Double X Holidaze

[jettison]

Thanksgiving - both of my last two ex's asked me to have dinner with them and their parents. I ended up doing neither. I guess I felt flattered that I was thought about, but I don't really know what's going on in either of their heads. Hung out with one of the ex's TG day. It was fun.

 

Christmas - Taking one of the ex's up on her offer. Actually travelling 300 miles to spend Christmas with my family for two days, and then her family and the ex for two days. Definitely feeling strange about this one. Will stay at the ex's apartment in her new city and also travel with her to the family gathering.

 

I feel like both my ex's are weary of me because they know that the other exists in my life. I guess that makes sense. And I know from a dating perspective, that if I want to have any kind of serious relationship with someone new beyond what I've been doing - everything very casual - that I have to cut all of this off in some way. No one would understand what I'm doing. Hell, I don't even understand what I'm doing.

 

My most recent ex's friends contact me pretty often. Her best friend spent half of today emailing me. I think I have a problem with boundries, and it's probably going to be something that requires some introspection.

 

EDIT: That will teach me to make a post without asking a question...

 

Can anyone else relate to the idea that fraternizing with your ex is sabotaging your future? Because right now, that's how I'm feeling. If I was trying to date someone new, and she told me that she's be spending Christmas with her ex, I'd likely want no part of dating her I think.

[Censored]

Hi Jettison,

 

It's all in your Post. I am not going to repeat what you have already laid out in black and white.

 

I agree with you on your thoughts about introspective and sabotaging your future. Boundaries are self set for your own comfort, at the moment you take comfort in the X factor.

[Weeblie]

Can anyone else relate to the idea that fraternizing with your ex is sabotaging your future? Because right now, that's how I'm feeling. If I was trying to date someone new, and she told me that she's be spending Christmas with her ex, I'd likely want no part of dating her I think.

 

If you were dating someone new, why would you bring that up?

If you want to spend Christmas with your ex. Go ahead. The holidays can be kind of lonely and I don't see any point in spending it alone if you don't have to.

 

Besides a new year is coming up, you can make some resolutions about boundaries and exes then.