Why am I such a quiet person?

[IDontKnowWhatToDo]

With my friends, I can be talkative if it's subject that I truly like. But then the conversation will end and I won't know what to say. I'm not good with just bringing up random topics or starting conversations with people. I'm especially bad on the phone and there are awkward silences. This is bad, because my girlfriend likes to talk on the phone all the time. She tells me to call her and I feel bad when I tell her I have to go do something when in reality I just want to get off the phone. Can anyone give me some tips or advice? What do you people talk about on the phone/in person with your friends/girlfriends?

[Portage]

make sure you read or watch the news everyday

 

Ask questions

 

Do you have any hobbies?

 

The busier YOU are the more topics of convo that will be available to you.

 

Man, take a cooking class. This way you kill two birds with one stone. Show her your culinary side and you'll look like a hero. Trust me - Wink

[capbit]

Ask questions that cant be answered just yes or no. You'll be able to dig deeper into the conversation.

Talk about general things, it doesnt have to be things that happened, just whatever. No scripts here.

[tommy_bud]

Someone already said it, ask questions. Asking questions is key to breaking up awkward silences. Instead of racking your brain for some kind of joke, or insightful topic, just ask her questions.

 

Heres a random statistic I'll make up, 2 out of 10 women will give you short one word answers and you'll be stuck again, but 8 of those 10 will gleefully answer any question you throw out there, and they will like you more since you are showing interest in their personal life.

 

Sounds like you got a "talker" gf, so your job is easy. If you can't think of any questions, (any questions will do) then just ask her about her day, if she ran into any stupid people today, anything funny happen?

 

Ok ok, if you are a total spaz like me, you could even make a list of questions to ask that you can whip out if you ever get stuck. Lame, yes, effective, yes, just play it like you were thinking it up on the spot.

 

I was the unlucky one and had one of the rare girls that hates talking on the phone, gives only one word answer, and then disagreed with whatever I said, be it opinion or fact lol.

[Dating Coach]

With my friends, I can be talkative if it's subject that I truly like. But then the conversation will end and I won't know what to say. I'm not good with just bringing up random topics or starting conversations with people. I'm especially bad on the phone and there are awkward silences. This is bad, because my girlfriend likes to talk on the phone all the time. She tells me to call her and I feel bad when I tell her I have to go do something when in reality I just want to get off the phone. Can anyone give me some tips or advice? What do you people talk about on the phone/in person with your friends/girlfriends?

 

Just because she wants you to call her all of the time doesn't mean you have to. Tell her you don't like talking on the phone and keep the conversations short when you do.