Any point/value to a cyber relationship

[Ama U. Claig]

Is there any point/value to a cyber relationship, romantic or otherwise, if the people involved do not meet face to face? Can there really be a romance or friendship with a person with whom you have only chatted?

[Night Pumpkin]

Oh ya !!!

 

I have had a email penpal in Singapore for 5 years now. It has been one of the best and most consistant friendships I have ever had.

 

I did actually get to meet her face to face last year when I was in Singapore passing through to Australia. It was nice seeing her in person.

 

Ya, its well worth it if you find the right person.

[someguy88]

I think there can be real emotional connections made without meeting face to face.

 

For me, there comes a time when chatting isn't enough though. I need to see someone in person time and again.

[JeckyllNHyde]

Good question.

To me: cyber relationship=cyber friendship.

That's what it really is no matter how much you call each other sweet names, and send gift, and talk about the future.

It's a risk b/c say some people start planning the future online, and later find out the "real" persons defects and negative sides (since online mostly the postive aspects come forward) and you wasted that time or put your love life on hold for the cyber relationship.

When you meet and go out, and spend time together and date, being intimate, face to face that's a relationship to me.

 

Cyber relationships where people never meet really are like a way of seeking attention and someone to care for you without even needing to be in a relationship with them or touch them. You just know there is someone "waiting" or caring for you out there. And in return you show concern for them, talk/communcate with them, send gift maybe, listen to them and tell them your problems, etc. Of course after a while you start to develope actual feelings for this person.

[Censored]

Thats why online is fine for all the above reasons. BUT you need to meet them face to face as soon as is humaly possible.

 

Assuming of course you are looking for a relationship of some sort

[jengh]

as far as romantic-relationships go, I don't think so...you really need to be able to be face-to-face to know if it's for real.

friendships, absolutely...I've made lots of good "online" friends...some I've wound up meeting, others i haven't.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

For romantic relationships - yes they do mean something. That something is different for everyone though. And you have to be careful to watch for the signs of dishonesty. If there are any of those, then it is not real. If you don't meet face to face sometime soon, it is not real. All the pretty words, all the promises they make, none of that matters until they actually do it. Actions speak louder than words.

[Censored]

For romantic relationships - yes they do mean something. That something is different for everyone though. And you have to be careful to watch for the signs of dishonesty. If there are any of those, then it is not real. If you don't meet face to face sometime soon, it is not real. All the pretty words, all the promises they make, none of that matters until they actually do it. Actions speak louder than words.

 

Exactly! lalalalala

[Laura11111]

My dad got married to someone he met online. It's been about five years now and they are doing well.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

My dad got married to someone he met online. It's been about five years now and they are doing well.

 

that is awesome! There's no question that you can meet the person of your dreams online, but you have to *meet* them in the flesh before it's real. Any lies and you should be done. period. Good luck!

[Wolf_22]

Yes. There are so many people who get bugged-out by the weirdos, though, which cause issues to arise from the whole "online" thing that it makes the more "normal" types shy away from it (which is why you're here asking that original question).

 

Me, well, I have made a acquaintance / friend from this website actually. Her and I have chatted a couple times (and once, even talked via mic over internet), and while I know for a fact that I will never meet her face-to-face, I know deep down that if things go South between her and I (in terms of friendship), it was worth the effort. I know it was worth it because she's a really nice person who is into some of the things I'm into, which is cool.

 

You have to go into those things in "friend mode". You can't assume that things will pan out straight out of the gate in "relationship mode" because you never know who you're talking to. Lastly, if things DO go South, just stop having anything to do with them.

 

Like someone above said: it all depends on the person you meet. It's like deep sea fishing! You never know what you'll bring up! LOL!

[Zona76]

Of course it happens. We are so involved with the Internet. We share so much more than just emails.

We have feelings. And then... You get smashed with a BUS load! There's no way to explain.

I was not in any hurry to meet the first time. Part of it was lack of availability. But mostly, I was scared of all the 'what ifs.' I wasn't wanting to get hurt. And there he was saying... "If I just wanted to get laid I wouldn't be traveling 1600 miles."