Should I even bother letting her down?

[Chriz]

Hi people. There is a girl who I've known for a little while now and I know she's interested in me. 5 of us recently went on a trip abroad for a week. 3 guys including me and these two twin girls who I've known for a little while through these guy friends. Anyway the trip was great, but I found it annoying how this girl would subtly come to me to talk and basically indicate that she liked me.

 

One night us 3 guys and the girl that likes me went out for a night on the town and we all got a little drunk. She was totally off her face. My friend had to accompany her back to her room. While in this drunk state she didn't want me or this other guy to be around her and she told the guy accompanying her back to her room that she likes him and that he should leave his girlfriend for him. She later started crying in the hallway of the hotel about how crappy her life was and so forth and how she was still upset that her previous BF had left her for another girl. Anyway, that gave everyone the impression that she was a bit stuffed up emotionally and needless to say we kept her away from alcohol after that.

 

A couple of nights later my friend mentioned that while he was taking her back to her room that night and she was carrying on, she was saying how no one likes her and how she is interested in me, but I don't seem to make a move on her. My two guy friends were from then on giving me crap about how this girl likes me and that I should make a move on her. I found this annoying and it left me feeling a bit awkward when I was around her. I tried to avoid her, but she would often follow. To me it came accross as on the borderline of desperate. That's a turn off.

 

The thing is that I'm not really interested in her. There's too many things that stop me from pursuing a relationship with her. Firstly there's a cultural difference, which means her family would be pretty up tight about who she'd go out with. I don't want that sort of baggage. She is personally not my type. We get on OK, but I find the way she acts and talks to be irritating after a while. I'd prefer someone who can articulate themselves a bit better. She seems to just blurt things out and can be hard to understand sometimes. Physically she isn't too bad, but still not my preference. Anyway, overall I don't want to go further than a friendship with her. Question is do I have to tell her anything, or does she get the point that I'm not interested because I didn't make a move on her? I don't feel like I should be obliged to do anything because I've never indicated to her that I liked her. My friend asked what I'd say if she tried to ask me out on the trip. Luckily she didn't.

[DN]

I don't think you should say anything outright because she hasn't made an overt move - just don't make any sort of move and you couldmention how you are interested in some other girl.

[Censored]

I don't think you should say anything outright because she hasn't made an overt move - just don't make any sort of move and you couldmention how you are interested in some other girl.

 

I agree with DN here.

[darkpumpkin]

It's a hard situation but if your not interested then defiantly just leave it be. Make sure she never gets the wrong impression and eventually her crush on you will pass.

 

Sucky situation though.

[ghost69]

if she asks you what's up, then tell her you had no idea she liked you. then tell her you see her as a friend. but i wouldn't say anything unless she brings it up.