i miss her 2 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 For anyone that doesn't know, my gf of 2 years left me in August, started seeing two other guys and then about a month and a half ago we slowly started getting back together. Now we've been officially back together and it's going pretty well. Some of the reasons we broke up were me being negative, jealous, etc. Anyway, one of the rebound guys does continue to write on her facebook wall and send her messages. I never say anything about him. I never bring up the period that we were apart. I almost act like it never happened. About a week or so ago she told me that rebound guy # 2 sent her a message asking if she would make him a hemp necklace. She told me she didn't want to, and she didn't want to see him ever again. I said cool. Tonight I was at her house and she was browsing through all these pictures on her computer and suddenly I see a photo album of them together from when they dated. I didn't say anything but I'm pretty sure she knows I saw them. I don't know what to think. I guess she probably keeps most of her pictures..I mean she even has pics of her and her first bf who cheated on her. So all of a sudden she say's "Yeah ****** (rebound guy #2) sent me a message asking if I could go to this game that he is going to be filming. He even said that you could come too but if I came alone he could probably get me in for free. I told him that you and I had plans. I don't want to see him ever again. Why does she still ahve the pics? I know they aren't together, but it hurt to see a photo album of them together. It sucked to see that! And why did she just all of a sudden bring that up? Maybe she did figure I saw that album on her computer and thought I was thinking, "Maybe she is still interested in him?" I guess I shouldn't mention or ask why she has it?
xxfitchick Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 hehe i wouldn't read into it. she's probably like me, too lazy to remove them =P and since she doesn't want to see him, they obviously don't mean anything to her.
Ampire Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 the girls I know (not trying to stereotype) all keep pictures of everything from their past, painful or not, if it was a mistake, anything...they keep them... I wouldn't read into it at all If anything she is just testing to see if you would get jealous, since you said you broke up because you were a jealous guy... keep your cool, ignore it, don't let it bother you, your back together so keep it that way! good luck
kevinm Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Pictures are just things... reminders. It's where her heat is that is important, and it sounds like it's in the right place concerning you. I wouldn't worry about it, it's just a picture. -Kevin
i miss her 2 Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Haha well I hope I didn't come off as jealous because she did say something like, "I guess they're not in here.." (the pics she was looking for) and I said, "Let's look through all your pics!" ( in a joking way) but I think she knew what I was getting at. It wasn't until after that that she brought up that guy and how she didn't want to see him so I guess I didn't screw up.I hope lol. I didn't ask her anything about him or anything.
Censored Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Well played me thinks. Don't read into it, some people, myself included just constantly dump my camera onto the computer in folders without going through them all
pacodemil Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Trust what she tells you until she gives you a reason not to.
CrapAtNC Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I still have pics of some frightful exes. Don't let it get to you. This would be a great exercise for you to overcome your jealousies. By the way, I came to realise something very important today: what we believe is true. By that I mean that, if you believe your girlfriend still likes someone else or will cheat on you or leave you for someone else, it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy - you will unwittingly make it more likely to happen just by your own behaviour. Now, take a look at someone you know who never has girls cheating on him or leaving him, etc. I'm betting that he is not the kind of person to think that would ever happen to him - am I right? Just a thought. Hope it makes sense. CrapAtNC who always has loving, loyal women
i miss her 2 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Ok, we talked on the phone tonight and of course I am not in the best spirits because my uncle (who I was very close with) passed away so she understood. I just got on facebook though and saw that this rebound guy left yet another comment on her wall: "You missed the Transiberian orchestra saturday night..shame shame What do they still talk through email or what and he asks her out? Does he not understand or does she lead him on and give him hope that she will date him again? I would like to know. I wrote on her wall after that, but nothing about his comment...I'm just gonna ignore it. That is what I should do right? I noticed she had added "The Game" to her favorite movies which is what we watched the other night so I said, "Yes! You added The Game!"
emalkoc Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 My ex had her ex-husband's picture along w/ other kids always on her desk over 2 years...Girls are sentimental... My ex still keeps our pictures on her facebook even though she has a new bfriend... I told you before.She is sleeping w/ you...what else you want? she is NOT sleeping with other guys. Eric
i miss her 2 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Well, to be honest I don't really want her secretly talking back and forth with some a****** that just wants to sleep with her. Just because he's freakin rich doesn't mean he's better than me d******. lol.
emalkoc Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 you need to get out that feeling from yourself.. You remind me my youth in that regards I was so insecure when I was young and I had a girl who she was attracted to rich kids but she was with me still. I was so insecure because I was in college and not making enough to live... So behave secure and confident even if you dont have 1$ in your pocket!.. You will love you even more.
CrapAtNC Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Give her respect; allow her to decide for herself what is and isn't good for her. If you try and tell her, or show any inclination to thinking she can't make mature decisions for herself, she will start to see you more as a parent figure than a lover who makes her feel good about herself. Which do you want to be?
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