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Ampire Apprentice

Ampire

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the journey continued...from love bombs to NC....to....well this...

 

 

soooo....for those who have been following the story the past couple months, or more so the past week I guess since the ex contacted me...this is what happened

 

I met up with the ex last night at her request and my guard was still up! after about 5 minutes along with a hug that tightened my chest to the point where I had to ask her if shes been pushin weights...she tells me she needs me to come back..

 

we talked, she realized she made a mistake, she said she is quitting smoking pot, she is going to go to therapy to help her understand herself, she has realized that she got scared to commit and that the whole idea of us buying a home together freaked her out...she did mention there we other issues aswell, but bottom line is she said she has had her guard up the whole relationship and wants to change that....to make a long story short she wants to get back together, I am taking it slow though, one day at a time, there is no rush and i am def. not moving back in with her for a pretty long time, we are going to have to do some long distance for a while until my trust builds up....but bottom line is that it went well and she wants me back....

 

again thanks to those who have helped and I will still come here obviously cuz this forums awesome and i will keep you posted on my situation and try to help others...

 

for those who want a quick run down of how it happened...this is how it went down from day 1...the big stuff anyway...might give someone some insight or help on how to get someone back, but i wouldnt quote me on anything because its like reading a donald trump book and expecting to use his words to own mass amounts of real estate and be rich as hell...lol

 

-she broke up with me 2 months ago....i did all the mistakes one does after getting their heart ripped out..

-2 weeks later she called me and wanted me to come visit and take her son trick or treating with her, so i did for a few days...

-after 3 days with her i realized there wasnt enough love or effort to make it work from her so i said i couldnt do this anymore...

-i didnt call her on her bday a week later

-sent her a Love bomb Letter (see "Dropping a serious LB" thread) a couple weeks later

- spoke to her on my bday a few days after the letter arrived, the letter had no effect (yet)

-i wrote her an email telling her how i feel, not oh i love you but a you disappoint me email that same day and went on strict NC

-a week and a half later she emailed how are u, i ignored...

-2 days after that i got another pointless email, i replied 3 days later asking her to respect that i want to heal and to not contact me anymore

-she replied with i miss you, we miss you (her and her son)..i ignored

-she called earlier in the week and left a message that she misses me and she wants me to visit and that her son misses me, she called again about 2 hours later

-i called back and said it wasnt a good idea, im not trying to set myself or your son back, but she insisted that i come visit...i said nope you gotta come to me, she did...and the rest of the story is,well at the top of the page...

 

2 quote the great shawn carter....ladies love me long time like 2pacs soul...

 

but like super dave said, the trick is not to get them back, its to get them back for good!

enchiladaman Rookie

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Congrats on the news.

 

Not to be a Debbie Downer here, but I think you owe it to yourself to give this girl PLENTY of space to make sure that the therapy and changes continue before you get yourself emotionally involved again. It is too easy to proclaim change and improvement when you want someone back so badly. But to stick to it through the relationship and not fall back into old traps is where the real dedication and hard work comes.

 

Just be careful. We don't want you ever coming back here in the same state you were in 2 months ago.

CreoUCLA Apprentice

CreoUCLA

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Congrats! Take things slowly, and have patience. Best of luck to you both!

 

I'm meeting with my ex next week (at her request). That should be interesting... But I have no expectations either way.

 

-Mike-

Zorba Contributor

Zorba

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Now that's what I like to see. I had a feeling she would come back. Keeping her is now the trick, but at least you have that opportunity now. Kudos.

emalkoc Contributor

emalkoc

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CONGRATS

 

Identify TOGETHER what went wrong last time, and work on those and write it down somewhere both can read/see. And, watch the progress and talk about it...

 

Cheers to you...

LilBear Enthusiast

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All the best! I love success stories..!

 

My ex called tonight and wanted to talk to me. He asked if we could be friends and can I please don't ignore him. I said 3 years is a long time and I have to think about being just friends. He said his heart has been hurt and he doesn't want to start anything rash. So I simply texted him that I'm sorry and if within the next two months he's interested to get back together he knows where to find me. And that's it.

Ampire Apprentice

Ampire

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Thanks to all!!

 

I will take it slow...it's going to take a while to build my trust back up...if it ever builds back up again, who knows....time will tell....

holden Newbie

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Remember, if you get back together dont ask her to marry u within the first few weeks of the reconciliation, lol...Someone else (who's name i dare not speak) did such a thing, and it went horribly yet hilariously wrong! cheers, LB!

Ampire Apprentice

Ampire

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Remember, if you get back together dont ask her to marry u within the first few weeks of the reconciliation, lol...Someone else (who's name i dare not speak) did such a thing, and it went horribly yet hilariously wrong! cheers, LB!

 

ya right, forget it, she can propose to me!!! haha jks :splat:

lovemeorleaveme00 Newbie

lovemeorleaveme00

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TWO LESS LONELY PEOPLE

 

I was down my dreams were wearing thin

When you're lost where do you begin

My heart always seemed to drift from day to day

Looking for the love than never came my way

 

Then you smiled and I reached out to you

I could tell you were lonely too

One look then it all began for you and me

The moment that we touched I knew that there would be

 

(chorus)

Two less lonely people in the world

And it's gonna be fine

Out of all the people in the world

I just can't believe you're mine

In my life where everything was wrong

Something finally went right

Now there's two less lonely people

In the world tonight

 

Just to think what I might have missed

Looking back how did I exist

I dreamed, still I never thought I'd come this far

But miracles come true, I know 'cause here we are

(repeat chorus)

 

 

 

I KNOW.. I KNOW ..ITS SO CHEESY BUT I JUST REALIZED NOW THAT ITS MORE THAN A

CORNY SONG..IM SO HAPPY FOR THE TWO OF YOU!!!

emalkoc Contributor

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but like super dave said, the trick is not to get them back, its to get them back for good!

 

Ampire, I will be honest with you here.

 

If you love someone very much, you cannot have your guards up!..You have to give 110% and dont look for negatives, always positives, expect good things, good things will come to you.....and listen and talk..

 

At this stage, dont play games...just try hard and see where it goes.

 

Good luck.

 

emalkoc

Ampire Apprentice

Ampire

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but like super dave said, the trick is not to get them back, its to get them back for good!

 

Ampire, I will be honest with you here.

 

If you love someone very much, you cannot have your guards up!..You have to give 110% and dont look for negatives, always positives, expect good things, good things will come to you.....and listen and talk..

 

At this stage, dont play games...just try hard and see where it goes.

 

Good luck.

 

emalkoc

 

 

yesterday we promised one another that the guard will be down 100%...

 

but you are right, look for positives not negatives....i usually dont, she used to, drove me nuts....but im just being a little careful thats all....guard down, but taking it very slow...

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