Cross-subcultural dating...?

[Unhumble]

I think this applies only to very young people, as I think that as we mature we quit taking our subcultural identities too seriously.

What I mean is that unless I dress like a heavy metal guy with leather jackets and all black, I'm rarely able to gain the attention of a heavy metal girl

(but anyway, heavy metal girls are very, very picky)

 

What are your comments on this?

 

How do you usually attract somebody who dresses totally differently from you and follows a different subculture (without abandoning yours)?

[renaissancewoman101]

Everybody has something in common. You just have to find it. It may be a song that you like, type of food, dress, etc. Chat up the person, find that thing that you may share, and expound on it.

[Dako]

A good observation, unhumble.

Younger people sometimes seek conformity based on pop-cultural trends, but in time those things seem less important as our interests broaden.

[ghost69]

I think this applies only to very young people, as I think that as we mature we quit taking our subcultural identities too seriously.

What I mean is that unless I dress like a heavy metal guy with leather jackets and all black, I'm rarely able to gain the attention of a heavy metal girl

(but anyway, heavy metal girls are very, very picky)

 

What are your comments on this?

 

How do you usually attract somebody who dresses totally differently from you and follows a different subculture (without abandoning yours)?

 

that is a generalization. a lot of heavy metal girls i've met don't care about much. they aren't picky actually.

 

but why would you want to attract someone that is into completely different things than you are? i dress skater/punk, i don't technically go for girls like that though. if i find a girl attractive, i'll hit her up. regardless of their genre. it will either work out or not.

[Unhumble]

but why would you want to attract someone that is into completely different things than you are? i dress skater/punk, i don't technically go for girls like that though. if i find a girl attractive, i'll hit her up. regardless of their genre. it will either work out or not.

 

For the same reason that you just mentioned

 

But it's often more difficult when they're different (at least in appearance).

I often prefer people who are different than me to people who are like me...

[Myk_]

Don't assign people roles or put them in boxes. At the end of the day they're just the same as you, and you're both equal. talk to them no differently than how you would someone of your own subculture.

[ghost69]

how is it difficult? you either do it or you don't.

[amtjrtcet]

For the same reason that you just mentioned

 

But it's often more difficult when they're different (at least in appearance).

I often prefer people who are different than me to people who are like me...

 

Then you're limiting yourself, but to each their own.

[Unhumble]

Didn't understand any of the above replies.

[mikeyy01]

Well i guess you talk to someone and find something in common

my friend dated a gothic girl and he was football jock so it does happen

[amtjrtcet]

Didn't understand any of the above replies.

 

Sorry, I quoted the wrong post.

[ghost69]

For the same reason that you just mentioned

 

But it's often more difficult when they're different (at least in appearance).

I often prefer people who are different than me to people who are like me...

 

how is it difficult as i asked before? this goes right with your thread.

[Unhumble]

My success rate with girls who seem to have a strong subcultural affiliation and identiy (which I do not have, since I'm pretty diversified by nature...) is pretty low.

 

How it happens... dunno, I probably have to work on myself...?

[ghost69]

you just have to be open. don't limit yourself. you are missing opportunity. i got by looks. there are some sub cultures i refuse to go for though. like too goth, too cowgirl, and some others. i like cowgirls, but not so much wearing boots everyday.