Can someone please tell me what just happened?

[vouge_idea]

Yesterday everything was normal. We were fine. We were happy. He dropped me off at work. Told me how much he loved, kissed me goodbye and told me he would be here to get me after work. All was normal and all was right.

 

About three hours later he calls me at work letting me know he was home from classes. He sounded in a bad mood, like something was wrong. So I asked him what was wrong. He said nothing. I told him that I knew something was wrong and he insisted that there wasn't. I was like ok well now you have to tell me or else I am not going to let it go. He said it's nothing, it's just the past. I had NO clue what he was talking about. I said ok, tell me. He said "so he's been in your house?" At this point I still had NO idea what he was talking about. By then he had hung up on me. I had NO idea what the heck was going on and I couldn't call him back because my boss was standing right there.

 

I finally got the chance to call him back. He was all pissed off that I didn't call him back right when he hung up on me. HE WAS DOING THIS TO ME WHILE I WAS AT WORK. I didn't know what to do. I eventually figured out what he was talking about and is talking about a MALE FRIEND that I had SIX MONTHS AGO. Telling me that I cheated on him and all this crap. I can truly say that I never cheated on my boyfriend. This guy was just a friend...one of which I gave up for my boyfriend to be happy. Even though I was doing NOTHING WRONG.

 

 

 

When I told him well duh, he was my friend he went into my house ONE TIME (with a big group) before we went out. He hung up on me again. I called him back (and since we live w/eachother) he picked up and told me he was packing my car with all my stuff. By this time I was crying but trying so hard to keep my composure seeing as how I was at work. He kept hanging up on me. He wouldn't even give me a chance to speak in my defense or anything.

 

I was so confused. I had to call my mom to come and pick me up from work because he had my car and wouldn't bring it to me. He just left my car in some parking lot with all my stuff and he went off with his friends.

 

I never cheated on my boyfriend. It makes me sick that I am being punished for something I've never done. He has it so far up his head that I have, it's disgusting. HELLO! HE CHEATED ON ME!

 

I am starting to think that this goes deeper and that it really has nothing to so with me at all. I think he realized that maybe he didn't want to be with me anymore but had to find a way to make it look like my fault. He acted like such a child. He broke up with me OVER THE PHONE while I was at work. A time and a place where HE KNEW I could not react or speak my side. We were together for a year I don't see how he can be so cold to break up with me like that. Don't you think I deserve more then that after a year?!

 

I am so hurt. I didn't sleep a wink lastnight. I had to go over to his house this morning for something that was left behind. When I got there he just looked at me with disgust. I didn't go inside, I just told him what I needed. He opened the door just a crack to where his arm would fit and threw it in my face.

 

I still have no idea what is going on. He won't even talk to me and give me a chance to explain. He just threw me away like yesterdays trash. I had NO ONE to go to last night. I just drove around balling my eyes out for hours.

 

How could some who tells you they love you and want to spend the rest of their life with you have such a sudden blow?

 

Can someone please give me some words. Help me understand whats going on. I have no one. I have no one to talk to.

[melrich]

Can someone please give me some words.

 

Why would you want to be with someone like this.

 

Immature/passive aggressive/insecure.

 

I think this could be your lucky day.

[RayKay]

Based on your other posts about this guy - I think this is a blessing in disguise.

 

I second melrich's post....he is immature & passive/aggressive....whatever you do DO NOT go chasing after him. Seriously, let him go.....

[vouge_idea]

It's so hard to let him go.

 

He's been my life for the past year.

 

It's pathetic.

 

I feel like I will never love like I loved him. How will I ever get close to someone again like I was close to him?

 

I feel like if I am not with him, then I don't want to be with anyone at all. I cannot see myself with anyone else. Kissing, holding anyone else. It makes me cry thinking about it.

[Just-a-Girl]

Whoa girl - what is he, in highschool still? Very immature! You don't need that! I know it's not what you want to hear, and you probably won't be able to do it, but you need to walk away from this. For him to react this way over something so small is totally crazy! A grown up may still be jealous - it's a natural feeling - but they would wait until you got home instead of getting yuo worked up at work because they would trust you and know that there was a reasonable explanation for this issue.

