musicalsgal Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Ok, so we've been friends a little over three years now. In the same classes in college, etc., he had girlfriends, I had boyfriends...no problem. My friends thought he was cute but I wasn't really attracted to him, nor he to me. We watched south park together and hung out and drank beer, and helped each other with acting things here and there. Like every damn cliche...we are playing opposite each other in a musical. We were rehearsing said musical at my apartment because it was too cold and rainy for me to want to leave my apartment, so I asked if he would come to mine. We had maybe a glass or two of wine each (we've been drunk togther before and NOTHING), and started rehearsing. Well, conveniently, there is a love scene in the middle of this play, and we've acted it before in rehearsals, just goofing around. And all of a sudden, it was different He was kissing me and then we were REALLY kissing and it was amazing. In one of the hottest things ever, he picked me up in his arms, kicked open the door to my bedroom, and um yeah, we did it. It was so amazing, and he had to leave to let his dog out (true). We kind of looked at each other differently. Honestly it was the most spontaneous thing but it just felt right. There was no awkwardness, nothing like that at all. It was just, well...HOT! He got up and left, and everything just seemed weird. Like it was weird to me and weird to him and neither of us wanted to say anything, really. I should add that he has only (to the best of my knowledge) slept with girls he's had fairly significant relationships with. He doesn't sleep around and has never had a one night stand (I know for a fact). So my question is....what the hell do I do now? Obviously this has to be addressed....should I call him, wait for him to call me? Maybe he feels weird like I do. Do we stay friends and forget it or be more than friends? I really have no idea what to do, PLEASE ADVISE!!
Broken_Doll_ParTs Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Hey! I think you should be talking to him about this, ask him whats on his mind, maybe you guys are both confused like eachother and are waiting for the other one to call first. I say call him and ask him whats going on.
Alabama Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Talk to him. That's the best advice I can give.
sandyv Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Oh Gosh, how awkward, I wouldn't be sure either, but you need to clear the air and talk to him, even if in a kidding around kind of manner, you'll figure it out at least....
wiser Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Yeah, nothing new to add, you cant just pretend it didnt happen, question is do you want to go further with a relationship, continue on as "friends with benefits", or never do it again? That's what you will have to get out...and he will have to tell you what he wants. If either one of you even know...
Starrjenna Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 This happened to me a couple years ago. My friend and I had been best friends for 10 years. To be honest I felt really weird, but he didin't think it was weird at all. We never did date seriously because I still felt I wasn't that attracted to him and always thought it was like hooking up with my brother. But just talk to him. You guys have been friends for a long time, so talk to him the same way as you always would. I think us girls make too much of a big deal of things sometimes. So just don't over think it and see what happens. It could be the start of a good thing since you guys are so close anyways! But only time will tell!Good luck!
someguy88 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 If it was so hot and amazing then I think you should keep the momentum going. Screw talking to him; get with him romantically.
richie_nut Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Easier said than done, but try not to over analyse it. It does sound damn hot...phew. Maybe it's something that has subconsciously been building up for a while, maybe it was just a one off, I don't think you'll really know or feel completely settled until you talk to him. Don't make it too serious if you don't want, keep it light but try to get an idea of what he's feeling. From what I've experienced and seen with others, friends with benefits rarely works without feelings getting in the way. But if you can do it and still have an amazing friendship, my utmost kudos to you! See how he feels and go from there. Good luck!
JeckyllNHyde Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 wow.. that's hot! lol. the whole picking you up and kicking the door open thing. i think you guys should hang out more, i wouldn't bring it up but if he doesnt at all, and you want to know where you stand ask. maybe he is also confused and if you start asking him what his intentions are or what he is thinking, he may freak out and say "it was just sex." so hanging out and rehearsing and stuff without having "the talk" may be best, so you guys get over the weirdness first.
musicalsgal Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 yes...super hot. yummy! I guess I'm worried that if we like date or something, if we break up, would we stay friends. Or is is better to just let it be. ARGH!! Thanks you guys so much for the advice
JeckyllNHyde Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 yes...super hot. yummy! I guess I'm worried that if we like date or something, if we break up, would we stay friends. Or is is better to just let it be. ARGH!! Thanks you guys so much for the advice Things wont be the same if you guys date, but it COULD be, if you both can handle it. It's upto you guys. And on whether to let it be, it depends how strong you feel about him, or if you want to date him or not. I would say, if you want a relationship with him or you think he is good bf material, yeah, continue with it. If you don't feel that strong for him, I would let it be for the sake of the friendship. In my opinion and I'm sure some may disagree lol, but I would put sex aside for the friendship. Maybe it was only hot b/c it was spur of the moment drunk-ish sex.
Aleadragonhawk Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 So, there's this guy that you get along great with, to the point of being best friends, and on top of that you just had amazing, hot, incredible sex with him. Perfect relationship material.
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