Should I change myself?

[lesterlau]

i love a girl.

Sadly, from one of her friends, i know that she does not like this type of boys.like me.

Now , i am confused.

should i change myself in order to suit her?

What will you guys do if u face the same occasion like me?

[lana111]

no, never change yourself to try and get someone to like you!

[tylercdurden2004]

i love a girl.

Sadly, from one of her friends, i know that she does not like this type of boys.like me.

Now , i am confused.

should i change myself in order to suit her?

What will you guys do if u face the same occasion like me?

 

Ok lets say you decide to change yourself. What would you be changing in particular?

[CrazyKing]

i love a girl.

Sadly, from one of her friends, i know that she does not like this type of boys.like me.

Now , i am confused.

should i change myself in order to suit her?

What will you guys do if u face the same occasion like me?

Dream on...

Sometimes we have to make the decissions in live to look for somebody else...

[SinfullySweet]

Don't change yourself.

If the feelings are mutual she won't care if you're her type. That was coming from her friends and they can only tell you what they think she usually goes for - only she can tell you if you're an exception.

How well do you know this girl?

[Blue Dreamer]

You are very welcome to change yourself. You are best to make change though to youself because you truly want to better yourself. Make sense??? Look at the long term effects of the potential change you want to make. If you see the long term effects as positive to you and those around you, go for it!!!!!!!!!! If you dont, you should be weary. Don't change yourself because you feel pressured by external influences, that includes a female you are attracted to!!!!

[lesterlau]

Don't change yourself.

If the feelings are mutual she won't care if you're her type. That was coming from her friends and they can only tell you what they think she usually goes for - only she can tell you if you're an exception.

How well do you know this girl?

 

I like your words...

it's encouraging. who can tell if i am an exception...

But, to answer your question, i acknowledge i did not know her too well

And, her best friend told me her point of view, it's really persuasive...

[lesterlau]

You are very welcome to change yourself. You are best to make change though to youself because you truly want to better yourself. Make sense??? Look at the long term effects of the potential change you want to make. If you see the long term effects as positive to you and those around you, go for it!!!!!!!!!! If you dont, you should be weary. Don't change yourself because you feel pressured by external influences, that includes a female you are attracted to!!!!

 

um...i do not know whether the changes i made is beneficial to myself in long term. i think she would love a big brother to take care of her, to let her rely on...actually, i think i am not good at that.

i do think that girl always like stronger person , who can protect them.

But at this point, i dont know what to do.It's so complicated to me..

sometimes, i will do some silly things to make them laugh. Maybe that will make them treat me as a funny guy, but not attractive. i dont know, i get used to this way.

[tylercdurden2004]

um...i do not know whether the changes i made is beneficial to myself in long term. i think she would love a big brother to take care of her, to let her rely on...actually, i think i am not good at that.

i do think that girl always like stronger person , who can protect them.

But at this point, i dont know what to do.It's so complicated to me..

sometimes, i will do some silly things to make them laugh. Maybe that will make them treat me as a funny guy, but not attractive. i dont know, i get used to this way.

 

Dude the last thing you want is for a girl to see you as a brother. That means you will be her shoulder to cry on etc and you will never get to consumate the relationship (ie have sex). If all you looking for is to be friends with than by all means act like her best friend and support network. But for her to be attracted to you and want something more she will have to see you for who you are.

 

I really do not recommend changing for her it will only turn her off. Trust me on that one. As well forget about what her friends say to you. How do you know this friend isnt attracted to you and is trying to sabotage the relationship by trying to get you to do somethign stupid. be proud of who you are and be happy with who you are. women love that.

[lesterlau]

i got what you mean.

Being myself is the best way to win a woman.

However, if i know what type of man she is interested in , and i am not that type, should i give up?Given that changing myself is useless....

it's a bit pitty...

And i believe what my friend said to me is TRUE...from her point of view

[tylercdurden2004]

i got what you mean.

Being myself is the best way to win a woman.

However, if i know what type of man she is interested in , and i am not that type, should i give up?Given that changing myself is useless....

it's a bit pitty...

And i believe what my friend said to me is TRUE...from her point of view

 

No you shouldnt "give up" nor should you go to great lengths to win this woman. Just be yourself. approach her and be assertive. Ask for what you want. Do you have her number yet?

 

If she doesnt like you well tough shizzle for her. By changing yourself you are letting yourself down. No matter how long you think you can keep that up it will I guarentee you come back to bite you in the butt.

[ghost69]

i love a girl.

Sadly, from one of her friends, i know that she does not like this type of boys.like me.

Now , i am confused.

should i change myself in order to suit her?

What will you guys do if u face the same occasion like me?

 

absolutely not. find someone that likes you for you.