I'm going to do it...but I need advice.

[JohnnyxHorror]

In my previous post I talked about a girl that I was well basically flirting with and how I was nervous around her. She does like me from what I've been told and she smiles a lot around me and only seemly around me and shes far more quiet then she normally is.

 

So I decided I'm going to grow balls and ask her out, but I planned to do it on new years eve since its coming up. I asked friends for ideas of how I should do it so I have something to build off of. Because I want to stand out from her ex's and show her I'm not like them (shes dated assholes...a lot of them). I also want to make the night memorable for her...but I want to do it in a sweet way...but I just cant think of one...any ideas?

 

I just dont want to ask her out normally...cause I dont like boring bland ways...and I just cant think of anything good.

[blender]

Try not to put so much pressure on yourself, keep it simple.. remember being "bland" is sometimes better than being "too much" or "corny" or "trying to hard to be different"..

 

instead just be CLASSY, STRAIGHTFORWARD, CONFIDENT..and do not compare or try to be "different" than her "exes".. because the fact is you already ARE different than them.. so don't try to be anything other than yourself... (and it might be wise to ask yourself WHY she was attracted to those "jerk types" in the first place)

 

If you want to ask her out for New years eve, well then it's best that BEFORE you ask her that you have a 'plan in mind" or something that you want to take her to, or a nice dinner reservation, or something and then just ask her out, say something along the lines of: I'd really like it if you'd help me start this year off right by celebrating it together, would you like to do that, because I'd like to take you out on New Years eve to (then mention the party, or dinner, or show, or concert, or quiet night watching old classic movies or whatever you're thinking of doing)..

 

but try to remember that New Years eve is a night of big expectations and might not be the best time for a first date... so be prepared if she says she already has plans, then just kindly and confidently say, "Okay, I guess I'll just have to wait till next year to ask you out"... hopefully she'll laugh, and you can ask her out for another time.... but just keep it lite, and good luck, let us know how it goes...

[JohnnyxHorror]

Thank you for the advice

 

I will tell how it goes on new years.

[ghost69]

ask her out before new years. then celebrate new years when she says yes.

[Dating Coach]

Blender said it well

 

Johnny, asking her out for NYEve is NOT a good choice. Chances are that she already has plans. Pick a non Holiday date where she's likely to be free. A Thursday is my favorite pick.

 

And DO NOT EVER try to prove yourself different from ex's or prove that you're extra nice. This stuff KILL INTEREST. If you are actively taking measures to a level where you are trying to impress her, then you are Lowering You Value. You're showing her that she is the prize and that you're trying to win her. If she gets those signals then she see's you as someone that's already won over. As in she's got you if she wants you. If you make it that easy on her it will kill her interest. Why? Well how special can you be if you were that easy to achieve? Aren't the good things in life supposed to be something to work towards? Throwing yourself at her will turn her off.

 

Relax. Be yourself. By that I mean respect yourself and put YOU first. Don't be Captain Agreeable, Don't be Captain People Pleaser, Don't be constantly available, etc. have your own happy life independent of her.

 

Now ask her out to a Thursday date coming up. Have a specific place AND time in mind as well as a back up in case she is busy. Plan ahead for both. Take her somewhere and have fun for YOU. Don't worry a second about her. If she likes you she will have fun when you have fun, so make it fun for YOU.