Dating Advice for Women: How to Attract Men

[sweetdslollipop]

This board seems to be centered around helping men out. How about we help the ladies out too?? Lol. I'm one of those females that never get approached when I'm out and about. Any tips on how I can get men to approach me?

[wiser]

The 3 best things you can do:

 

1) Show cleavage

2) Show cleavage

3) Did I mention, show cleavage?

[sweetdslollipop]

I don't have cleavage. Hmm..this explains things. Maybe this is why I never get approached.

 

Is there anything else I can do?

[CarnelianButterfly]

The 3 best things you can do:

 

1) Show cleavage

2) Show cleavage

3) Did I mention, show cleavage?

 

Why not just tell her to start stripping?

[wiser]

I don't have cleavage. Hmm..this explains things. Maybe this is why I never get approached.

 

Is there anything else I can do?

 

Start stripping.

[Entropy Smith]

The 3 best things you can do:

 

1) Show cleavage

2) Show cleavage

3) Did I mention, show cleavage?

 

This is an incorrect answer cause by showing cleavage you'll attract the wrong kind of attention...sexy is good but class is actually far more alluring than Pavlovian stimulation.

 

You want to be alluring but not intimidating. You want to invite men to talk to you thru body language...such as smiling,looking relaxed and not having a defensive position up...its a tight balance between openness and detachment if that makes sense...

[wiser]

This is an incorrect answer cause by showing cleavage you'll attract the wrong kind of attention...

 

Showing cleavage to attract men is like putting a big juicy earthworm on the line to attract more fish. You can always throw back the ones you dont want, but at least you caught some.

[jimthzz]

Ok, what you need to do is make yourself seem accessible. If you are at a bookstore, for example, and some guy catches your eye. what do you do? Smile?

 

Or if you are at a school cafeteria and a guy is looking at the macaroni, make small talk.

 

Not saying you are being aloof. Just make yourself approachable. Be interesting.

[Entropy Smith]

Showing cleavage to attract men is like putting a big juicy earthworm on the line to attract more fish. You can always throw back the ones you dont want, but at least you caught some.

Again you want to start off the communication right off the bat with who you are and what you are about. Cheap manipulation sucks cause she is always going to be thinking he's just into me for my breasts.

 

I think your advice would be better suited for the trailer park turtle race meets...

[sweetdslollipop]

What should the women with no cleavage do to get attention from men?

[wiser]

What should the women with no cleavage do to get attention from men?

 

Implants?

 

...

[sweetdslollipop]

No, I don't want implants.

 

To the other posters, how does "approachable-looking" look?

[wiser]

No, I don't want implants.

 

To the other posters, how does "approachable-looking" look?

 

Then accentuate your other positive attributes. Sexy attracts. It doesn't just attract lowlife guys, it attracts all of them.

 

I was at a Christmas party with my GF last week, and there were several really attractive women on the dance floor. One in particular, was flat chested, and even though I talk about breasts and cleavage, this woman was amazing. She was wearing an outfit that made her look like a schoolgirl...and she danced so sexually she was being watched by many.

 

Sexy sells.

 

I will post a pic from the party in a minute.

[Entropy Smith]

The question is more complex really.

 

If you are talking about attraction, you have to come up with a style that works for you, both physically and otherwise...its more about being who you are confidently than just cleevage.

 

Even if you were to break things down into brute physical terms like wise did...stimulating the imagination> in your face stimulation.

[Entropy Smith]

Then accentuate your other positive attributes. Sexy attracts. It doesn't just attract lowlife guys, it attracts all of them.

 

I was at a Christmas party with my GF last week, and there were several really attractive women on the dance floor. One in particular, was flat chested, and even though I talk about breasts and cleavage, this woman was amazing. She was wearing an outfit that made her look like a schoolgirl...and she danced so sexually she was being watched by many.

 

Sexy sells.

 

I will post a pic from the party in a minute.

If you listen to mid-life crisis here this is the kind of guy you will attract.

[wiser]

Here's the pic. It's not great...but you get the idea.

 

image removed

[jimthzz]

be yourself and get eye contact, wear pretty clothes.

 

Maybe you can actually approach one of the guys you see during your day.

 

No need to look anxious, just say hi, I'm so and so.

Who are you?

 

Pretty easy.

