The Good news is I have another date this week, the Bad News is..........

[ConfusedDater]

She is not my Type but I need practice and that's what I will going to do and maybe next time when I have a date with someone who is my type, (LIKE LAST WEEK) I will be ready.

 

 

So I will let everyone know how it goes, the good thing is the date will be on a WEDNESDAY NIGHT instead of a SATURDAY NIGHT

[Batya33]

Maybe that's why the other woman went out with you - for practice!

[ghost69]

yeah, don't want to waste your saturday night. lol. i would never date girls i'm uninterested in. you will have no focus.

[vermilion]

......I think I'd be pretty insulted if I found out a guy was just using me as "practice". Especially if I was really into the guy.

 

Don't waste this girl's time, call it off if you know it's not going to go anywhere.

[JadedStar]

ConfusedDater I have a feeling you are going to have quite a road ahead of you with dating.

 

How crushed would you have been to find out the woman you just went out on a date wtih didn't like you even the slightest and looked at it as practice?

 

We reap what we sow.

[jettison]

I agree, don't go on a "practice date" premetitatively. You can go on a date that didn't work out and chalk it up to "practice". That's fine. But if you know that you don't like someone then don't humor them. Dating is a big deal to almost everyone or else they wouldn't bother doing it. People are looking to share their lives with someone. Don't waste her time.

 

And contrary to your line of thinking, practice is not going to make perfect. If anything, it will just turn you off from dating in general. Spending time with people you don't like has nothing to do with perfecting dating skills.

[ConfusedDater]

I agree, don't go on a "practice date" premetitatively. You can go on a date that didn't work out and chalk it up to "practice". That's fine. But if you know that you don't like someone then don't humor them. Dating is a big deal to almost everyone or else they wouldn't bother doing it. People are looking to share their lives with someone. Don't waste her time.

 

And contrary to your line of thinking, practice is not going to make perfect. If anything, it will just turn you off from dating in general. Spending time with people you don't like has nothing to do with perfecting dating skills.

 

 

 

she is nice so and what's wrong with meeting a new friend?

[shikashika]

I agree with the others... don't go out with her for practice... its a waste of your time and her time.

 

I'm sure if someone did the same to you, you would be peeved off!

[NewPhillyGuy]

not good, dude. not good at all.

[Jayar]

she is nice so and what's wrong with meeting a new friend?

 

It's not "meeting a new friend" if she thinks it's a date... It's just plain cruel.

[JadedStar]

she is nice so and what's wrong with meeting a new friend?

 

What if she really likes you the way you liked this other woman? What if it really hurts her and she gets obsessive and checks your profile and starts firing off emails to you?

 

You know of all people that going out with someone who doesn't seem to reciprocate hurts the self esteem. When this happens but we didn't do it on purpose there is no way around it. But going out with a person when you KNOW they are not your type and that you won't like them is like jetti said premeditated. It is a willful act of potentially really hurting someone when it could very easily be avoided.

 

If women started going out with you thinking "well he isn't my type but maybe i'll make a new friend" knowing your personality you'd go crazy.

 

Sure you can make friends on these dating sites but you know good and well that women is not on there looking for merely a friend. Don't waste her time.

 

When some of us said practice on your other thread we surely didn't mean this. We meant if you go out on some dates that don't work out you will be able to learn from your mistakes - like with the last girl. You learned some valuable lessons with that one because she was interested and your obsessiveness blew it.

[Batya33]

It's fine if she says on the profile she is only looking for friends but a person who advertises for dates by definition is not only looking for friends - it may turn out that way - but if you know up front it is never going to happen it's not fair to waste her time. And I agree with JS that it is so ironic how you complained with every last breath about having to pay for dinner for a woman who later decided she wasn't into you but it's fine for you to use someone for "practice."

[AngelEyez]

Poor girl...only being used to benefit your needs. It's hard to find a good man in this world.

[ConfusedDater]

I agree with the others... don't go out with her for practice... its a waste of your time and her time.

 

I'm sure if someone did the same to you, you would be peeved off!

 

 

 

What's wrong with making a new friend? And she was pretty cool, we went out tonight instead of Wednesday

[Batya33]

Nothing as long as you tell someone who is on a dating site "I'd love to meet but just as friends."

 

When I did online dating I had precious free time - and no time to meet "just be friends" people - I had enough friends. I would have been really annoyed to waste time getting ready for a first meet, spending an hour over coffee, travelling home - to find out that his intention all along was to "make a new friend" - you're the one who got upset by someone who actually did intend to see if she was attracted to you - and then decided she wasn't, so it's baffling and bizarre why you think it's ok when you behave even worse than what you thought was so awful.

[servedcold]

OK rephrase to "There was no initial chemistry, but she is such a nice person that I want to treat her to another date to see if anything could develop," to get all these ENA women off your back... have had dates with women who obviously weren't into me the first goround. Fine that they didn't give me a second chance, but would have appreciated another shot.

 

Had a date with a woman where there was a real click, she had second thoughts and wouldn't date me again because, "you remind me of a man I used to date and he didn't marry me so I imagine you won't either..." ROFL. Funny now years later, wasn't funny then.

[Batya33]

Oh there's nothing wrong with going in with the intention of finding someone to date, then being on the fence and deciding to give it a few more dates. but going in knowing "just friends" and you meet on a dating site - that's wasting the other person's time.

[JadedStar]

OK rephrase to "There was no initial chemistry, but she is such a nice person that I want to treat her to another date to see if anything could develop," to get all these ENA women off your back... have had dates with women who obviously weren't into me the first goround. Fine that they didn't give me a second chance, but would have appreciated another shot.

 

Had a date with a woman where there was a real click, she had second thoughts and wouldn't date me again because, "you remind me of a man I used to date and he didn't marry me so I imagine you won't either..." ROFL. Funny now years later, wasn't funny then.

 

 

"get the ena women off his back"? Servedcold, he is asking for opinions and no offense but if he is trying to date females getting advice from other females is probably not a bad thing.

[servedcold]

"get the ena women off his back"? Servedcold, he is asking for opinions and no offense but if he is trying to date females getting advice from other females is probably not a bad thing.

 

Was just giving you all a hard time for jumping on him. Yes, all you "ENA women" offer great advice, didn't mean to imply otherwise.