rusty_boi Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 so those of you who read my last post will know that a girls friend approached me at a club last night and told me her friend was interested in me. We got speaking, well she was embaressed because of what her friend did and wasnt too talkative (i asked her if she was ok and she said she was embaressed) and i asked for her number and she gave it to me and i went off with my friends. So i texted her today this "hey hey its james from the fidler last night. what you up to on this action packed sat night? btw have you recovered from bein embaressed haha i duno why you were, i dno why you were i was glad we spoke" No reply at all. that was at 4:00 in the arvo its now 1:00am. Should i send another or is it a lost cause. what should i say if u think to send another.
Sones Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Personally I wouldn't send another, it will just make it look worse, if she got it she got it, and if she didn't she didn't. Sometimes the cost of doing something is more than the cost of doing nothing. This has happened to me once or twice and there normally is a rational explantion of why she hasn't replied, don't let your thoughts and emotions tell you otherwise. Also I think women like it when you give them a bit of space and then they have to chase you.
MrMango Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Yea id let it go for a few days. If you still hear nothing then id try calling once. If you dont get ahold of her or she doesnt get back to you then its a lost cause.
blender Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Yes, let it go, because you didn't really "ask her out" you were friendly and left a nice text. so give her a chance to think about it, wait a few days, and then make a CALL, and ask her out for a movie or something.. because if she was shy enough to be "embarrassed" then maybe she might nervous about what to say back because the "embarrassement" thing brought up too many more times..it might make her feel even more embarrassed.. so she may be more responsive to a guy who is clearly asking her on a date...so wait a few days and then call and ask her out.. because if you like her then it's worth making the effort.. but do so in a classy, confident, kind, and respectful TIME OF DAY, don't text at one AM.. instead call in a few days..
ghost69 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 it's been a few days now. try calling. leave a message. don't say anything about the text you sent.
LE DHUY NHUT Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 In future,when you don't know a girl but you like her and want to date her do not text,IM,or call her the day after you meet her for the first time and worse yet if it's a Saturday night.Let people think you have a life.
CaptainPlanet Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Give her three chances IMO. Prank her number see if she picks up.
CaptainPlanet Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 I mean prank her phone tomorrow at a reasonable time !
LE DHUY NHUT Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 I've also come to appreciate that texting in the early stages of a relationship is cowardly and it's best to call a girl if you want to ask her out.
skyblue1 Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Give her time before calling her or leave it. I know it's hard because i have been in this situation. Just see how it goes, i;'m sure you will get a text back. Good luck
lightn Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Call her and if she does not pick up and let it go. Do not text her or call her anymore.
rich0323 Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 I got the number of a waitress at a restaurant that I ate at. She had mentioned she was new in town and didn't know very many people. My roommate and I were going to throw a party in a week or so and that was the excuse I gave her to get her number. She was happy to give it to me and I then said don't be surprised if I call you sooner and she smiled and said Ok. I texted her that night and never heard anything back from her. I now have learned to be patient and give a couple days when you first get a girls number to try and contact her. I probably scared her away because I called her so soon.
LE DHUY NHUT Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Next time,call her don't text her after some time has passed.I'm actually old enough to remember when there were no cell phones around and we had to call a girl at home.Calling is always better in the early stages.
luxe_13 Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 yeah got to say, a phonecall is always much more appreciated than a text when you are first asking someone out. as the others have said, give it a couple of days then CALL her.she prob doesnt know what to reply cos u didnt actually ask her out.
loveistough Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 I agree with other, wait a few days then call her.
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