should I date him?

[treeyee]

I'm attracted to him and he told me he felt the same way, we had great time together.

 

the main concern of mine is he's a hard worker but only earn minimum wage,so he's to work almost 80hours/ week...well, I

've a better situation in terms of finance. I think now dating for me is serious, I do want to date sb. I can get married to...

 

he seems pretty serious about me, I felt pressure from him for us to move on somewhere every time. I guess for us, we can't be just friends, we date, or we not date.

 

if it's you, will you date him?

[DN]

Welcome to eNotAlone,

 

I think if his lack of money is a problem for you then you should not date him.

[annie24]

welcome to enotalone - like dn said, go by what your morals state. i would date him though. one of the great things about being an independent woman is that you don't have to rely on a man for your sustinence. you can just pick who you like, not who will give you lots of money, because you are making your own.

 

80 hours a week is a lot though - would you even have time to see him?

[treeyee]

thanks for the reply. yes, he's working long hours and don't have much of time seeing me.. or any other women I guess

 

I really enjoyed his company and I was thinking maybe we can take it really slow to see how it goes, but his expectation is different from mine, I think, he's too serious, he wants more. so I chose not talking to him, because I'm not sure about the future with him, and he won't think I'm leading him on.

 

maybe I shouldn't talk to him, a date without promising future is a waste of time, right?

[annie24]

is it that he doesn't make enough money, that he is of a different social class, what is bothering you....?

[treeyee]

thanks annie

yes, the biggest concern for me is he won't make enough money, although he's a wonderful person.

 

money is not the most important, I don't want rich life coz of sb. else, but I also don't like not having enough money buying new clothes, going to hair salon, etc. please:splat:

[Batya33]

If you marry him you probably will need to be the main breadwinner to keep up the lifestyle you want. Can you accept that?

[Clarity]

Sorry if this question offends, but those are those all things that *you* want? i.e. should *you* be earning enough money to satisfy those needs?

[treeyee]

Sorry if this question offends, but those are those all things that *you* want? i.e. should *you* be earning enough money to satisfy those needs?

 

yes, I can, but after you've a family, there's other places that needs money.u need to feed the kids first, right?

 

I don't mind dating him,I like him. but he seems to be too serious...I'm afraid I'll hurt both of us later if I go for it now.

[Batya33]

Yes- that is true - but assuming he doesn't have the same needs as you do - i.e. the shopping/grooming budget - then that might need to come out of your savings/money.

 

It sounds like the money isn't the real issue here, anyway.

[ghost69]

whoa, u need money to be happy?