Annoyed.

[natalie121687]

There are two things that have been bugging me lately:

1) Everynight when it is time to go to sleep, I find it is impossible! I end up staying awake until 3-4 a.m. going over every little worry and stress in my mind. Thinking about what needs to be done, worrying about future money issues, thinking of past mistakes, etc. Nothing I can do can get my mind off of it! It is ruining my life because now that I go to sleep at odd hours, I wake up at odd hours with too much sleep. Today I woke up at 3 in the afternoon. Wasted the whole day! Plus I was drowsy from oversleeping and didn't feel like doing anything I had planned on doing today and ended up sitting on my ass all day which pisses me off because I do not want to be lazy! Then I don't get things done which adds to more things I need to get done which I end up going over and over in my mind late at night. It really is a vicious cycle.

 

and 2) My friend had told me she thought she was pregnant. (this would b the second time she has told me this story) of course I did not believe her. Then apparently she had a miscarriage (again because she said she did the first time she told me she was pregnant) and told me this long story about how she had cramps and suddenly her period came so she went to urgent care because it was very thick and painful and the doctors asked her if she was pregnant and she told them she wasn't and they told her it must be because of stress then and sent her home with antibiotics. Ok that story doesn't even make sense. If they were doctors, wouldnt they know she just miscarried? and why the hell would they give her antibiotics? It's something that bothers me because I am sick of her looking for attention and going around telling people she miscarried when I -know- she did not. It's like, why lie about something that serious just for attention? I do NOT want to pretend I believe her again and give her the sympathy she is craving for some odd reason but I don't know exactly how to go out and say YOU'RE A LIAR SHUT UP without sounding really mean. Any suggestions on what to do with these problems I'm currently having?

[sunfirechick]

Hi,

 

About the sleep thing, I can totally understand where you are coming from. I did the same thing for about two months and it was affecting every aspect of my life (school, work, relationships, family). I was tired all day, every day. My problem was a combination of stress (and always thinking about it at bedtime), anxiety (caused by stress, an inability to let myself 'relax'), and Tinnitus (which was brand new to me, a super loud roaring sound in my left ear, which seemed to be at its loudest before bed). The thing that helped me was learning to 'train my brain' to find the state that I wanted to be in. Because my Tinnitus is always so loud, I downloaded some MP3s that use special sound waves to help your brain achieve a certain state. I never thought that I would believe in that stuff, but it really did work for me. So now, on my iPod, I have 'relax','focus','meditate', and 'sleep'.

 

About your friend, do you consider her to be a close friend? Or just a casual one? If it was a close friend of mine, I would sit her down and make her understand that she can trust me to tell me the truth, and that I am counting on her to be honest with me always. It sounds like, if she is in fact lying, that she is so insecure that she needs to lie for attention. Tell her all the great, positive things that you like about her, and that make you want to have her as a friend.

 

I hope this helps a little..

[AhypnoticSuggestion]

i'm with you on the sleep thing; as soon as i lay down every night, i'm wide awake thinking about everything. it's so dumb and annoying. weed used to put me right to sleep, but i don't smoke anymore, sigh..

 

i would be careful with what you say to your friend. in my experience people who lie like that for attention get really pissed if you call them out on it, and usually they don't even admit to it. so if this girl is a good friend, you might be better off just humoring her.