[SinfullySweet]

Advice from another woman:

1) Learn you use your eyes. If I look at a guy right I'm pretty much guaranteed that he will approach me or at least whistle when I walk by.

2) Smile

3) Learn a feminine, but confidant walk.

4) Dress to your advantage. Learn your body and what works for you. You don't have to show too much skin, but you can look your best if you know what your best asset is and show it off. Even if you're just running to the grocery store wear jeans/sweats that flatter and a well fitting top. You don't need to show cleavage or wear mini skirts, but make sure you have a bra that fits properly and know what skirt length looks best on you.

5) Always look put together. Again, just going to the grocery store? Don't look like a slob in baggy sweats and messy hair - at least put on some mascara and gloss and make your hair look presentable.

6) Wear something that makes you feel sexy. I always wear cute bra and panty sets no matter what I'm wearing over them... if you know you're sexy it's easier to walk and flirt with confidence. A spritz of a nice perfume is a great boost too.

[i_am_me]

I agree 100% with SinfullySweet!!!!

[Day_Walker]

There is no magic formula out there. Men go for what they like if you are talking about getting approached, that means that something that you have they intrinsically like. Men like different things, men are going to approach mainly on attractiveness, because that is all they have to go on, and that attractiveness is going to be as superficial as each man happens to be. Eye contact is always good and be sure that your body language is positive and not closed off. Avoid being in a large group of girls because most men wont approach a group.

[annie24]

This is an incorrect answer cause by showing cleavage you'll attract the wrong kind of attention...sexy is good but class is actually far more alluring than Pavlovian stimulation.

 

You want to be alluring but not intimidating. You want to invite men to talk to you thru body language...such as smiling,looking relaxed and not having a defensive position up...its a tight balance between openness and detachment if that makes sense...

 

i have to agree, this is something i am working on myself. i think most of the time, i look pretty 'unapproachable.' because i am just trying to get from point a to point b, listening to my ipod, or deep in thought - not really approachable.

 

i disagree that you need cleavage to be approached. i have more than enough cleavage, i don't get approached so frequently. so, i think it is more complicated than that.

 

it really is about approachability. you can do this exercise yourself. imagine you are a man. walk into a coffee shop, look around at all the women, and think of who you would want to go over and talk to. imagine there is a woman who looks like a 10, but has a sour, angry look on her face, figeting. Now, imagine there is another woman, a 7, but she looks friendly and relaxed and is reading an interesting book. Couldn't you see yourself walking up to the 7 and asking her how she likes that book? would you really want to go talk to the 10 if she looks so angry and preoccupied?

 

i notice i get approached a lot more when i am on vacation, i guess because i am not in such a hurry, and am more relaxed.

[surfNski]

I would ignore the whole cleavage remark, thats just tired.

 

But from my point of view when a guy looks you in the eye, smile at him.

I know when I look at a woman and smile and she smiles back I will almost always at least say hello. That to me is making your self approachable, I am not going to go up to a woman if she is ignoring my existence or if she has a scowl on her face.

You don't have to hold up a sign saying "I am single, come and get it" but smile, say hello, start a conversation...all these things work for me.

 

good luck

[HajiMaji]

To add to what others have said, I think that subtley hinting at the fact you are single helps. At least for me, when I know someone is single I am more likely to pursue than if I do not know her status.

 

If you need helping figuring out how to start conversations with guys, I can help you with that. All I know how to do with my life is start conversations with strangers. I wish I could get paid for it.

[Shudder]

To add to what others have said, I think that subtley hinting at the fact you are single helps.

 

hows this done?

[Brightest Dark]

I would not take 'wiser's advice. Looking at wiser's profile, he's a 45 year old man and he's telling you to show cleavage, cleavage and more cleavage? No offence but I'm grossed out by that. I think the best thing to do is just not care about attracting men and just be yourself. You are more likely to attract people when you could care less and are just relaxed. I agree with the people who said if you are just going to show cleavage or skin you are going to get the wrong type of people... sleazes... losers... that only want you because they are desperate and just want to get their hands on 'cheap skin'. It is better to not care about guys... not try to get them, and just relax with friends when out as you are more likely then to get attract people, and good quality people. When they see you having a good time and when you're not trying to impress someone by doing something specific, that is when someone will be swept off his feet by you.