Worried about my bestfriend

[beckham babe]

Just found out today that my best friend who is pregnant will have to terminate the baby due to having a large fibriod which she will need 3 months of chemotherapy. I am very upset and worried for her although we are very close i wanna be there for her but don't know how i can help her through this awful time in her life.She is shutting me out right now and cos we are so close i just wanna help.

[ghost69]

all you can do is let her be. support her as much as you can. you can't push. if she needs space, give it to her. sucks she doesn't want you around, but it's what's best for her in her time of pain.

[beckham babe]

Thanks for ur reply,just wanna be there for her like she has been there for me in my recent breakup,she's like my sister.But i hear what ur saying she has to have time to grieve herself i guess

[colors]

Oh wow...how terrible. Just let her know you're there for her no matter what & in any way possible, even if it means in the middle of the night.

I'm pregnant right now & I think if I was going through what she is, I'd be shutting people out too...when I hurt, I rather be alone to deal with it. But it's good to hear & know that a wonderful friend wants to be there for you & is willing to. So just let her know...maybe send her flowers with a card or a little gift. and pray for her. there isn't much more you can do, but let her know you care.

[beckham babe]

Thankyou can't imagine what she's feeling right now,flowers and a card is sounds the best for now that way she knows i care but can have her time to. Wondered if anyone else has gone through a similar experience to her chemotherapy etc

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi beckham babe,

 

Sorry to hear this, sympathy to your friend and yourself.

 

Maybe you could send her a card with a small note and your phone number as a way of saying "call if you want".

 

Jeff

[RayKay]

So, it is a cancerous tumour then? Like uterine cancer?

 

As fibroids are not generally cancerous....they are pretty common in many women (and benign though can in many cases be painful and annoying).

 

Are they planning to do surgery too then?

 

All you can do is support her in the way she needs to be supported....let her know you are there when she does need you.

 

There are many different kinds of chemo - some are harsher than others on you, but it is a lot better than it used to be and there are some great anti-nausea drugs and the like that make it a little more tolerable though it is still draining and tiring.

[beckham babe]

I guess this must be cancerous as they are suggesting useing chemo . She hasn't said they want to operate just that they are gonna do three months of chemo to try to illiminate it that way.But they can't treat her until she makes the tough decision of terminating her baby