trying to wrap my head around this.....

[Lostempire]

I've known this girl for three years now but it wasn't till a year ago that Ireally started talking to her. For a while hardly a day went by when I didn't talk to her. Some days we would spend two to five hours talking or messaging eachother then one day she just stops. then she tells me that she's got a boyfriend now. after that she prety much stoped talking to me unless I was physicaly present at which times she would spend more time talking with me than she intended(one time her parents called looking for her because she was supposed to have been home an hour ago) soon however it became imposible to see her so I had to resort to messaging. During this time she hardly ever responded. Then one day she starts messaging me again, nothing big but it wqas a start. finally I'm in her negborhood one day and she agrees to meet me. well we get to talking and come to find out she'd broken up with her boyfriend around the time she started messaging me agian. she seemed really glad to see me agian and we agreed to hang out more but the more I tried to talk to her the less time she had for me. finally I asked her what was up and she tells me that we are just friends and that's all we'll ever be.

 

Now that hurt but here's the part I can't get my head around.

 

After two weeks I'm finally getting used to the idea that we'll never be more than friends (even though I spent a year agonizing over my feelings only to realize that she's the only girl that I've ever been emotionaly atracted to) when she comes by with her new boyfriend. What confuses me is that he's a guy that liked her but she told him that they were just friends! I knew that she was going to start dating agian, I could accept that, but for her to go out with a guy that she had told me was never going to be more than a friend. I had wanted to stay friends with her but this cuts so deep I don't know If I can.

[ghost69]

this is why you don't be friends when you like someone this much. you have to either go for it or distance yourself. stop with the wanting to stay friends with her. you are just going to cause yourself more jealousy.

[Lostempire]

I dont' think that it's jelousy, if anything i kinda feel sorry for this guy. the previous time i was jelous so I tried to limit contact with her. I guess I could handle "you're just not my type" better in this situation. All i can say is she probably has no idea what she wants and that accounts for her eratic behavior with me. *shrug*

[ghost69]

i think you don't know what you want and how to move on and find it. you are going to wait around for this girl as a 'friend'. do not do this.