Dating REALLY does my head in

[Confused1148]

I met a guy on a dating site, we had a couple of friendly casual chats on MSN. I suggested we meet and perhaps become friends. He agreed (seemingly enthusiastically).

 

Any rate, I log back on to MSN to see if he's about, then I do an MSN status check and ahhh what do you know? I've been blocked (yes, yes I know that was sneaky and unscrupulous of me). Yet he still looks at my profile daily.

 

I didn't threaten him with desperation, love, romance, commitment or any of those things that compel men to make a mad dash for the exit. I'm not ugly, don't have baggage and I like to think that I'm a fairly decent catch.

 

He has obviously chickened out and decided he doesnt want to see me (some things speak for themselves). But I can't help wondering why? (I would ask him but he blocked me).

 

Sometimes I think it would have been easier to stay married to my cheating husband rather than find myself in a pool of confusion over this dating game - better the devil you know.

 

Suggestions?

[rocio]

But I can't help wondering why?

 

It could be any number of reasons and you'll likely never find out. It has nothing to do with you, though. Maybe he reconciled with his ex. Maybe he was afraid you wouldn't like him. Heck, maybe he even figured out that he's gay! Who cares? Get up, brush yourself off, and get back in the game.

[saltandvinegar]

Some people get on these dating sites without any intention of ever seriously meeting someone- no matter what they say to you. Its odd, I know, but I have been on these sites and also have heard the same story over and over.

 

Heaps of people just freak at the thought of meeting.

 

What I think you'll find is that he will get over his little freak out and will unblock you in a few days. I've never been blocked myself, but have blocked guys who i just didnt want to deal with, or were too eager to meet.

[ghost69]

why do women usually need an answer? you met a guy online. he stopped talking to you for some reason. move on. maybe you just don't click.

[Batya33]

I agree with ghost. maybe he did some checking and discovered you are not yet divorced?

 

On dating sites I never ever offered the "friends first" - through dating someone we develop a friendship as well as a relationship. "friends first" often sounds like either non-interest in dating or saying "to me dating means hopping into bed right away so I'm telling you with friends first that aint gonna happen." That doesn't sound right either - never understood what "friends first" means unless people assume you have to be intimate early on.

 

Or it sounds like you're already attached. If you want friends go to a meet up site for friends.

[Confused1148]

Some people get on these dating sites without any intention of ever seriously meeting someone- no matter what they say to you. Its odd, I know, but I have been on these sites and also have heard the same story over and over.

 

Heaps of people just freak at the thought of meeting.

 

What I think you'll find is that he will get over his little freak out and will unblock you in a few days. I've never been blocked myself, but have blocked guys who i just didnt want to deal with, or were too eager to meet.

 

Fair enough! Glad to know I'm not Robinson Crusoe, I think he did freak at the thought of meeting as you suggested, because he did say he was nervous. Anyway, I'll stop worrying about it, life's too short.

[Altruist]

Maybe he isn't what he described himself as and is ashamed to expose his lies, thinking that you will reject him.

[Censored]

why do women usually need an answer? you met a guy online. he stopped talking to you for some reason. move on. maybe you just don't click.

 

I agree to. Just move on.......rejection blows, but it happens

[Batya33]

I never felt rejected when someone i had never met decided he did not want to continue e-mailing or meet. There are so many reasons for that and even if it was rejection of "me" - he hadn't met "me."

[ghost69]

well batya, some people take rejection harder. i know, but it happens.

[Confused1148]

I never felt rejected when someone i had never met decided he did not want to continue e-mailing or meet. There are so many reasons for that and even if it was rejection of "me" - he hadn't met "me."

 

Well good onya!