Well just arrived home from another date and....

[ConfusedDater]

We went to a book store and talked for two hours. No dinner or anything, she offered to drive me home but I declined since I was in walking distance. I will have to say it was a interesting date

 

She pretty much maintained eye contact with me and leaned toward at certain times

 

She told me the movies see would like to see

 

She told me about a great place to eat Indian Food

 

 

 

The strange part of the date was when she was telling me how she was grossed out by her last blind date because he had a foot fetish and asked me-

 

"You don't have any fetishes do you?

 

 

LOL-wasn't expecting that.

 

 

So WHAT NOW???-lol I don't want to mess up like last week

[renaissancewoman101]

Well, if you want to see her again, call her and ask her out for another date.

[annie24]

call her tomorrow and ask if she would like to get indian food and watch a movie with you this weekend. sounds like the date went well!

[JadedStar]

call her tomorrow and ask if she would like to get indian food and watch a movie with you this weekend. sounds like the date went well!

 

^^^ I agree with Annie.

 

BUT ONLY if you are sincerely interested in her as a dating prospect at this point. If it is for "practice" don't take the chance of getting her hopes up. That is wrong and you wouldn't like that done to you.

 

But if you really think it went well then ask her out for the weekend.

[ConfusedDater]

call her tomorrow and ask if she would like to get indian food and watch a movie with you this weekend. sounds like the date went well!

 

 

 

Ok, I will do that.

[ConfusedDater]

^^^ I agree with Annie.

 

BUT ONLY if you are sincerely interested in her as a dating prospect at this point. If it is for "practice" don't take the chance of getting her hopes up. That is wrong and you wouldn't like that done to you.

 

But if you really think it went well then ask her out for the weekend.

 

 

I think I had her confused with someone else because when she walked up to me I defintely saw a different person from who I saw on the Photo.

[servedcold]

Yeah, call her tomorrow night for a weekend dinner date. You are doing great by getting back on the horse and increasing your options. You'll be wowing these women before you know it.

 

If a woman asks questions like the fetish one, it's a great layup for a clever comeback. "Do you have any fetishes?"

 

1. "Well, I love home cooked meals, does that count?"

 

2. "Nope, not gonna pull the gimp mask out on you."

 

3. "Yeah, I have a fetish for cool women who treat me well. Will do anything they ask."

 

4. "Yeah, I have a thing for holding hands and kissing on park benches" (then reach out, grab her hand and wink at her) "where's a park bench when you need one?"

 

You get the idea... flirtflirtflirt works every time...

[ConfusedDater]

Yeah, call her tomorrow night for a weekend dinner date. You are doing great by getting back on the horse and increasing your options. You'll be wowing these women before you know it.

 

If a woman asks questions like the fetish one, it's a great layup for a clever comeback. "Do you have any fetishes?"

 

1. "Well, I love home cooked meals, does that count?"

 

2. "Nope, not gonna pull the gimp mask out on you."

 

3. "Yeah, I have a fetish for cool women who treat me well. Will do anything they ask."

 

4. "Yeah, I have a thing for holding hands and kissing on park benches" (then reach out, grab her hand and wink at her) "where's a park bench when you need one?"

 

You get the idea... flirtflirtflirt works every time...

 

 

 

She told me she didn't have any. I was so surprised

[annie24]

i agree with a funny comeback - that's cute. first date isn't really necessarily the proper time to have a serious fetish talk so i think avoiding the issue in a cute way is good.

[ConfusedDater]

i agree with a funny comeback - that's cute. first date isn't really necessarily the proper time to have a serious fetish talk so i think avoiding the issue in a cute way is good.

 

 

 

That's exactly what I did

[annie24]

good job!!!!!!!!1

[JadedStar]

That's exactly what I did

 

She probably brought up the fetish as an icebreaker. I did that once...brougth up something really awful one person said on a date just to kind of break the ice and get a giggle. I think that is why she said it.

[HellFrost666]

Personally, I think everyone has some fetish, even if they don't admit it.

 

But it sounds like you handled it well.

[pacman]

Theres nothing wrong with a bit of a foot fetish[-(

 

She probably is just upset because she has ugly feet.

[wiser]

I think I had her confused with someone else because when she walked up to me I defintely saw a different person from who I saw on the Photo.

 

Maybe she sent her sister as an advance scout or something.

[Brightest Dark]

If a woman asks questions like the fetish one, it's a great layup for a clever comeback. "Do you have any fetishes?"