 

The way he is handling this says a lot about who is he is...very difficult for people to change this type of behaviour.

[Clementine orange]

Yes, he might be looking for reasons to leave so he doesn't look like the "bad guy".

Personally I'd like a little more evidence and discussion before I started packing up my partner's stuff in the car.

 

short fuse on this guy - kinda immature.

[Just-a-Girl]

It's so hard to let him go.

 

He's been my life for the past year.

 

It's pathetic.

 

I feel like I will never love like I loved him. How will I ever get close to someone again like I was close to him?

 

I feel like if I am not with him, then I don't want to be with anyone at all. I cannot see myself with anyone else. Kissing, holding anyone else. It makes me cry thinking about it.

 

 

Of course it does girl - it's heatbreaking realizing that someone you've invested time and love into is actually not worthy. Making this choice will be very hard, but definitely worth it in the end.

[vouge_idea]

He wouldn't even let me get a word in to save my life. When I would start to talk he would hang up.

 

I couldn't even bare the day at work. I had to leave. I am lucky she let me go and that my job still stands.

 

I completely lost myself for this man. I don't know what I am going to do.

 

We aren't together anymore. But I don't know how to let him go. I know chasing him and begging for him back isn't the right thing to do. But its what I feel like I need to do.

 

I don't know how I will move on from this. It hurts.

[barbielovesmac]

He is acting like an immature little boy. People like this will never change.

 

Here is how I see it, if he was so sure that you were or had cheated on him then why did he waste his time, why did he waste your time on this relationship? You know why? Because he knows you weren't and he knows that you never did.

 

He wasn't man enough to just give it to like it was. He had to come up with some lame excuse so that it looked like it was all you. That's so lame and immature. It doesn't feel like it now but you are much better off without this loser.

 

Yes it hurts, it hurts like hell but after sometime you will realize how much better your life is without him.

 

He is a controlling a$$. He is a little boy. Don't waste you time.

 

And as far as you thinking you will never love like that again?! Honey there are billions of people in this world. One or a hundred are bound to love you.

 

Please don't let this boy belittle you. Be strong. Please. Believe me. I've been in your shoes...many many times. It's hard. But it will be ok. Just leave him alone. Don't chase him. Let him go.

 

Maybe he will realize how good he had it ........ and you can say sorry dude, you had your chance and then let him hurt. Because that always happens. They let you go because they think you are the worst thing ever.......then it hits em!

[Daligal83]

I know how it feels to have made your life around a guy who didn't deserve. It's hard to think this way at first, but this is a chance to rebuild your life. You can and will have a happier life without him. You will love someone even more than you loved him because you can find someone who will treat you right. You know that you deserve better than him and this is your chance to go find that person.

[vouge_idea]

this feels like a nightmare.

 

my christmas present this year. a broken heart.

[greensleeves]

The initial feelings that go with heartbreak are horrible, but they do lessen and will go away. Right now you are probably in a bit of shock and feeling like nothing will ever be the same. You're right, they will be better!!! This guy sounds like a fool and you deserve much more than this. You said he cheated on you in the past so is he really worth the heartache? He sounds very immature and you deserve to be with someone who will communicate with you on an adult level. You are young and there will be a great guy out there for you who is worthy of you!

[RayKay]

you know i thought about not taking my pill so that he could've got me pregnant. i didn't cause that's crazy. but now i wish i would've.

 

then he would of stuck around. he is believe it or not a good guy in that sense.

 

That would of been an extremely stupid and selfish thing to do - a child does not deserve that in the least.

 

And "sticking around" for a child would not make the relationship any healthier or better (or him or you for that matter).

 

This really shows how TERRIBLY insecure you are, you are in a very unhealthy state if you would do that just to keep a man (whom is a jerk nonetheless) around.

 

Seriously, he did a good thing by leaving. Now YOU need to take advantage of that and get into some counseling and take some time to figure yourself out before dating someone else.

[JadedStar]

you know i thought about not taking my pill so that he could've got me pregnant. i didn't cause that's crazy. but now i wish i would've.

 

then he would of stuck around. he is believe it or not a good guy in that sense.

