why is it so hard to accept...

[i_must_be_blind]

so many of my friends told me that she was cheating me. i didn't want to believe it. it was even in the back of my mind that she was, but i still couldn't get myself to believe. i know that she did, but for some reason i don't care. i still love her. when am i going to get over this? ugghh...

[brando]

It is hard to accept it cause you still don't want to. Maybe you feel it impaired your judgement on dating her. But that is all in the past.

 

Acceptance isn't easy, if it were this site would not be here for all of us who went through this painful process.

 

Just remember, what we resist will persist. So until you are ready to accept things for what they are, you will feel this pain run much deeper for a much longer time, and again it is all part of the process.

 

As far as still loving her and not caring what she did, well that is something you need to work out within yourself. You would be selling yourself short to have to put up with someone who is cheating on you. You deserve much better than that. We all do. Unfortunatley love does not conquer all, it only conquers ourselves in these situations.

 

Clarity will be presented to you when you are prepared to see it. It cannot be rushed.

 

be well,

brando