SinfullySweet Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 Men: Would you rather be with someone sexy or someone beautiful? Do you look for one in a relationship and another in a fling? Women: Would you rather be sexy or be beautiful? In conversations with my guy friends and men I've dated I've been told that men categorize women different ways. There are women they aren't attracted to, cute women, sexy women, trashy women, and beautiful women. I've been told that I have a cute personality, a sexy body, and a beautiful face. If asked to place me in only one category every man has said stunning/beautiful. While that is undoubtedly a nice compliment I'm wondering if that caused some problems with my ex. My ex and I are still dating and although we hook up his desire for me is not as I'd like it to be. He still looks at me and tells me how beautiful I am all of the time. Something he said when we were together a few weeks ago is on my mind... I don't drink so when I had a couple of sips of his mojito it was enough to get me drunk. I was on top of him and we were hooking up and I asked him if I am the hottest girl he has ever dated (obviously I'd never ask that sober) - he replied that I am certainly the most beautiful. I asked him if he thinks I'm hot and he said when he looks at me all the can really think is that I am one of the most beautiful women in the world. He says I'm a 10, but he doesn't really think of me as hot. Is it better to be sexy or beautiful? Link to comment
Killasasparilla Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 It is much better to be beautiful. Sexy is only on the outside. Beautiful is the WHOLE picture. Link to comment
melrich Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I've been told that I have a cute personality, a sexy body, and a beautiful face. If asked to place me in only one category every man has said stunning/beautiful. That's some strange conversations you are having!! Sexy or beautiful?....that's hard, each means different things for different people. I'll plump for sexy. Link to comment
capbit Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 These things can be subjective imo. One person may think you're sexy, but to another you're beautiful. I personally think beautiful is the mature way of saying someone is hot. Maybe its just me. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 Sexy. Although it's plausible-likely even-that someone is both. Link to comment
minniegirl Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I each person has their own definition for the words sexy and beautiful. Personally, I would like to be viewed as both. However, I think we throw around the word beautiful a lot in our society. But in the end, it's all in the eye of the beholder. Link to comment
SinfullySweet Posted December 12, 2007 Author Share Posted December 12, 2007 That's some strange conversations you are having!! Sexy or beautiful?....that's hard, each means different things for different people. I'll plump for sexy. It usually starts with some mention of one of my close female friends or when I'm just out with a guy friend or a group of them. It is kind of strange now that I think about it, but it always seem to naturally go there. Hmmmm... maybe because I openly admit when another woman is attractive and encourage guy friends to approach them? Link to comment
rootcause43 Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 You are either beautiful or you are not. But sexy... well. A woman who is beautiful but not sexy can become sexy. A woman who is not beautiful but sexy... well, she has a harder time trying to become beautiful. Beauty is about looks. Sexy is about attitude. Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I prefer sexy. A person can be beautiful but not sexy and then there's no real "animal" attraction. While a sexy person who is average looking can become incredibly beautiful just because they're so sexy. Link to comment
someguy69 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 It depends on who's saying it... but here's something to think about... You'd likely have no problem saying that your mother is beautiful, but you'd likely be a little cautious about saying that your mom is sexy. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 I think most men just like an attractive woman period. some go for her even if mildly attractive. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 It depends on who's saying it... but here's something to think about... You'd likely have no problem saying that your mother is beautiful, but you'd likely be a little cautious about saying that your mom is sexy. HA my mom is a very sexy lady. LOL She's hot. Even in her 50's. She doesn't look like an old lady. Link to comment
someguy69 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Okay, well, it's far less acceptable for a man to say that his mother is sexy Link to comment
JadedStar Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Okay, well, it's far less acceptable for a man to say that his mother is sexy LOL My son tells his friends he gets his hotness from his mom. He only says that because all of his friends flirt with me all the time. Poor kid, he looks just like his father. LOL But somehow he managed to be cute! Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Beautiful every time. Sexy is all about sex... Beautiful has no sexual connotations... Someone who is beautiful is definitely sexy, but they've got something else going for them that overshadows it. I think beauty has a bit more to do with someone's face... Link to comment
melrich Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Beautiful every time. Sexy is all about sex... Beautiful has no sexual connotations... Someone who is beautiful is definitely sexy, but they've got something else going for them that overshadows it. I think beauty has a bit more to do with someone's face... Well isn't it funny how two people can read a simple question so differently. I read this completely differently to you (not saying you are wrong or I am right). I think "sexy" is more the whole package, may not be clasically beautiful but presents well, is fun to be with, flirtatious so the sexiness overcomes any lack of classic beauty. Beauty I read to be just what the person looks like. Hopw classically beautiful are they. See it will be different for everyone. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Well isn't it funny how two people can read a simple question so differently. I read this completely differently to you (not saying you are wrong or I am right). I think "sexy" is more the whole package, may not be clasically beautiful but presents well, is fun to be with, flirtatious so the sexiness overcomes any lack of classic beauty. Beauty I read to be just what the person looks like. Hopw classically beautiful are they. See it will be different for everyone. I agree with your definition - only slight variation is some beautiful people can be both, but some not beautiful people can be sexy. If that makes sense. Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 When the OP compared sexy to beautiful I figured they must have meant looks alone. A girl I know had the most beautiful face... if she had worn a burlap sack around I would still have thought she was beautiful... but if she was wearing reavealing clothing or dressing sexy she'd be sexy and beautiful. Some people can be sexy but not beautiful, I can't think of anyone that's beautiful but not sexy, though. All of that is opinion of course . Link to comment
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 i dont see the difference. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 this is subjective. a beautiful person can be sexy. i'd like both. Link to comment
Just-a-Girl Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Personally, from a female perspective, many guys who are "hot" (beautiful) are dull, they have always leaned on their looks to get them by so they have never molded their personality. (Not all hot guys are this way, I know, don't jump all over me) I prefer a charismatic guy with a great sense of humour and adventure in the bedroom - that kind of guy becomes extremely sexy to me! So, I'm all for SEXY! Link to comment
someguy88 Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Here's another vote for SEXY! I think being viewed as sexy by your partner is important in a relationship. My friends are beautiful. My partners are often beautiful and sexy. Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 How about 'stunning'? I think I like that word better. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 How bout 'gorgeous'? That's my favorite. Link to comment
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