Is Being Competitive a Turn Off to the Opposite Sex?

[ashley001]

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a month.

 

He runs cross country and track and I play tennis and volleyball and we're both fairly competitive people and both catch onto things fast. I think one of the reasons we both found each other attractive is that we both have that eagerness of be good at something...my question is...Is too much competitiveness a turn off?

[Angel_baby]

To me TO MUCH is a turn off. But only if they start to be a sore sport or get very angry at themselves for "making a mistake".

 

No one like a sore loser OR winner.

[soul_soother]

me and my girlfriend both do sports and both are competitive..extremely competitive.. as long as both of you are willing to "agree" or such or take a hit.. we all know that the guys will win at wrestling with you but there's a reason they let you win sometimes

[Angel_baby]

me and my girlfriend both do sports and both are competitive..extremely competitive.. as long as both of you are willing to "agree" or such or take a hit.. we all know that the guys will win at wrestling with you but there's a reason they let you win sometimes

 

Yes, keeping it fun is all what sports are about. I am very competitive but love having a good time. When I was younger I used to be a very sore player, since then I have learned that, 1. No one likes a crabby player and 2. You can't have fun when you are constantly angry

[surfNski]

Not in my opinion, I LOVE competitive women. In fact I usually wont date a woman that cant hang in at least some sport with me. But sports are my thing so maybe I am an exception..

 

good luck

[Boughs]

Yeah keep the competition fun. If one punch hits their ego a bit (gets upset) go easy for a little while... then you can try again and see if it was just a bad week or something.

[Fisch]

Its more like, the wrong type of competitiveness is a turn off. When me and my ex used to play speed scrabble and she would lose she would get in a bad mood towards me and pretend it was for no reason, she would also cheat, and be passive aggressive. The cheating makes a lot more sense, thinking about it now... lol. Anyway, it is a total turn off if you are an immature type of competitive. To me it just brings down your value. I love to compete, I love to beat people and to know I am better than them at something. If I lose I don't hold it against them, unless they cheated! I only see getting angry as justified if I don't put my full will into something, or if something is logically unfair or uneven.

 

Also, if competition was all there was, or it prevented us from being secure with our SO being better at something. If EVERYTHING was a competition I cant imagine it would be much fun. Other than that I LOVE a woman who likes to compete, it is awesome

[Seymore]

Too much, yes. In fact by my experience if there's too much it can spill into arguments as well, where you're trying to one-up each other and get the last word in. Arguments get louder and louder etc.

 

But there's nothing wrong with some healthy competition.

[ghost69]

yeah too much can be bad. if after sex you spank his ash and say good game, that'd be a bit much. but i'd love a girl that picks football games with me and likes another team or something.

[Gath]

competitiveness is atractive, sore loser or bad sportsmanship is not.