please help.

[HunnyBunny]

I'm so low right now i wish i had the ability to permantly switch of my feelings i can't go a day without thinking about useless i am how ugly and pathetic i am, can i ask why men need to masturbate over porn or images of other women?

He says im the sexiest girl ever im the most, beautiful, gorgeous girl hes ever met he has pictures of me on his computer aswell yet he longs for pictures of other women, he says its how the male mind works they want different boobs and i cant handle that truthly im ashamed of my jealousy its like im a mad woman. i hate jennifer ellison with all my heart everytime i see her she makes me want to harm myself cos i feel like nothing compared to her he likes her, im so depressed i cant get over it

and im pregnant too, nd im scared cos sometimes i feel so hurt by all this that it makes me not want to be with him and i cry at night alone all the time, i sound pathetic but i need to understand is this really how the male mind works? why can't i feel normal and just let him get on with it...i cant bare to even think of what hes doing right now.

[handsdown]

He needs to stop looking at porn.

 

I know it's a preference for many males, but it's not a need. If he can see how much this habit is hurting you, he should give it up without question. There are many other ways to achieve sexual release and any guy who tells you he 'needs' porn and that you should just 'accept' that requires serious help. Especially when you are pregnant and feeling far from porn star attractive!

 

I get so tired of men excusing it as 'a thing men do' it's not a thing men do, it's just porn, like anything in life that's not required to live it should be just as easy to give it up as have it. Pornography is a serious addiction and should never be put first in a relationship.

 

As for your insecurities, never compare yourself to the air-brushed, foggy-lit individuals in porn. There is nothing better than the real thing. You should know this and have the confidence in your heart to say "I'm better" because you are. Better yet, HE should know this and any guy willing to give up a real woman for some photo or video deserves to live a life where his only relationship is with a picture.

[DaDancingPsych]

I'm not a guy, so I can only post from the female side of things. Guys do admire the female body... even when they have one lying next to them to admire! I don't understand it, but I suppose it's something like how we can look at another man and think he has a great smile, but still return to our SO and love him for everything he is. Just because we like another guy's smile, doesn't change our feelings for the real man in our lives.

 

I think this situation is harder to accept, because your BF is admiring other woman's breasts (a body party typically considered more sexual.) Honestly, I don't think it changes his feelings for you. I don't think he's even comparing women in his mind!!! It has nothing to do with you.

 

Still, your feelings are justified and should be expressed. Let him know that you are feeling insecure. Maybe he needs to remember to compliment your body more. I think often after the initial start of a relationship, we forgot to tell our mate how sexy they are! Maybe the two of you need a reminder!

[Toki]

Still, your feelings are justified and should be expressed. Let him know that you are feeling insecure. Maybe he needs to remember to compliment your body more. I think often after the initial start of a relationship, we forgot to tell our mate how sexy they are! Maybe the two of you need a reminder!

 

He doesn't respect you if hes doing this, the signs may not be all there yet. But to admire somebody else whether porn, or going on about how pretty another girl is, or whatever. Is an insult to how you are or your sub par. It will also eventually get worse.

 

And people might think thats a little out there, but it all starts with the little things.

 

But I agree with DaDancingPsych, show him what hes got, give him a reminder.

 

But most definitely don't take crap off of him. You deserve to be happy, not depressed because some guy can't realize what he has.