So Annoyed!!!

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Far out! I dont get my parents sometimes, my dad just asked me for 2k. Ive been working EVERYDAY (including weekends) to pay of my car, Im so tired and stressed and now that he wants so much money, it just burns me. Then they go and say bad stuff about me.

 

I'l be a good daughter and give it to them, but my eyes are on the light at the end of the tunnel...when I can finally move out!

 

It just really burns me, now I have to work harder than what Im doing (double shifts?) Im going mental, Ive lost so much weight because I dont buy food (so I can save up) and they just take it away from me.

 

Argh!

[CarnelianButterfly]

Did he pay for the car?

[Censored]

Ummmm, why did your dad ask you for 2k?

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

No the car is mine, I took the loan out to pay for it myself, plus Im still at uni which makes it really hard to work and study... so I study during the day and work at nights...I really needed the car to travel to uni (public transport here is disgusting!)

 

 

He needs the money to pay off some stuff... like credit cards and all.

[tommy_bud]

Unless your father is disabled, or otherwise has a realistic reason why he can't afford his own bills, then you have every right to be upset. In fact, I'd consider taking that $2k and moving out with it instead. However, that depends on the reason he can't come up with the money himself.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

He isnt disabled.

 

I know he isnt going to pay me back anytime soon either.

 

Im really sick of it. My parents are really strange, one minute they're saying Im fat and ugly etc the next they sucking up. I cant wait to move out, Im not staying in the area either LOL Im going to go far away!

[Censored]

Far away, let me guess...................Melbourne

[breath.o.fresh.air]

one minute they're saying Im fat and ugly etc the next they sucking up.

 

That sounds like a cycle of abuse to me. Get out. Move to an apartment with the 2K and don't give it to your parents. Unless they have a really good excuse - eg. paying for your tuition, books, etc. - but it doesn't sound like that's the case here.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Tell him to take out a loan. You're not a bank.

 

If you do give him the money, write a contract with a time frame for him to pay you back. Make him sign it, no signature, no money. If he doesn't pay you back, take him to court.

[Censored]

ohhhhh, well that's a little tough on the old man isn't it.

 

I'd prefer to just tell him i don't have it, but i would so i wouldn't be in that situation.

 

but a contract!!! take him to court.....WAAAAOOOOOHHHHH. Really?

[CarnelianButterfly]

ohhhhh, well that's a little tough on the old man isn't it.

 

I'd prefer to just tell him i don't have it, but i would so i wouldn't be in that situation.

 

but a contract!!! take him to court.....WAAAAOOOOOHHHHH. Really?

 

If he feels the need to treat her the way he has, its only fair that she protects her interests.

[Censored]

^

 

Well, i suppose i can't argue with you there. A little hard to understand as my old man has never asked to borrow cash, nor has he ever put me donw in a negative way........

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Far away, let me guess...................Melbourne

 

 

OMG how did you know!? haha

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Guys, I just gave it to him just now. Im annoyed but I'l feel slack if I dont give it to him.

 

I have grown up in an abusive household, but I just put up with it until I finish uni so I can move out

 

My parents used to hit me when I got Cs at school, I had to be a straight A student, Ive always had to ask permission if I can go out etc and Im in my friken 20s! LOL Its really silly but Ive learnt to deal with it. It used to get to me and I was depressed all the time, but now it goes in one ear and out the other.

[Censored]

Well, you know, I don't think it is bad if you are helping your family. However it seems like he is simply being irresponsible with his money and then you have fix it up for him.

 

If i were you, i would try to move out even locally as soon as possible. Maybe a shared jouse, b/c $2,000 would last a long time for rent!!!!

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Thats true, but the thing is I have my car to pay off, and when uni starts again next year, there will be months were I wont be working because I'l be on clinical placement (working without pay) and I doubt I'l be able to pay bills and stuff on time. Plus everything is so expensive these days! Its really hard.

[Censored]

Seems like your a little stuck between a rock and a hard place.

 

Atleast the weather is good today

[CarnelianButterfly]

Thats true, but the thing is I have my car to pay off, and when uni starts again next year, there will be months were I wont be working because I'l be on clinical placement (working without pay) and I doubt I'l be able to pay bills and stuff on time. Plus everything is so expensive these days! Its really hard.

 

Then make sure you tell your dad tonight that he MUST pay it back in an reasonable time frame. State the things you just stated here.

 

I hope you wrote a check because if he gives you any crap about paying you back, you can cancel the check tomorrow.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Seems like your a little stuck between a rock and a hard place.

 

Atleast the weather is good today

 

LOL indeed!

 

Its not too hot here (thank god!) But it rained when I finished washing my car blah!

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Then make sure you tell your dad tonight that he MUST pay it back in an reasonable time frame. State the things you just stated here.

 

I hope you wrote a check because if he gives you any crap about paying you back, you can cancel the check tomorrow.

 

I should have written a cheque, but I went to the bank and took it out and gave it to him in cash.

 

Oh well, all I can do is wait and see what happens

 

Thanks for all your help though

[bpsekh]

I've noticed that as I'm making more money, my dad is getting increasingly anxious about how I spend my money. And every so often, he wants me to fork over a certain sum to him. When he wrecked the car last month, he needed money, and I gave it to him, mostly because I kind of feel sorry for him.

 

Ive always had to ask permission if I can go out etc and Im in my friken 20s!

I got this problem too. I can assure you that your problems with your father aren't as great as mine. Sure he was tough on me when I was a kid and I don't resent that. Now though, he moves in with me (1100 km from where he used to live) and he's just being overbearing and overprotective. It's a royal pain in the a*** sometimes...