 

WHAT??? NOW i am thinking you might be as crazy as he is! PLEASE never do that! Don't bring an innocent child intentionally into this world to be the pawn of these immature arguments. It is one thing to be hurt and upset, yes I don't blame you but this is upsetting that you would even say such a thing!

 

This is no news to you, this man has been doing this to you for quite sometime. Instead of leaving you allow him to toss you around like an emotional punching bag.

 

 

You are not in a strong enough state to make good decisions for yourself, please do not even consider for one moment bringing a child into this foolish mess going on with this man.

 

That is a very selfish way of thinking VI. You make a choice to be in this situation, a child would have NO choice.

[greensleeves]

RayKay is right. That is no life for a child or for the parents. You would have a life of misery ahead of you if you did that and no one would be happy, especially the child. Having children is a lifelong responsibility and the decision to have one should never be part of trying to keep someone in a relationship. You need to take sometime for self examination and think about what you really want out of life. You don't need this guy, in only feels that way right now and that will pass.

[vouge_idea]

i didn't mean that i am just upset.

[vouge_idea]

i just dont understand what is going on.

 

i have NO ONE. my own sister was too busy for me lastnight & i didn't want to be at my parents' house b/c i had no space there.

 

my friend is out of town until saturday.

 

i am so alone. he won't talk to me. he wants me to leave him alone b/c he needs to think if he wants me still or not. dont you think it should be the other way around?!?!!?

 

no one understands how hurt i am right now. just in time for xmas. we had all these plans. he was my world & now he is gone. just like that, gone.

[JadedStar]

We do understand. I bet not a one of us has not been there...but you need to get a hold of yuorself and talk about getting pregnant when you base your entire self worth on a man is very disturbing.

 

It hurts, yes, but if you go back to him to ease this hurt then you are in for this cycle over and over again.

 

Your world is NOT gone. You will be able to pick yourself up and carry on. He is only a man, and not a very nice one at that. You have known he has had serious issues for quite sometime.

 

Now don't think I don't understand that you are hurting because I do. But to hear someone put so much faith into someone who is this hurtful....it's just disturbing VI.

[Lana0120]

What's going on with him is irrelevant. What is important is that you stay well away from him and don't try and get back into this relationship or take him back if he does decide to apologise for his behaviour. There's plenty of fish out there better than him.

[barbielovesmac]

HONEY, he is just a man...well a boy. He does not make you. You are still you.

 

You need to take this time to find yourself. It seems as though you've lost yourself in this relationship and that is not healthy at all.

 

He has made you very insecure. It's up to you to pick up the broken pieces. You can and you will. Heck, have fun doing it.

 

Get back in with your friends, and i tell you once you do that it will feel pretty darn good!

[barbielovesmac]

Please Remember He Does Not Make You Who You Are.

[vouge_idea]

I know. But he is all I've known for the past year.

 

He is my home.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

It's so hard to let him go.

 

He's been my life for the past year.

 

It's pathetic.

 

I feel like I will never love like I loved him. How will I ever get close to someone again like I was close to him?

 

I feel like if I am not with him, then I don't want to be with anyone at all. I cannot see myself with anyone else. Kissing, holding anyone else. It makes me cry thinking about it.

 

Of course it does, right now. But you will find someone better, trust me. What a terrible way to break up with someone!!!! Thank God you found out what you'd be stuck with now before you did anything like marry him.

 

When I broke up with my ex boyfriend, I too thought I'd never find someone like him again. Well, I was right. The guy I'm with now is 10X BETTER than he was!

[vouge_idea]

I am having a really hard time accepting this.

 

I wonder where he is and what he is doing.

 

I wonder when I will talk to him.

 

Uggh.

[shell80]

I'm sorry you are hurting so much - I really am.

Please know that we all have been thru this/or are going thru it right now so

we truly understand! I know how awful it feels, how sometimes it is hard to breathe thinking about what has happened, and how you feel like you have nothing left.

 

BUT you do...You will be fine, with time and good friends. I know that you are feeling alone right now....so you are in the right place my dear. We are all real people - who want to help each other get thru this achingly hard time.

 

Whenever you feel the urge to contact him - contact us on here instead.

 

Take care x