Not doing well today.

[ycmanvs]

I am starting to feel sad and it is affecting my performance at work.

[circi]

I'm also having a really bad day and unable to focus on work. Using every ounce of willpower I have to keep from calling or texting. Know I'll get a favorable response, but won't hear the words I so badly need to hear.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

is there a reason you are sad?

[ycmanvs]

My contract ends at the end of the month. I am looking for work....I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago and well, soon I will be broke and single, which are not great things to happen at the same time.

[HealingHandsWarmHeart]

try not to look at it negatively ... look at it like.. you have a wide open clean slate to make some changes.

 

I got laid off from my job ... and also broke up with a bf around the same time... and the one thing that helped was having a positive attitude about the future.. and imagining all of the possibilities that lay before me.

 

You get to start over.. nothing holding you back.

[beauty21]

It will be okay. I remember when I broke-up with my boyfriend of 4 years. Going to work was the hardest thing in the world for me to do. And I felt that way for atleast a year. But like HHWH says, I focued on the good things and I cried privately when I needed to. Over time, things will get better. Look for another job now, while you still have this one. See what you can find. Hang in there, girl.

 

-Beauty21

[Portage]

Look at it as a challenge. Everyone fights change, myself included. I have to be pretty low to pick myself up and look to the horizon.

 

But the gate is open. Look at it as a glass half full opportunity, if not, you get stuck in a rut.

 

And ruts suck

[ycmanvs]

I have an interview tomorrow, so hopefully that will be the beginning of a better period in my life. I was stuck in a rut for the past 2 years and now I have a perfect opportunity for making some positive changes.

I am just scared of not having any income and not being able to pay my bills.

[JadedStar]

Look at it as a challenge. Everyone fights change, myself included. I have to be pretty low to pick myself up and look to the horizon.

 

But the gate is open. Look at it as a glass half full opportunity, if not, you get stuck in a rut.

 

And ruts suck

 

Very good post OLG. I agree.

 

I used to resist change like a motha....that was a hard mindset to, well - change. LOL

[beauty21]

Have faith, and believe in yourself and you can't go wrong. Everything is going to be okay. Your just scared right now. Focus on this interview tomorrow and make sure you are calm and relaxed. Even if they don't hire you, keep trying other places. Something will turn p for you.

[ycmanvs]

I hope I can maintain my sanity through all this.

I try to stay focused on the positive things, but my mind keeps wondering and worrying about the unknown....

[Portage]

Post away on here.

 

when down, look at everyone else who has issues. It takes the onis off of you and helps you put things into perspective.

[beauty21]

Exactly!

When you are having a bad day like today, or when you are feeling like you are about to go out of your mind, post on here like OLG says. Sometimes, it comforting to hear other people's stories and their endings. And it's good to release all of your emotions instead of holding them inside. And we can help you get thru the day sane.

[ycmanvs]

I am posting but I just want for things to get better soon. I have to find a better job and I have to stop thinking about my ex.

[Karen33]

I had a slightly better day today thanks I've been having. I'm very stressed though and missing him badly. Its some comfort to know that I'm not alone.

[ycmanvs]

I just got an email from his best friend inviting me to a party on Saturday night.

I am going to ignore this email and the invitation. I already have other plans.

[beauty21]

I just got an email from his best friend inviting me to a party on Saturday night.

I am going to ignore this email and the invitation. I already have other plans.

 

Good girl. You are doing good.

 

Things will get better, but don't rush it. It's going to take time and you are going to have to deal with these emotions.

[ycmanvs]

Ok, now I got another email from another one of his friends asking me what I am doing for New Year's Eve....Do these people actually think that I will still hang out in the same social circle as my ex?

I have no desire to see him.

[beauty21]

Maybe your ex is getting them to send you these e-mails because he has too much pride to contact you himself.

[ycmanvs]

Maybe your ex is getting them to send you these e-mails because he has too much pride to contact you himself.

 

There is no doubt in my mind that they are fishing for information. There is a show tomorrow and one of my friends will be performing. I am convinced that one of my ex's friends will show up to spy on me. My ex already told my friend that he does not think that he can make it.

I am going to the show because these are my friends and my life and I am hoping that my ex will not be there and that his friends stay away as well. I just have no desire to talk to anyone that will remind me of him.

[beauty21]

I understand that. It won't be good for you right now, especially while you are still vulnerable. I can't believe he made that comment to your friend, "he doesn't think he can make it". Now he has a dose of what you were feeling.

 

It's always funny to me, how people never realize what they've got until it's gone. He is one of those people that won't find out until it's too late.

[ycmanvs]

I understand that. It won't be good for you right now, especially while you are still vulnerable. I can't believe he made that comment to your friend, "he doesn't think he can make it". Now he has a dose of what you were feeling.

 

It's always funny to me, how people never realize what they've got until it's gone. He is one of those people that won't find out until it's too late.

 

Well, this is a pattern that keeps repeating in my relationships, so I am trying to figure out why I am attracted to emotionally unavailable men. I am going to try to be single for a few months and take things very slowly from now on.

[beauty21]

Good idea. Being alone will help you see things more clearer.

 

Why do you think you are that way?

[ycmanvs]

Good idea. Being alone will help you see things more clearer.

 

Why do you think you are that way?

 

Many reasons, but basically because my dad was very abusive and my mom left when I was 2, so I did not really have much in the form of a family unit.

I was in therapy for many years and I have come a long way, but some of the issues are still there and I have to work very hard to change the way I cope with relationships.

[beauty21]

We are very much alike. We both have been had similiar problems with men and our parents. I'm in counseling now. I am starting to come to terms with all that has happened and trying to make sense of it all.

 

You will work out your issues. Like you say, just figuring out "why" is the key. And then you can move on from there.