Pocket Rocket Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 Hi everyone, So I'm in a bit of a panic and sort of need some strength right now. In about a week's time our course is having a Christmas party and the guy I was involved with is also going. We haven't spoken in months and I admit it's taking me a long time to get over this because I started NC a little late. I have reason to believe he's now seeing someone else though I haven't asked nor have I heard this from anyone else (it's an assumption) The problem is that because there is a surplus of tickets for the party, they are now telling us we can bring friends or partners - my worry is that he'll bring someone else along and I'll be upset and won't have as good a time as I want to. I'm obviously not going to stop this or act crazy, but how would you deal with an uncomfortable situation like this? Missing this party is also not an option, and I don't like the idea of running away. I know I'll handle whatever happens (eventually) and I don't won't stoop so low as to bring someone with me as a red herring, but this would definitely put a dent on the work I'm done on myself towards getting better. Hm I just needed to put this out there, not sure anyone can advise but please feel free to comment. Link to comment
bridgid8 Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 Will you regret not going just because he will be there? Can you bring a good friend you can fun with? That might take the edge off. But then again, if you are experiencing anxiety over it now, it might be too hard to even see him. Link to comment
Pocket Rocket Posted December 12, 2007 Author Share Posted December 12, 2007 I want to go because it'll be the last time our group is together as a full class, next term we're all partitioned to our specialist options and will have separate classes so it'll be a long time before we all see each other again - so yes I will more than regret not going, especially if it's just because of him, I'm not going to let this get to the point that I'm pushed away from my friends, it's been bad enough as it is (we share mutual friends and I've had to stay away at times even though they're unaware anything went on) I have trouble dealing with these things because I have abandonment issues I'm trying to workthem out. I think what bothers me is that if he's there with someone else that voice in my head that says "See, he's found someone else because you weren't enough!" will pop up and it'll dig at my self esteem - I clearly need to work on this because even though my heart starts to believe that voice my brain knows it's not true. I need to have faith in my inner strength but it seems hard Link to comment
bridgid8 Posted December 12, 2007 Share Posted December 12, 2007 I have trouble dealing with these things because I have abandonment issues I'm trying to workthem out. I think what bothers me is that if he's there with someone else that voice in my head that says "See, he's found someone else because you weren't enough!" will pop up and it'll dig at my self esteem - I clearly need to work on this because even though my heart starts to believe that voice my brain knows it's not true. I need to have faith in my inner strength but it seems hard I think you'll get a boost if you go to something you want to go, despite him being there, and handle yourself with grace. AND, you don't know if he will be there with someone else, although I always tend to assume the worst. Link to comment
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