Has this ever happened to you??

[Calilove]

Its been months since my ex and I broke up. I'm dating new people but finding it hard to get intimate with new people. For example, when I'm kissing the new guy or holding his hand, I have unwanted racing thoughts of my ex. Then I start to feel upset. This makes it really hard to get intimate with new people. My question is do these thoughts go away ever? Has anyone had this experience before?

[miew]

I agree~ I am kind of a person who does not get close to people easily...it's been 7 months after my break up but I just can't seem to feel wanting to be intimate with anyone else...

[EQD]

they do eventually go away, just try to build up more of an emotional bond before you try and get intimate with them. That way you won't be so distracted.

[Muzatsu]

its hard for me to be intimate in any way with another person, because I'm so used to the touch of my ex as well...

[-BK-]

If you don't feel comfortable with being intimate with a new guy, you have not let go of your old relationship -- i.e. you are not ready to really be dating. I know that's hard because you want to move on, especially with the dating world, but you might not be ready for that.

 

I am currently struggling with that in my life. I've met a couple of girls, have talked to them on the phone, and now am feeling overwhelmed by my emotions.

[SinfullySweet]

It's the same way for me. My ex and I broke up almost 6 months ago, but we're still sort of dating each other. When I'm with other guys I don't enjoy kissing because I keep thinking of my ex. I've been seeing s great guy for a while now, but he's all over me and I try to get out of it because kissing anyone other than my ex makes me feel kind of dirty.

[Clementine orange]

Normal, totally normal. You can't rush intimacy or a bond. It's not something that can be faked or forced. Be patient.

[Smudude1]

BK:

 

I have the same emotional feeling you do. It is overwhelming when you are trully not over someone. I found that my emotions are sabotaging my getting into the pgirl I am on a date with. Comparisons start running rampant.

[Leges39]

yes!... i soooo went through that! in the very beginning, i even embraced it, which was thoughtless to the person i was sleeping with. but if you think about how science has shown that two people who are intimate have chemical reactions in thier heads causing emotional attachment, you are not doing your self any favors (nor was i) by thinking of them because you are only encouraging continued emotional attachment.... get my drift?