ex broke up with me a week ago, said he still loves me. i'm in pieces. help/advice!!!

[anna1]

i met the man of my dreams in august. attraction was instant, both mentally and physically. we've had such an amazing relationship, no arguments, no big issues. we told eachother we love eachother all the time, and we both meant it. a lot. so last monday he calls me up, (the day before i woke up with him, and hearing him say he loves me) his first words being something like 'sorry i just cant do this anymore, i dont think we can be together.'

 

i met up with him the next day because i needed to hear it from him, and be able to read his facial expressions. and also because an hour over the phone wasnt enough for me to understand his reasoning.

 

basically, this is what he told me exactly a week ago:

-he has always had big personal issues, that he's never been able to talk to people about. and the only way he knows how to deal with these issues is alone.

-he said that the overwhelming emotion that he feels for me, i quote 'head over heels in love' is too much for him, and he just needs to be alone right now, to be able to deal with everything he's going through.

- i asked him how his feelings could have changed over one day, and he said that they hadnt changed, nothing changed. and he also stated that he's still hugely attracted to me physically.

 

he said that if he gets through these issues then there is still a chance for us.

 

i am finding it so hard to understand this all, i really need some advice.

 

friends have told me to move on, but i love him so much and words cannot express how i miss him. we'd made silly little plans for christmas and new years and thats all just gone.

 

is this all really over?

i last spoke to him on sunday, but since the break up he hasnt initiated contact.

im thinking, give him his space, wait till he contacts me - so that he can see i support him and want him to get through whatever it is he feels he needs to be alone for.

 

what do i do!

 

any advice welcome

thankyou for reading

[Atticus90]

You both haven't been together long and he's still in that "excited" stage in the relationship that everyone gets when they meet someone new.

 

It's normal, but he's blowing all of this way out of proportion. If he can't handle the heat, then what makes you think he can handle other tough situations that are sure to come to past in the near future?

 

You should move on.

[CatsMeeoow]

I know it hurts... I was there too... only he can resolve these feelings... any contact from you is pressure and pushes him away.

 

Leave him alone... I only wish I had... now it is too late for me...

 

Get out and stay busy... trust me I do know how hard this is!

[circi]

Have you ever read John Gray's Mars and Venus on a Date? It's good stuff and I highly recommend you read it! Sounds like your man is just going through Uncertainty. Give him his space and I bet he comes running back to you!!