should i tell my best friend how i really feel?

[charmedfire]

hey i just need some advice. I hav a best friend hu is also female. We've been friends for just under 3 yrs, but best friends for 2...we tell each other everything. But for about a month or two i've been starting to realise i hav more than just friendly feelings towards her.

 

I've tried to surpress, and she knows that i'm bi and she thinks i just hav a bit of a thing for her. She says she sometimes has feelings for me too...but i dont think its the same.

 

She claims she isn't at all bi or gay, but she makes out with girls ALL the time, and if she sees me gettin jealous she does it more. We've made-out a few times but only for dares etc. i dont want our friendship to be ruined but its got to the point where i'm getting uncomfortable about hugging her, or watching her in other relationships?

 

what should i do?

 

should i tell her?

 

or see if my feelngs blow over?

 

i dont want to loose what we hav a friends, but i cnt help thinking about something more

 

many thanks

[Kaiyinn Flynn]

It sounds like she's pretty open about this sort of thing, so personally I think you should tell her-- but try to be casual about it. Maybe tease her with something like, "I know you say you're not bi, but you make out with girls all the time... You must like it." See what her reaction is. If she laughs or looks embarrassed, ask her if she'd ever consider being in a relationship with a girl. If she says she might, you could say something like, "The reason I'm asking is because, actually, I really like you a lot." =D

[wiser]

She claims she isn't at all bi or gay, but she makes out with girls ALL the time, and if she sees me gettin jealous she does it more.

 

She makes out with girls all the time, and she does it even more to make you jealous.

 

She is:

 

1) Bi/gay and trying to make you jealous because a) she wants to hurt you or b) she likes you and this is her way of enticing you

 

2) Straight and playing some sort of silly game that serves no purpose

because she is straight and has no interest in doing anything with you.

 

3) Very confused.

 

My money is on #1a. Go for it.