I am too old for her..

[la5t13]

I keep having to tell myself this every time I think about this girl. She is the younger sister of one of my friends. My friend is 24 and I am 19. Her sister is 14.

 

The age difference sounds horrible. 14 and 19. I am your typical nice guy who does not care about sex. I am a virgin. I just want to find the right girl and if I found her and she never wanted sex I wouldn't care. I would just love her.

 

This girl is so nice. She is really pretty and does not look 14. She looks at least 17 years old. We are always picking on each other and laughing. I feel like she likes me but I could be wrong. I really don't know.

 

When she is 18, I will be 22-23. That doesn't sound so bad. When I was in high school, girls were dating guys around that age. They always dated older.

 

I feel bad for liking someone so young, but I can't help it. Should I completely try to forget about her? She talks to me online almost everyday. Comments on my pictures and whenever I see her she is so happy. Her family definitely has some problems so I don't think they would think the number difference is so big a deal. But most people would. The number sounds so bad.

 

Her sister doesn't know I like this girl. That would also make things awkward. One of my friends who is 15, said she would date a guy 17, 18, or 19. That it is not a big deal.

 

I should do everything I can to not think about her, right?

[Killasasparilla]

Try talking to her about it.

[Censored]

Yes, i think at 14 she is NO WHERE near mature enough, physically or mentally.

 

yeah when you are 21/22/23 and she is 18, then whatever, But for now, she is a child. Stay the hell away.

[jengh]

I agree with NiceGuyLoses.... stay away...when i was 14, i thought I was sooo mature...wanted to date older guys...looking back, i was just a child...

[itsallgrand]

Think of it this way:

 

She is probably relating to you so well bc some parts of her see you as an older brother type.

 

Reason enough to get disinterested? lol.

 

It happens all the time that the kid sister gets crushes on her brother's/sister's older friends. It's someone presumably safe to have those feelings about.

 

It's presumably safe because the girl thinks it will never happen. Because, usually the brother/sister/family will step in and say "hey, this is nuts. No way. What are you doing moving in on my sister, man?!" and even a brawl in the backyard to put the friend in line...you get the idea.

 

It's normal that you think good things about her, even that she is cute and whatever.

 

But not a good idea to keep up with this. It simply means you are ready to go and find yourself a nice girlfriend.

 

So go out there! No scooping from your friend's house...and the age thing doesn't need to be said, does it?

[la5t13]

Thanks everyone!

 

I'll just try and be a good friend to her, but thats all. Who knows what will happen in a few years.

 

It is just back to square one where I have to find another girl I like. I have much trouble with that.

 

I mean, I just found out that this girl I work with likes me. But I am just not into her. She is a good friend.

 

I have only ever had one girlfriend so I'll just have to keep hunting.

 

Take care all!

[la5t13]

I have a problem. I went to the company party and had a great time. The girl was there. We joked a lot and I texted her a joke. She kept staring at me and smiling. After the party she sent me another text message. I tried to keep it a friend thing.

 

After I texted her and said the party was fun. We should all hang out again. It is just that you are 13 and I am 19 so I feel like a creep. She then told me how her sister told her to go out with me (a different sister). She also is hiding the fact that she hooked up with a 18yr old guy. So she doesn't mind my age. I would never sleep with her.

Does hooking up mean she slept with him?

 

Her and her sisters then drove past my house to see where I live.

 

I don't know what to do. I like her but she is too young.

 

Edit: I talked with a friend and she said I have to make it clear to the girl that we can hang out but just as friends until we are older or something I guess.

[wiser]

When she is 18, I will be 22-23. That doesn't sound so bad.

 

The operative word is "when". It's a 4 year difference. Thats like saying a its ok for a 15 year old guy to be with an 11 year old girl. Stop trying to rationalize it. Come back in 4 years.

[la5t13]

Yea. Thanks for stating that. I'll just tell her we can only be friends. The age gap is too harsh.

[wiser]

It is. You never know what might happen in the future, but for now, its just wrong. Its good that you know it and you are dealing with it responsibly.

[la5t13]

She just sent me another text asking if I like another girl we hung out with today. I replied "What? lol" And then told her how I am 5-6 years older than both of you and her. I said I could go to jail and I like you but when you are 18 that would be safe. I am just happy to know you now.

 

She then replied back and said it stinks that it is in 5 years but it is okay. So I said save me a date.

 

She said of coarse. I then changed the subject to something else. I think this will work out okay.

[wiser]

Well, consider dating both of them. Between the two of them they are 30 years old.

[la5t13]

Well everything is back to normal now, which is good. Thanks for the help. =)

[schueysgirl]

Its hard but definetly wait. I am 23 and my boyfriend is 18 and its going absolutely brilliantly. So just wait for her to turn 18 so she is no longer a child and then no one will be able to bat an eyelid at it...age is nothing....so long as both people in the relationship are consenting adults

[purplemist]

Yesterday we started topic on this and I would love to talk with anyone about this topic (age gap)

PM me anytime.

[Natty7]

It is. You never know what might happen in the future, but for now, its just wrong. Its good that you know it and you are dealing with it responsibly.

 

I completely agree. Kudos to you for being so responsible. I'll tell you, when I was a freshman in high school (so I guess I was about 14'ish) I dated a 19 year old. We didn't really do anything (even though he tried) just made out. My parents found out and made me stop seeing him.

 

Here is the important part: I always to this day, and will always, think of that guy as a creep, a pervert a pedophile! I mean, I can understand why I wanted to date him, he was older and that is always attractive when you are so young, makes you feel so mature. BUT WHAT THE HECK WAS HIS DEAL? I now think back, why couldn't he find someone closer to his own age? Hmmm... You don't want this girl thinking back and having that memory of you. I mean this guy was a nice guy and all, but like I said, years later I can't think of anything good about him.

 

(and hooking up means sleeping together, at least in Florida, USA)