porn vs cell phone picture

[dave1022]

Ill spare the full history for now unless it needs to be told for further advise, but my question is about a couple of picture messages send by cell phone by an aquantanence of my girlfriends. Two of them are pictures of his face and one of his peirced * * * * .. Her defense is my occational porn usage, its nothing like a habbit that takes away from our sex but a few times when she wasnt in the mood, still she has a problem with it... they are two totally different things to me. Thanks very much for any help.

David

[annie24]

welcome to enotalone - i understand why you feel uncomfortable with this. I would too. i think there is a difference between watching porn with nameless strangers, and looking at naked photos of a friend/acquaintance. someone you know in real life, and there exists a possibility of a date/hookup/relationship. you aren't going to meet jenna jameson or ron jeremy in real life (not that you'd want to anyways).

 

it seems like maybe he is trying to come between the two of you? and i think her holding onto the photos makes me wonder if there is something more going on? i don't necessarily buy the argument "a penis is a penis" because that pic she has is of one attached to a guy she knows in real life, and the other is of a random internet stranger....

 

why does she have the pics in the first place?

[Superfreak]

his pierced......penis? eww lol who the heck does that

 

Well you're right that they're not the same. There's a huge difference between someone you know sending you sexually suggestive photo's and porn. So you're right to have a problem with it. This should be a big red flag for you. She's either doing this for two reasons: One is because she's interested in the guy, and two because she's immaturely trying to get back at you. In either case she's not acting as a significant other should act so have a big talk with her to try to resolve these issues and if they can't be resolved, walk away.

[southerngirl]

I would absolutely not stand for it.

 

Its like I have said before, theres a big difference between a porn movie (acting on a screen) and a magazine (a paid model) and porn from someone that one knows up close and personally.

 

Are you sure shes not having an affair?

[Jeen]

If she still have photos of his, the question in my mind is what photos do this guy have of her. And she clinging to these photos only say one thing she is not over him, and would leaf you if they sort there differences.

 

Hope I'm wrong?

[dave1022]

wow thanks for the fast replies. ok Ya shes not cheating, but she is definitely getting back at me. she has them saved on her computer and she sais she didnt ASK for it ,he ask her if she wanted to see his new peircing, she sais she cant help it if hes a decent looking guy, with a big * * * * i might add..

She knows alot of people, she used to be the door girl at a * * * bar here in Dallas called the lodge, this person in the picture is a friend of a friend thats in real estate, you know one of those guys that comes in and sais ill help you make some real money baby.. anyway she was texting the real estate guy to see if he had some work for her and the friend was with him and they text back a few times. they exchanged numbers probably at the club a while back.

 

I could barly contain myself when i came accross this, my knee was shaking even. Id really llike to tell the whole story of our relationship cause it has been a f'in rollercoaster but,, back to the topic, she continues to go on about how its one sided that guys can look at women and sex acts and blah blah but when she has one little sexually thing or whatever, she gets scolded.. She obviously HATES me cause ive watched porn and i like it.. so she hits me with this, when i first brought it up i was casualy and she laghed it off. i almost punched her.

Well thats a little more history, i think i answered ya'lls ?s really appreciate it.

 

One other thing, she hit me with the fact i had some old photos of an ex on my computer.. is that anything??

[dave1022]

For Jeen: this guys in NOT her ex just just one of the countless numbers she has in her phone of aquaintanences, she has only a few friends and has that donald trump mentality, surround yourself around people less than you to feel like a winner!

[Jeen]

For Jeen: this guys in NOT her ex just just one of the countless numbers she has in her phone of aquaintanences, she has only a few friends and has that donald trump mentality, surround yourself around people less than you to feel like a winner!

 

Ok sorry for making the wrong assumptions.

 

A question to you will you mind if she use your computer to look at porn?

[JadedStar]

At first i thought a girlfriend sent her this and it sounded like a giggling girl thing, no biggie. Just curiosity, laughs and an ooh and an ahh. Not that i condone that but wol dbe more understandable.

 

However, you said: she sais she didnt ASK for it ,he ask her if she wanted to see his new peircing, she sais she cant help it if hes a decent looking guy, with a big D*** i might add..

 

That changes the playing field a great deal. That was NOT right. She should have told him NO thanks. Doesn't matter that she didn't ask, she should not have accepted.

 

I'd let her know this sort of thing is a dealbreaker if she continues and that it is NOT the same as porn by random porn stars on the Net. Let her read this thread if it will help.

[dave1022]

Thanks. she would never read this now,.. shed say well i think its the same thing i dont care what they say, just as an argument sake thing, quess she has that much of a problem with porn or is that an insecure/jealous thing. she is very jealous/ competitive when it comes to other scenerios as well.

 

We have actually been broken up for a few weeks now, she is just a disease in me right now and all kinds of stuff eating at me.

We bought a house together in june and ive already moved out, things were getting really bad. it was way too early we had only been together for 2 months when we did this, she was telling me alot of things to make me feel comftorable about the new house obligation, like were we could make extra money, and i went with it.

We met each other in 9th grade.. didnt see each other for ten years and found each other on myspace. i had a crush on her then and so heres my 2nd chance to make it happen. we hit it off great, but there were red flags i ignored,.. she was still actually married (been separated for a year)and still angry how ex put her out with nothing, constantly disatisfied that she will never have her housewife lifestyle back. But she fell in love with me or whatever she did.. i did make her really happy though except for one little area, $$, oh and i have a 9 year old daughter. This was our biggest issue, she was jealous of her and our time, called her a brat alot, but would buy things for her to offset that i guess. She was very selfish with my time and wanted it all for herself, i could tell she didnt want her around. At first it was different we took my daughter and her gf to places and had fun and the kids liked her, but i guess only very occasionally..

I was just finising college at the time and guess we both had high hopes i would get a decent job so on. Things didnt go as planed money got tight and it became a pressure cooker.

 

anyways we still had a relationship till yesterday and i think its finally over.. i pushed her around a few times when things were at thier worst a few months ago and i know she resents me for that, and i pretty much cant live that down, so she soes what she wants to punish me

Alright ill stop thanks for listening..

David

[Miss Firecracker]

I'd like to see that photo. I have a new cell phone with a camera. No one ever sends me anything good.

[JadedStar]

I'd like to see that photo. I have a new cell phone with a camera. No one ever sends me anything good.

 

OMG this made me laugh out loud!

[annie24]

I'd like to see that photo. I have a new cell phone with a camera. No one ever sends me anything good.

 

hahaha. I bought my phone on ebay (used) and the memory wasn't wiped clean. i have a video of a really hot guy in the shower, playing with himself, lol. i presume the video was taken by his gf, as you can see her manicured hands pulling back the shower curtain (i bought a pink phone).

 

i don't watch it so often, but it's good for a laugh. i suppose i might erase it if a bf asked, but i'm single right now so, ha! naked man stays.

[dave1022]

haha id send it to you if i had it, sure youd like it, i could send you mine haha that will make me feel better.

anything esle on what else ive said?

[valiantv]

Well an ex boyfriend's **** is a lot different from porn alright... But maybe you should take her problem with your porn a bit more seriously! In fairness, it could be considered cheating too...