 

1. "Well, I love home cooked meals, does that count?"

 

2. "Nope, not gonna pull the gimp mask out on you."

 

3. "Yeah, I have a fetish for cool women who treat me well. Will do anything they ask."

 

4. "Yeah, I have a thing for holding hands and kissing on park benches" (then reach out, grab her hand and wink at her) "where's a park bench when you need one?"

 

You get the idea... flirtflirtflirt works every time...

 

I think the fact that she brought up fetishes means she is comfortable with you and must like you t least to an extent - as I wouldn't mention fetishes if I wasn't interested in the guy.

 

However, I'm not actually keen on served cold's replies (no offence). No. 1 makes it sound like you're a home body, not good for the first date - she might think you want to start a family already. No. 2 is the most humorous - I'd give a slight laugh at that (but not much because it wasn't THAT funny). No. 3 sounds like you're a pushover who is a bit desperate for a woman. No. 4 is a bit sickly.

[ghost69]

call her up and have a conversation with her. tell her you had a great time. but i would have taken the ride home. i think she wanted to continue with you in the car and maybe then some.

[ConfusedDater]

call her up and have a conversation with her. tell her you had a great time. but i would have taken the ride home. i think she wanted to continue with you in the car and maybe then some.

 

 

so you think she felt some kind of way by me not accepting the ride? I mean since I only lived 5 min walking distance I was like-"That's ok" And then asked again-"are you sure i can't give you a lift home"

 

 

 

 

Dating Note: Back in july when I ended a date and walked a female to her car, I didn't get that offer from that particular female-lol She just got in her car and that was it

[servedcold]

However, I'm not actually keen on served cold's replies (no offence). No. 1 makes it sound like you're a home body, not good for the first date - she might think you want to start a family already. No. 2 is the most humorous - I'd give a slight laugh at that (but not much because it wasn't THAT funny). No. 3 sounds like you're a pushover who is a bit desperate for a woman. No. 4 is a bit sickly.

 

Wow you're a tough nut! Remember I'm 43, so age down the flirtatious comments appropriately if you are younger OP. If a woman brings up fetishes on a first date, I'm gonna assume it's a test and revert back to "plain vanilla, normal, mom n apple pie guy land" posthaste, even if it's a bit corny, so stand by my post as being generally good flirtiness. Bet I could get a very willing kiss out of you sooner rather than later, brightest

[ghost69]

so you think she felt some kind of way by me not accepting the ride? I mean since I only lived 5 min walking distance I was like-"That's ok" And then asked again-"are you sure i can't give you a lift home"

 

 

 

 

Dating Note: Back in july when I ended a date and walked a female to her car, I didn't get that offer from that particular female-lol She just got in her car and that was it

 

who knows what her intentions of giving you a ride home was, but she wanted to. you should have gone. i don't care if you lived 2 steps away. she just wanted to spend MORE time with you.

[ConfusedDater]

who knows what her intentions of giving you a ride home was, but she wanted to. you should have gone. i don't care if you lived 2 steps away. she just wanted to spend MORE time with you.

 

 

Yeah I guess you are right. I guess I wasn't expecting that question because I had already told her I lived walking distance from the bookstore before I arrived.

[ghost69]

Yeah I guess you are right. I guess I wasn't expecting that question because I had already told her I lived walking distance from the bookstore before I arrived.

 

you have to think of these things man. it was a missed opportunity. she probably thinks she wasn't interesting enough for you to want to ride with her.

[ConfusedDater]

you have to think of these things man. it was a missed opportunity. she probably thinks she wasn't interesting enough for you to want to ride with her.

 

 

Yeah well I won't either bother with the email thing this time, i'm using the phone for contact only. No email. email contact ends once i meet you

[wiser]

No email. email contact ends once i meet you

 

Why do you have to be so rigid and inflexible? Emails are convenient, "asynchroous", meaning that the person you email can get back to you at their leisure. It's become a common form of communication, and many people, including myself, prefer it to phone calls during the day.

 

You keep shooting yourself in the foot with some of your actions.

[ghost69]

Why do you have to be so rigid and inflexible? Emails are convenient, "asynchroous", meaning that the person you email can get back to you at their leisure. It's become a common form of communication, and many people, including myself, prefer it to phone calls during the day.

 

You keep shooting yourself in the foot with some of your actions.

 

i like how he is thinking though. email is so unpersonal. it's like i had time to type this up, but you don't mean enough to want to get to know i won't call.

 

stick with the phone and meetings in person. it's best.