new activity partners (you'd be surprised how many lonely people there are out there!) 25. Sit in a coffee shop with a book on philosophy and people watch 26. If you've got a dog, take him for a walk. If you don't, call a friend with a dog and ask to take the dog for a walk. 27. Do a home spa. Paint your nails, shave your legs, soak in the bath, do a facial, etc. Guys too! Those are just the ones off the top of my head... what about other people? What do you do to make yourself feel better and/ or to keep busy? Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 I think this list is wonderful. Successfully going NC is just all about distracting yourself enough that you dont physically pick up the phone, or get on the comp and email or whatever. Whenever you go and pick up the phone, just think "I could be doing something else at this moment" Maybe think , its OK that I want to ring, I can want to do it as much as I want, thats normal. I am just not going to physically do it. I would start at the top of the list and do each one each time I even thought about calling. Link to comment
moxi_crimefighter Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 this is great and could help alot of ppl! thanks Link to comment
AngryHeart Posted December 17, 2007 Author Share Posted December 17, 2007 Nice one I think it's a really good idea for people to write out their own list, or take things from mine. There's so many things we can all do...no matter how little. We know the feeling of desperation will pass. Sure it'll be back again, but it doesn't last all day and night. As long as you are doing something, even if it is just posting on here, that urge will go away. lol, my personal favourite is: Flip a coin - heads you don't contact your ex - tails you don't contact your ex I cracked myself up I have to admit Thanks for the replies people. Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Angry Heart, is this copyrighted because I just printed it out so I have it on hand LOL Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 This post is truly sweet and entertaining. Great suggestions. Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 27. Do a home spa. Paint your nails, shave your legs, soak in the bath, do a facial, etc. Guys too! Yeah Changing teams would really take your mind off it!!!! LOL Link to comment
yellow_sweater Posted December 17, 2007 Share Posted December 17, 2007 Yeah Changing teams would really take your mind off it!!!! LOL Ok, then, for the guys: Take a long hot shower, take your time shaving, style your hair differently, trim your nails and use a nail brush, etc. Better? Flip a coin - heads you don't contact your ex - tails you don't contact your ex Haha... that's my sense of humor, too! YS Link to comment
AngryHeart Posted December 17, 2007 Author Share Posted December 17, 2007 Angry Heart, is this copyrighted because I just printed it out so I have it on hand LOL lol, feel free! It just came off the top of my head. Link to comment
estrella28 Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 OMGGGGG....AngryHeart this put me in the best mood ever!! I especially love #43...I'm better in bed than he ever was! Let me add a few... 1. Start a band! 2. Join a club 3. Take yourself out on a date! 4. Buy yourself brand new fluffy slippers, a robe, and hair curlers, and wear them around the house as you bake or clean. I love feeling domestic. 5. Read self-help books! Watch self-help lectures! 6. Watch cheesy reality TV. 7. Road triiiiip! 8. Watch adventure movies. 9. Sign up on an internet forum that has to do with your interests! 10. volunteer 11. Find a foreign language partner on link removed! You can help them learn English if you don't know any other languages. Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 Wow, what a great list, thanks Angry Heart, Yellow sweater and Etoil too! Jeff . Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 Here's mine... Clean out the garage Play "patty cake". Put your socket set back in order. Get out the fondue maker. Play 52 pickup or solitaire Make pancakes. Get out the old uniform and see if it still fits. Take up accordion lessons from where you left off in grade school. Start a stamp collection. Enter your recipe for relish in the county fair. Take up balloon twisting. Beach comb. Collect a giant ball of string. Learn how to make hand shadows Carpet your closets Write Grandma that letter Get a pet iguana named Herman. Collect dead flies from window sill for Herman. Take in laundry Paint the fence Dig in the sofa for spare change. Put down some new shelf paper, the old stuff is getting sticky. Play living room badminton with the cat and a wadded up napkin. Clean out the leaf gutters. Attend a Swedish film festival. Whittle Jeff Link to comment
twinkle72 Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 Thanks Jeff, you made me laugh and smile!!! *off to play pattycake* Link to comment
estrella28 Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 OMG I want an iguana! Or a rat! Freaking dorm room policies... Link to comment
AngryHeart Posted February 12, 2008 Author Share Posted February 12, 2008 Glad you guys liked this! Link to comment
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