nottingham28 Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 YES or NO? What are your thoughts on this issue?. My Gf broke up with me 5 months ago, and since we have been close, seeing each other some might say, doing all the things couples do when they are together. However, i am going travelling in Jan and she goes away in Feb. We won't see each other for 6 months. I know that she doesn't want to get back with me, or in any sort of relationship at all with anyone. But i feel like i am still hurting, i want something from her that she is not willing to give, i still long to be with her, and think about her every minute of every day. It's agonising. We are soul mates, but i feel i need to get over this girl, as she clearly has said she doesn't want to get back with me. So what am i to do... stay in contact, or have a clean break? Do read any of my previous posts if you need more information on the situation.... Link to comment
blindreepr Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Do you want to have fun while traveling? If so I would recommend going NC. The last thing you want to do is ruin your traveling experience by not being able to enjoy all the new sights and new people you are going to see because you are too busy pining over someone that doesn't want to be with you. Link to comment
dontwantthis Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 Take advantage of the next 6 months without her. It will be so much easier to begin the healing process if you cannot see her in any way. Dont even bother talkin to her. If you want to be polite, wish her a safe and happy trip and be on your way. Link to comment
-BK- Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 No Contact. This is the perfect opportunity to rid yourself of a girl that isn't emotionally available to you. Link to comment
nottingham28 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Share Posted December 11, 2007 this is what i think would be the wise thing to do, but i care about her just so much, and think about her all the time... and what if she contacts me whilst i'm away?, just don't reply?, i will just find it so so so hard to let go of her... and no contact will be extremely hard for me, i still feel so attached and like i don't want to let go and it's 5 months after the break up... it's just a very difficult situation and i can't make my mind up what to do.... my head tells me to do one thing but my heart says another..... Link to comment
-BK- Posted December 11, 2007 Share Posted December 11, 2007 this is what i think would be the wise thing to do, but i care about her just so much, and think about her all the time... and what if she contacts me whilst i'm away?, just don't reply?, i will just find it so so so hard to let go of her... and no contact will be extremely hard for me, i still feel so attached and like i don't want to let go and it's 5 months after the break up... it's just a very difficult situation and i can't make my mind up what to do.... my head tells me to do one thing but my heart says another..... Dude, the reason you aren't moving on is because you refuse to let her go. It's like the chicken and the egg. You have to be willing to let her go (i.e. not care if she's thinking about you or contacting you) and you will soon find yourself concentrating on your OWN life. I'm speaking from experience, and also from a position of not being able to let go. Everyday I get mad at myself for not just cutting all the cords. I'm in NC, but still check her MySpace page and her Match profile. I will let go of everything SOON. You should too... Link to comment
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