what are common mind games that guys play?

[mintblossom]

Please tell me. I would like to protect myself better in the future.

[friday]

how long have you got?????

 

I'm female and I'm always at the other end of a mind game

[ftheunion]

Ya, its gratifying sometimes to mess with chicks cause usually they mess with us. Plus it gets them thinking in a normal way and not rediculously complicated yet seemingly shallow way that is so prominant.

[dqueen]

As far as I know, none. It's girls who play mind games. If men end up doing it, it's only as a defensive measure against their mind games to begin with.

 

 

 

I have to disagree. From my experience, both men and women play mind games in relationships. As for "common mind games", what type of mind games are there? Anything is game.

[Atticus90]

Guys and girls may put thereselves down purposly, so you'll boost their ego by saying "oh your cute, sweet, blahblah blah".

 

Guys and girls could purposly cause arguments that have no meaning to them, just to test the "love" in the relationship.

 

Things like that.

[Batya33]

I don't know about "guys." At typical mind game I have seen a person play is, on one of the first dates, referring to all sorts of plans for the future (we'll go dancing, we'll go to Paris) and talking "deeply" about how for him or her love is expressed through sex and that he/she cannot get to know a person really without having sex.

 

One "line" that was used on me many years ago (didn't fall for it) was that I should come to his house on the first date and stay over because he lived too far for me to get home easily after the date, and because "don't you miss those days when we were kids and sleepovers were just fun and innocent" lol.

 

In that conversation, the other person is led to believe that the speaker is "deep" and believes sex is meaningful and thereforeeee assumes that if sex happens, they will be a couple, exclusive, etc.

 

Another game I know of is making the person doing the asking ask several times for a date before the person will say yes instead of "no" or "maybe" even though the person being asked is interested and available.

 

A way to avoid "game players" is to avoid people who are unreliable or inconsistent in words/actions especially in the beginning where they are supposed to be trying to impress you the most.

[NewPhillyGuy]

 

Another game I know of is making the person doing the asking ask several times for a date before the person will say yes instead of "no" or "maybe" even though the person being asked is interested and available.

 

I've had a girl do this to me before. Although I would be courteous enough (always!) to ask for dates 3-4 days in advance, sometimes a week, she would say "let me get back to you" and then I wouldn't get an answer until a day or two before the date. On most occasions, I would eventually get a yes answer, but there were a few when I got a no, which is fine, but I didn't like it when she would tell me 1-2 days before. It's hard to make plans with someone else on such notice.

 

Eventually, I got tired of it (and for other reasons as well, although this did contribute) and dumped the girl. Don't have the time of patience for that.

[ghost69]

we talkin checkers?

 

women mostly play the games. but guys do it too. i don't. i'm pretty straight forward. i speak my mind. you ask a question, i'll tell you my answer whether you like it or not. hey, you asked.

[WTHUWY]

Both men and women play mind games. Its hard to specify, just don't be naive.