prizmpyxis Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Hi everyone, I posted a few days ago about my noisy neighbors, and how I was forced to call the police on them after they called me a "F****** C***", continued to make noise, and harass me. Tonight, one of them had the audacity after that huge ordeal to play their music loudly again. My father told me that I should just ignore them and go to the library for the remaining week that I am here (I'm moving out of the apartment because of them)...but it was snowing a lot outside and I really didn't want to leave the comfort of my room. I am a college student at a pretty tough school, and I was actually studying for a final when this happened. So basically I went downstairs and knocked on the door. I told them that I already called the cops and that they could use headphones because most are really cheap and only cost 2 dollars. I explained that I don't want anymore problems and that I'm leaving in five-seven days. The thing is, this is all just really emotional for me. I was abused as a child and whenever I have to be mean to someone I get extremely distressed. I feel like I am the one at fault because none of my other roommates have a problem with their music, and even my boyfriend enjoys playing it loudly and is upset that he can't (he ALWAYS uses headphones at night though and only plays it for an hour or so during the day). Everyone is making me feel like an unreasonable and mean person when I've honestly tried so hard to deal with it and have asked them very nicely and politely to lower the music 20-30times during the past 3 months. Am I being unreasonable? Granted we are college students, but the music really bothers me...and am I not entitled to live in a quiet environment? Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 clearly they don't care, so i say you should get a pair of earplugs for the next 5 days and then you'll move out and never see them again. it might help you in the future to have a noise cancelling machine of sorts. i always keep my air purifyer on, and that helps drown out some noise (the guy who lives above me is a guitarist in a local heavy metal band, and he is a night owl!) Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Is that an apartment building or some sort of dorm or something? You aren't unreasonable to want a safe, reasonably quiet home! I agree that it's probably best now to ride this out until you leave. Avoid them, wear earplugs, leave, do whatever you need to. In your next arrangement, you might try a different approach though when someone is loud. Knocking on their door and suggesting headphones, asking them 20-30 times, calling the cops, well, there are other ways to deal with it. Some people this will only egg them on to "get back at you" and that cycle really sucks. It can be so stressful. Best not to get sucked into it. Some people don't care, and it can be tricky getting these things resolved. I hope you feel better soon. And get the quiet you need soon. Link to comment
prizmpyxis Posted December 14, 2007 Author Share Posted December 14, 2007 I actually have a white noise machine, a fan, AND earplugs....and I can still hear it. Kind've says something about how loud their playing it!!! Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Is that an apartment building or some sort of dorm or something? You aren't unreasonable to want a safe, reasonably quiet home! I agree that it's probably best now to ride this out until you leave. Avoid them, wear earplugs, leave, do whatever you need to. In your next arrangement, you might try a different approach though when someone is loud. Knocking on their door and suggesting headphones, asking them 20-30 times, calling the cops, well, there are other ways to deal with it. Some people this will only egg them on to "get back at you" and that cycle really sucks. It can be so stressful. Best not to get sucked into it. Some people don't care, and it can be tricky getting these things resolved. I hope you feel better soon. And get the quiet you need soon. yeah, you can try first to "kill them with kindness." ie - do them a favor, or be really nice when you see them, then after you get to know them for a while, ask them to turn down the music a bit. or, you can invite them to a housewarming party at your place or something. Link to comment
prizmpyxis Posted December 14, 2007 Author Share Posted December 14, 2007 Is that an apartment building or some sort of dorm or something? You aren't unreasonable to want a safe, reasonably quiet home! I agree that it's probably best now to ride this out until you leave. Avoid them, wear earplugs, leave, do whatever you need to. In your next arrangement, you might try a different approach though when someone is loud. Knocking on their door and suggesting headphones, asking them 20-30 times, calling the cops, well, there are other ways to deal with it. Some people this will only egg them on to "get back at you" and that cycle really sucks. It can be so stressful. Best not to get sucked into it. Some people don't care, and it can be tricky getting these things resolved. I hope you feel better soon. And get the quiet you need soon. It's an apartment building. I really have tried everything that I can think of to deal with them. I've been so nice, I've talked to the landlord, and this has been going on since September! I just hope in my next building I get put next to quiet, reasonable, non-hippies. Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 i understand, i've had pretty major conflicts with some neighbors too over noise, and i don't think i handled it as well as i could have. i've mellowed out now, and just don't care. i don't study or do any kind of "thought intensive work" at home, i just come home to chill and sleep. i do any studying or whatever in the library, or at work. Maybe you can do the same? Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 It helps if you have a little extra money to play with. Then you can choose a building that is geared to a quieter crowd. I found that the cheaper....the more likely you are going to put up with all sorts of bull. Have you secured your new place yet? Link to comment
prizmpyxis Posted December 14, 2007 Author Share Posted December 14, 2007 Yes, I have and I'm moving out this wednesday. I'm also going home for christmas soon so I'll get a month in what I KNOW will be a nice, quiet environment. When I get into my new place, hopefully that will be nice and quiet too. I think it will be a lot better because A) The buildings are a lot nicer, and are built so that no one is underneath me or above me. I only have one person on the side and my room isn't even attached to theirs. and B) The manager/mainanence people are SO nice. (where I currently live, the landlord is very nasty and the manager is a space cadet) Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 Woo hoo! Good things all ahead. Very glad to hear. You can always come back to this thread and vent through these remaining days if you need to. Link to comment
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