Mini orgasms?

[PhilliesFan001]

Just thinking about this lately - whenever I'm with my current boyfriend, things feel great. I find myself breathing quite heavily, making noises, sometimes my legs will be trembling uncontrollably....I feel a huge buildup inside and then it usually reaches a peak.

 

The thing is, I never considered these orgasms. I used to use a vibrator and THOSE were orgasms. Those were incredibly powerful and all that obviously is because it was a machine doing it.

 

I'm just wondering if maybe I am having 'mini' orgasms with my boyfriend - and I've just never considered me to be coming before because I always compare it to the orgasms I've had with a vibrator.

 

Does any of that make sense? I really don't know if I'm just having little orgasms with him, or if they're not anything at all.

[Suesser Tod]

An orgasm doesn't leave room for doubt. The bright side is that he must be doing something right, so you need to keep practicing to find out what is missing to take you there.

[Katherine1607307710]

I think there is such thing. I've had big ones and little ones.

 

An orgasm doesn't leave room for doubt. The bright side is that he must be doing something right, so you need to keep practicing to find out what is missing to take you there.

 

Really? why can't there be a spectrum from mild to intense? could you describe your orgasms to show us what a real orgasm is?

 

I discussed this on another thread just yesterday. (If you look under the "never had orgasm with a guy post" you'll see my take on this one...) Here's how it went:

 

 

If you "think" you had one, than you probably didn't. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

 

And I wrote:

 

This post interested me, as my experience of what I consider orgasms varies from mild to intense. This is going to make me seem really ignorant, but may I describe my mild "orgasms" and could you tell me if you think they're the real deal? (usually from masturbation, but also from sex with others.)

 

1. there's a building up, and it gets better and better,

2. finally the pleasure reaches a peak, and immediately after that I won't have any desire to continue, and afterwards my heart is pounding hard and I'll have produced some cream.

3. I'm often weak afterwards, (especially if it involves penetration from sex with a man, or if I ejaculate) but with non ejaculation "orgasms," I'm sometimes also energised. It can help me get to sleep, but it can also feel like I've been recharged, and get me off to a great day. I'll usually feel very contented and happy, and have a smile on my face.

Is that an orgasm? or something else? opinions?

 

and then Zorba wrote:

 

Sounds like a very good description of an orgasm to me Katherine*. Build up, release and happy sleepy thoughts afterwards, or energised if it's an orgasm from masturbation. It would describe mine very well and I'm a man. Exactly the same, even down to the difference between the sex one to a mastubatory one. Probably more cream produced on my part though....

 

so yeah. Maybe orgasms have a spectrum. And the idea that you have them or you dont' is just a myth. I'd be interested to hear guys take on whether all their orgasms are absolute as well. Do you guys have mild to intense orgasms? do you always ejaculate when you climax?

[Suesser Tod]

I never said anything about orgasm intensity. Of course there are mindblowing orgasms and orgasms that are as much fun as blowing your nose.

 

However, even if it wasn't a powerfull one, you know it was an orgasm.

 

 

By the way, I'm a male. My point still stands, the difference is that for us it is easier to tell if we had an orgasm or not based on the... evidence.

[Nixee]

I think one of the best ways to judge is a pretty simple question: do you feel 'done' or do you feel the urge to keep going?

 

Even when I've had multiples, right afterwards I always feel a release, even if it wasn't the most powerful orgasm. I usually CAN keep going, but I don't feel like I have to. If I haven't climaxed yet, then I won't feel done.

[benga]

tell your boyfriend what you like and how you like it....

[Censored]

^ communication is the key - hmmm someone wise told me that not long ago. It's true

[anggrace]

An orgasm doesn't leave room for doubt. The bright side is that he must be doing something right, so you need to keep practicing to find out what is missing to take you there.

 

I agree. Sure there can be and is huge a spectrum. But I think you still know if it's an orgasm. Even if it's a mini one. But either way, sounds like he's quite the catch for you!

[ghost69]

i know sometimes when i cum, i'm like ohhhhh shhhhhh_____tt. and other times i'm like ehhhh. so i think your orgasms can be ranged from large to small.