Worried about rebounding

[realx]

Hi. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year a bit. I tried to break it off weeks into it cause I felt insecure around him but he sorta just changed my mind. I tried breaking it off again a few months in and again.. he kinda convinced me we had a good thing going. I just wasnt truly in love becasue I couldnt fully be myself with him. But we talked a lot, had fun, and I trusted him fully but I ended it finally... during the end of this relationship I was recording music with this guy from school. (its a recording school) I can totally be myself with him. He confessed hes really interested in me and we've talked about the situation. I feel very intensely for him. Im not lonely.. I dont miss my ex though I think of him fondly. So me and this new guy have just been hanging out recording, at his house and at bars. casual we havent gotten intimate but I am developing very strong feelings for him. I was wondering if an outside perpecitve could give me some insight as too what to do or what to believe about these feelings. So much appreciated.

[wiser]

Your title is about "rebounding". So I guess your concern is that you are either "on the rebound" or you will find yourself missing your exBF. That doesnt seem likely, because you werent into him for a long time, it was more a function of him convincing you to stay with him.

 

You might even feel relief now that you made the move. Is it too soon to get involved with another guy? Possibly. Should you take a break inbetween relationships? Probably.

 

That much said, when opportunity knocks, maybe you should take advantage of it rather than lose a good thing. Day by day, that's how you gotta take it.

[pinkelephant]

I agree with Nairobin. I'd take up the chance and try to take it slow.

[realx]

Thanks a lot. Those were my thoughts too.