Iwantittoend Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 So my girlfriend and I haven't had sex with each other yet. She's waiting until marriage (she's had sex before...just not for two years) and I'm willing to wait for her. But every once and awhile her comments will bother me. I'm a virgin, so she assumes I wouldn't know what I'm doing. Like she'll say that she could make me cum in a few seconds, or I wouldn't be able to handle her and her experience. She tells me that I'm too jumpy so I wouldn't perform well. I can never tell if she's joking or not but it pisses me off. I just tell her that she wouldn't know because we've never done it. I'm also ticklish in certain areas, so she messes with me all the time. She says that she's more manly than me and can handle getting tickled. Or she says that if we ever fought, she could beat me up. She tells me I'm not tough enough. She also laughs when I say I could handle dancing with her. She's one of those grinding type girls, and she doesn't think I could do it because we've never danced together. On her birthday, she said she's going to go out clubbing with her friend...yet she won't invite me. So I guess she's going to be doing that stupid dance on other guys. Which is another thing that pisses me off. All this **** just pisses me off. I could easily defend myself if I had to and I've proven it to people before. If I wanted to, I could go out and bang any girl I wanted but I wait for her. I just wish she'd respect that because her comments aren't funny anymore.
Laura11111 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 You have a right to be pissed off. Her comments are very mean. She sounds very conceited. I wouldn't marry her if I were you. Go find someone who you can share mutual respect with.
Tethys Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Wow, she is leading you on big time, trying to get you all worked up and then saying, "Nope!" That's terrible behavior on her part, and you should let her know that.
rockr Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 how old are you two. she sounds immature and young. for what you said , sounds like she is joking.
rocio Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 sounds annoying, to say the least. how do you respond?
ladyblue07 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Have you told her that it bothers you? If you tell her you do not like it and she still does it, then that is definitely disrespectful and a reason to break up with her.
Iwantittoend Posted December 15, 2007 Author Posted December 15, 2007 how old are you two. she sounds immature and young. for what you said , sounds like she is joking. I'm 19 and she's 18. sounds annoying, to say the least. how do you respond? Early on I just laughed it off and figured she was joking. But now she's starting to say it more and more and I tell her that I don't appreciate it. She gets pissed at me and tells me that I take it too seriously. Then she says the same remarks again. I understand there's a time for humor and I'm fine with that...but I don't find this humorous anymore.
mrmaximum Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I agree with the others, what she is 'joking' about is mean and if you had asked her to stop and she doesn't listen its highly disrespectful. As for the whole dancing part, at her age, I can see her doing the whole grinding thing, it's popular with that age group, however, if she isn't going to do it with you, she shouldn't be doing it period. I also agree that she's conceited, she acts like she is the bomb and you have absolutely no idea whatsoever. Sometimes, not in all cases, but there are some people who haven't had many partners who are still plenty experienced and may even perform on par or better than others who have had more partners. It's about paying attention, I find, and you're right, she has no idea about you because she has no frame of reference. To be honest, my first serious gf had over 10 partners when we met. I can honestly say this without being bitter or biased but the truth is that, looking back, she really wasn't that good. I learned that when I found number two. So miss high and mighty may talk a good game, but may not be anywhere near as good as she thinks. Time for a long sit down and chat with this 'girl' and fix things. If her behavior continues then it's time for her to beat feet and bounce!!
Atticus90 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 No offense man, but you sound a little weak. When the situation starts to turn where the girl starts takeing over the situation in subjects like sex, then you know you got a problem. Get some comebacks and don't take her crap. Step up to the plate brah
shes2smart Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 The lack of respect shown in her comments is amazing. My alcoholic ex seemed to think that he could say disrespectful things and wave them away by laughing and saying "Oh, just kidding....can't you take a joke?" Humor (or alleged humor) does not negate disrespect.
someguy88 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I agree with everyone else here. She's totally disrespecting you.
JadedStar Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 What an annoying sounding person. She wants to wait for marriage yet she is not a virgin? Says she doesn't think you could handle her? I'd tell her she is right and go find someone else. Seriously she sounds like a B***. She sounds like she has zero respect for you and since respect is a huge component of love i'd question her feelings for you.
Killasasparilla Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 The only way to prove her she's wrong is to kick her ass. Not really. Ask her nicely to stop.
ghost69 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 stroke it and put ur cum under her pillow case. that'll teach her. but seriously, those comments are hurtful. you need to explain that isn't funny to her. if she cares she will stop or have sex with you.
beauty21 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Yeah she sounds immature. While she may be joking, clearly it is not funny to you and it is disrepectful. Maybe she wants you to do her that's why she is provoking you.
MELLIES Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 She's very disrespectful towards you, and says things that obviously hurt you. Show her how strong you are and slap her with a break-up. She won't feel so high and mighty after she just got dumped!
RayKay Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 I agree with others, she is being disrespectful...and if you have told her it bothers you and continues to do it, she is not only that but condescending too. Sounds to me she gets off on having some sort of "control" over you in terms of sex, bet she would not do this to someone whom was sexually experienced. She sounds rather manipulative honestly. I would question a relationship where one felt this need to disrespect and control the other as she is. Even if she IS waiting (re-born virgin?) there is no reason she should grind with other men...particularly if she does not dance with you in that manner (I personally would not grind with other men other than my boyfriend period!).
JadedStar Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 A huge pet peeve of mine is people who want to "wait until marriage" but whose actions are nothing even close to chaste. Grinding on men while dancing ?? How does she get that makes her pure? Yeah she is a control freak and very disrespectful. The way she talks to you is ridiculous.
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