what do i do?

[rosie123]

i have been talking to this guy for 3 months and before then he got out of an 8 month relationship. we have talked for 3 months we always hold hands and we have made out on serveral occasions and he said he was going to ask me out but he never did. He is always too busy to hang out with me. i really like him but he always sends me miked messages.he says were friends and we have been on 1 offical date and homecoming.but every time i try to hang out with him he is busy.what should i do?

[BellaDonna]

Hi and welcome to enotalone. I think the next time you see him, you need to just come right out and ask him what his expectations are. It seems that you want a committed relationship. If those are not his goals/expectations as well then it might be best for you to move on. If you continue a physical relationship without a clear commitment, you might end up getting hurt.

 

BellaDonna

[Batya33]

He is not too busy to "talk" and hook up. He is too busy to do what he doesn't feel like doing.

[Hope75]

Hi and welcome to enotalone. I think the next time you see him, you need to just come right out and ask him what his expectations are. It seems that you want a committed relationship. If those are not his goals/expectations as well then it might be best for you to move on. If you continue a physical relationship without a clear commitment, you might end up getting hurt.

 

BellaDonna

 

Bella is right. If you continue to give him attention without knowing what his expectations are and whether or not he is even interested in a commited relationship and you know that you want one, you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak.

 

Just ask him what he's looking for and be honest about what you want. If they are no compatible, move on.

[annie24]

welcome to enotalone. sadly, i was exactly in your position when i was in high school - there was this guy who said he liked me, but never had time for me. my breaking point was when we had been 'dating' for 4 months (with only 1-2 dates, just like you), and he promised me we would go out over christmas vacation, and then he went to his relative's house 3000 miles away for the holidays and NEVER told me. when he got back, i asked him why that was. he said that it was a last minute decision and he didn't have time to tell me. well, i lost it. obviously, there is 3 minutes to call and tell me, excuses are lame. he is acting like he is some high-powered business man too 'busy' when in fact, he is a high school boy! presidents and prime ministers are busy people, not high school boys.

 

I suggest you read the book, "he's just not that into you." read it carefully. it's a good book.

 

(By the way - end of my story, i broke up with him and moved on. 2 years later, he came back begging for me, saying losing me was the dumbest thing he did. damned straight! didn't go back to him though.... he caused me too much suffering.)

[Massari]

i have been talking to this guy for 3 months and before then he got out of an 8 month relationship. we have talked for 3 months we always hold hands and we have made out on serveral occasions and he said he was going to ask me out but he never did. He is always too busy to hang out with me. i really like him but he always sends me miked messages.he says were friends and we have been on 1 offical date and homecoming.but every time i try to hang out with him he is busy.what should i do?

 

 

Hi Rosie and elcome to eNotAlone. I am not quit sure why I feel this way but some part of me is saying he mihgt be just flattered by your attention and using you to boost up his own selfesteem and he enjoys the occasional making out sessions. This is typical behaviour of men when we come out of long term relationships and/or may be heartbroken.

 

After 3 months of hanging out he still hasn't made a move. Thats a little odd IMO.

[ghost69]

ur on the side to him. you aren't getting what you want. move on.