Had an incredible night with my ex. Does this mean we are getting back together?

[MadChillhouse]

Ok long story short, my girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago after a 2 year relationship. She broke up with me in the first place because she was unsure about her feelings, unsure about us, but she did still love me. Two weeks later with minimal contact, only a text here or there from her with a reply from me, she sends me a text asking if I want to watch a movie. We planned to meet at my place last night and it was incredible. We watched a movie and just sat side by side and talk as friends would. She grabbed my hand a few times, put her hand on my leg, would playfully poke me during funny parts of the movie. After the movie was over we talked for a little bit about random stuff and shared a big hug. We then went and sat outside and looked at the stars and talked. We eventually got to the point where we were staring at each other. I rubbed her face with my hand and she kissed it. I couldn't help myself I had to kiss her and it was amazing. She said it felt like the first time we had ever kissed and I felt the same. The rest of the night was I'll just say equally amazing. Could this one night have brought us back together? I really felt the closest I've ever felt to her, and I know she felt the same. I really think that these two weeks we have been apart only intensified our feelings for each other. What do you guys think? Has anyone had similar experiences, and how did that turn out?

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi MadChillhouse

 

Well, it does sound very positive, and if you stack two years against the only two weeks you were broken up...

 

Just go in your stride and try to move beyond the breakup and try and learn from it and do better this time.

 

But, it sounds very good.

 

Jeff

[delerium6]

Sounds good MadChill. I've got to admit that I'm pretty envious of this opportunity to rekindle what you had. As Jeffrey said, take it in stride and best of luck.

[bustertypsy]

Looking good Mad,now that you had the 2 weeks to look into the reasons why you split,let that time show fruition.Live and learn my friend,good luck for the future!!!

[samross]

Looks good for you. I'm happy for you. I hope & pray one day my prayers will be answered as it looks your's have. Go slow - here comes one of my never ending analogies - think of it as a ship that ran aground (your two weeks of hell). For the ship to get back out, it must wait for the tide. However, even when the tide lifts the ship (your evening with her) you must tread carefully to get back out to safe waters. But ships do it all the time! Good Luck, man!!

[NewPhillyGuy]

Just be careful. Don't get hurt.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Yes, it sounds like a good experience for you, but you need to be careful and find out what it means.

 

It could mean she wants to get back together, or maybe she was lonely, or....

 

you need to talk to her about this to find out what she wants from you... sometimes these kinds of things lead to getting back together, but sometimes it is a brief nostalgic moment, and then the other person realizes nothing has really changed and backs away again.

 

so talk to her and find out!

[Ampire]

where do you live? must be nice...we got about another 20 cm's of snow here in good ol canada!!!

 

Good for you tho man, seems like it was a great night, but I wouldn't just yet jump to any conclusions, remember she broke up with you, make her come back to you and at a slow pace....I know, its very hard but it will be worth it if you make her work a little.

[rapunzel]

2 weeks is not a very long time so it could be promising. I had what I thought were two awesome dates with my ex recently at 2 and then 3 months after the break up. But he's still noncommittal and has backed off a bit since we had a brief conversation about him giving me kisses on the lips. So every situation is different but take it real slow and let her continue to come to you, since she's the one who left the relationship. Good luck!

[BlueBaron]

Lucky. Sounds like you have all your thoughts together already. I personally don't think you absolutely have to get back together after one night, but if you keep having fun with her....why not go for it?

 

I'm keeping an eye on this thread because I'm in a similar situation myself, keep us posted! 8)

[MadChillhouse]

where do you live? must be nice...we got about another 20 cm's of snow here in good ol canada!!!

 

Good for you tho man, seems like it was a great night, but I wouldn't just yet jump to any conclusions, remember she broke up with you, make her come back to you and at a slow pace....I know, its very hard but it will be worth it if you make her work a little.

 

Hey guys thanks for the replies. We live down here in North Carolina, and it has been rather warm this week and comfortable at night. Thankfully it was the perfect temperature that night. I met her the next day during my lunch break to grab some lunch and she seemed really happy. We talked a little about the night before, about how it was really awkward when she first got there, how we didn't expect much to come from the night, how surprised we were that it happened, but how awesome it turned out to be. I asked her where we stood now and she said she didn't know. I told her that we could just take it slow and she agreed. We are both really busy this week/ weekend so we wont get much of a chance to see each other, but maybe that's a good thing at least for now. She texted me a few times after, and called me late last night after I was already asleep, she works nights. I called her back this morning just to chat for a minute and see how her work went.

 

I am hopng this all works out if we give it some more time. I am glad that we had that one night to reinforce the feelings we have for each other, but I am not going to start throwing myself at her or try and force the way our relationship was before on her. Hopefully, if she wants to be with me, she will come to me like she did the other night with the movie. I made this mistake before, but now I have had some time to think. I was too passive with her, I gave her everything she wanted, and I think this only pushed her away. I fell hard for her so I didn't want to lose her. After these 2 weeks I realize that I can in fact get by without her. I don't want to, but I can and it's not worth sacraficing myself for it. I'm going to be a man this time, if she wants me she can come get me. I'm not going to be an ass, I will talk to her, but I'll leave the contacting to her and hopefully she will come around sooner or later. How does this sound guys? Hopefully it's the right attitude to have.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I agree..since she broke things off and was unsure, let her do the pursuing. You had a positive get together...but like others said, you have to give it time to see if that was for real or just nostalgia. Two weeks is not a long time to really reflect about the relationship...many breakups which patch up very quickly are done so because of the sense of loss and loneliness rather than out of a sense of learning and self-reflection. That is why you should be careful until you are sure of her true motivation.